New and needing help.

The only thing you can do at this point to make them LOOK better is use silicone products (like pantene conditioner, or any other conditioner that has a lot of words with "cone" at the end of them in the ingredients).  They will help the hair shaft lay flat to give it a little more shine.  Be aware that if you want to keep long hair that silicones can build up over time and make your hair break off (when the silicone coat on each hair gets old and starts to chip off it takes your hair with it).  So, if you're going to use silicones to improve your hair's looks, you should periodically remove the buildup to make sure your hair won't break off.  You can do this by using a clarifying shampoo once every 2 weeks, or a diluted vinegar rinse every week. 

Unfortunately, after it's damaged there's not much you can do to fix it or mend it other than cutting it off (you can do that slowly at least by only cutting off a half inch a month...you won't see any growth in your hair since it likely only grows a half inch a month, but you can keep the same length until the damage grows out).  Silicones don't work for everyone also, you will just have to try it and see.  Good luck, and congratulations on your wedding.