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    Posted: January 06 2006 at 12:33pm

1. HAVE A FATHER AND A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM!

2. KNOW HOW TO RESPECT THEIR OWN AFRICAN AMERICAN CULTURE

3. KNOW THAT WHITE PEOPLE USE THEM TO DEGRADE BLACK MEN

4. DON'T COMPETE WITH ME OR BE COMBATIVE

5. UNDERSTAND THAT BLACK MEN ARE DISCRIMINATED AGAINST NO MATTER HOW HARD THEY TRY.

6. KNOW THAT THEY HAVE MANY ROLE MODELS AND A LONG HISTORY OF FAVORTISM BY WHITE IDEOLOGY OVER BLACK MEN.

7. A WOMAN THAT IS NATURAL (NO WEAVE OR FAKENESS PERIOD!)

8. KNOW HOW TO COOK HEALTHY FOOD



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do u want to know wha we look for in a wife or just things relationg to black history ect
waveing is mental a barrier u must over come

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It's 2006 a New Year. Do you want the same qualities that black women had in the past 10-15 years considering the high divorce rate and selling out of the Black Man for government checks or do you want them to be different.

(Think about all the problems our children have because of our mothers and their behaviors, putting careers over family, putting down our father constantly, not telling the truth about their relationship with our father, having no pride in Black Men, letting daycare raise their children instead of them, spending childsupport checks on weave and hair styles, the list goes on for these independent mothers who claim to care so much)

What qualities do you want in a wife considering the history of Black Women????



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1. She has to be smart and know about different cultures (whether she be black, white, asian, or latin)

2. Know how to cook (I can burn but this wouldn't hurt)

3. Nice body (In shape)

4. Speaks her mind (I hate when women are submissive)

5. Be spritual

6. Be independant (Be able to hold down a job on her own)

7. Has goals in life

8. Takes care of herself (hygiene and style wise )

9. Treats me with the same respect I give her. I believe they are queens and should be treated like one, but if I feel as though you cant respect me 2 begin with it wont work out.

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well mike im a college studen right now sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
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I mean im in high school so I think he's talking bout what kind of chick would u settle down with. In the future
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lilkeke you are in HS?  wow!  You really have your head on straight and seem to be a very intelligent, mature young man.  You won't have any problem finding the wifey of your dreams.  Ha! I thought you were around my age (21)
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Naa i just turned 17 a couple of months. Yea a lot of people think im older than i am bc i dont act or talk like most 17 years olds.

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I didn't either. and shoot I don't now
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Originally posted by Sistaslick Sistaslick wrote:

lilkeke you are in HS?  wow!  You really have your head on straight and seem to be a very intelligent, mature young man.  You won't have any problem finding the wifey of your dreams.  Ha! I thought you were around my age (21)

Notice his head is on straight when he says things that sound Eurocentric.

Notice his AGE (Have anyone notice how there has been a rash of issues with older women and young fatherless males? They molest them because they have not been taught anything YET, then they get pregnant by them).

 

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Originally posted by Sistaslick Sistaslick wrote:

You won't have any problem finding the wifey of your dreams. 

He is not going to have a problem because the competition is for MEN not for Women. Women are a dime a dozen. He can take his time and pick the BEST ONE for him.  

So no matter what his views is, he will still find a wifey, they are everywhere. FACT!

The hard part is will wifey change, get fat, stop cooking, stop respecting him, start listening to her friends, put MONEY over family, and start following white people around like a puppy instead of being the African Queen that we all know she can be.  



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THE PRESS

Study finds girls molest young boys

THE PRESS, NZ, By TIM HUME, July 1, 2004

Researchers into sexual abuse by girls say female sexual offending is chronically under-reported and specialised rehabilitation programmes are urgently needed.

Findings released yesterday from New Zealand's first study into adolescent female sexual offending reported a "culture of denial" about female sexual offending, which allowed adolescent female
abusers to molest young, usually male, victims without repercussion.

If not rehabilitated, female abusers would most likely continue to offend and eventually pose a threat to their own children.

The survey of 400 health, mental health and related professionals identified eight young women in Christchurch currently aged between 12 and 19 who had sexually abused. It identified other female
abusers older than 19, who were excluded from the results.

Lead researcher Nikki Evans, from the University of Canterbury's social work department, said there was "an enormous amount of minimisation" surrounding sexual abuse by females, which meant it was usually not reported by victims, families or health professionals.

"People find it really difficult to perceive young women engaging in sexually abusive behaviours; it goes against the idea of women as nurturers," she said.

Research showed many people, including mental health professionals, perceived female sexual offending as not abusive or harmful.

"If a young girl abuses a 12-year-old boy it's seen as an initiation and a positive thing, rather than something traumatic," Evans said.

Researcher Don Mortensen, manager of the STOP Trust, which runs rehabilitation programmes for adult, adolescent and child sexual abusers, said society had been slow to acknowledge that sexual abuse by females was equally as destructive as that perpetrated by men.

STOP commissioned the research as a feasibility study into establishing the country's first rehabilitation programme for adolescent female abusers.

In nearly all of the eight Christchurch cases, the girls' victims were well known to them. Most were siblings or foster siblings. Peers at school and other neighbourhood children they were babysitting were also abused.

"They're abusing within the context of a relationship. We know that sort of abuse is the most difficult context (for the victim)," Evans said.

Their victims were always younger, and typically male. Three abused children aged between one and five years old.

The number of victims for each girl ranged between one and five, although Evans said the true numbers may be higher due to under-reporting.

The girls' average age was now 16 but several had been pre-teens when they started abusing.

None were reported to the youth justice system or referred to specialist treatment programmes.

"That suggests their offending was not prioritised, which reflects the general view in the community," Evans said.

There was a pressing need to treat adolescent female offenders because females who had been sexually abused were more likely to become teenage mothers, she said.



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Originally posted by lilkeke918 lilkeke918 wrote:

I mean im in high school so I think he's talking bout what kind of chick would u settle down with. In the future

Good answer! Go to school and skip the females. They are a dime a dozen.

Get an education and learn what makes a good wife for you first. HIGHSCHOOL DOES NOT TEACH YOU ANYTHING ABOUT A WIFE.

Go to college and SEE what women are being taught. SEE that it is total MALE BASHING FOOLISHNESS.

Don't let some female tell you what's good for YOU. They don't know JACK about Black MEN because they live in a DIFFERENT WORLD THAN us Black MEN.



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Originally posted by BIGGMike BIGGMike wrote:

Originally posted by Sistaslick Sistaslick wrote:

lilkeke you are in HS?  wow!  You really have your head on straight and seem to be a very intelligent, mature young man.  You won't have any problem finding the wifey of your dreams.  Ha! I thought you were around my age (21)

Notice his head is on straight when he says things that sound Eurocentric.

Notice his AGE (Have anyone notice how there has been a rash of issues with older women and young fatherless males? They molest them because they have not been taught anything YET, then they get pregnant by them).

I said his head was on straight because most black male youths are talking about their latest booty conquest or the next one.  His head is on straight because he is respectful of himself and of others.  Nothing he said sounds Eurocentric to me--unless human equality, respect, and understanding are considered Eurocentric?

And to the second part, I can feel what you are saying biggmike-- someone with his type of demeanor is desirable to women of any age.  I guess I could see how older women would appreciate him as well after they've been burned by the others out there... but he seems (from what I've read at least) to be the kind a guy to be able to differentiate the women (older and younger) with alterior motives from the ones who are genuinely interested in him  . . .when the time comes.

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Originally posted by BIGGMike BIGGMike wrote:

Originally posted by Sistaslick Sistaslick wrote:

You won't have any problem finding the wifey of your dreams. 

He is not going to have a problem because the competition is for MEN not for Women. Women are a dime a dozen. He can take his time and pick the BEST ONE for him.  

I agree.  The competition is definitely for men, and the really good ones are hard to find.  But on the flip side... though there is competition for black men...good black men . . . it tends to cause the ladies to cross racial barriers to find the man for them.  Not the case for all interracial relationships, though.

I was married pretty early on, so I haven't really had to deal with the "Where's all the men" stuff, but I have female family members who are approaching their 30's and still haven't found "the one."  Sadly, I don't know if they ever will.  One is very close and this man has a Ph.D in physics, he's an active member of the church, and is very family oriented.  Basically a dream catch.  The only issue is that she has her own business that she built from scratch and he wants her to drop it and move with him to start their lives.  He can't move at all b/c of the nature of his job and the pay!  She doesn't want to leave either, but I think she is starting to feel just what you said above... if she won't move, someone else will.  I know if it were me, I'd be packing up  I mean sometimes you have to be flexible.  It won't be easy, but she can always relocate her business if she really loves this man.  You have to think about your family at some point.

 

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Oh, Ok. Family is more important than anything else. Americans are caught up with this whole thing about independence, and it shows in the rearing of children and high drug abuse, crime rate, and imprisonment rate of Black Males. No one every thinks about how their choices will affect the MALES in the family.

It's time out for this kind of thinking if the Black race is going to survive into the future.

In Texas Mexicans stick together. The Women respect their husbands and the family stay together. They practice old traditional values that keep the family together, not this competion thing that goes on in the Black community that the so called "Backbone" is carrying out. 

Mexicans in Texas are now out doing African Americans in politics, family values, church participation, owning their own homes and businesses, and soon will be the majority. I'm glad, at lease they have family values that the others don't have. So I know Hispanics know where African American Men are comming from.

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Originally posted by BIGGMIKE BIGGMIKE wrote:

In Texas Mexicans stick together. The Women respect their husbands and the family stay together. They practice old traditional values that keep the family together, not this competion thing that goes on in the Black community that the so called "Backbone" is carrying out. 

Mexicans in Texas are now out doing African Americans in politics, family values, church participation, owning their own homes and businesses, and soon will be the majority. I'm glad, at lease they have family values that the others don't have. So I know Hispanics know where African American Men are comming from.

Being in Houston, I have to second that one.  The hispanic family unit is very tight.  Many of the families have family owned businesses that they pass down from father to son from generation to generation.  It could be as small as a lawnmowing business or a small restaurant.  I mean as far as them obtaining some high level of academic achievement and educational power, I can't say that I am seeing much of that from either gender... they may be in some of the lower income brackets but it is definitely rare to see the families split up. 

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Originally posted by BIGGMike BIGGMike wrote:

Originally posted by sjay sjay wrote:

^kanye is a voice for many ppl. he says things that many are scared to say through a media that connects with younger ppl. ie... rap

This is true. He is a voice for many people.

Look at the things I say, am I afraid to say what is true?

Some people are afraid to say the things Kanye or I say. So Kanye West is the voice of many people. Some people fear what will happen to them if the speak the truth.

I don't fear anybody but God. That's why I say what I feel is true. I know some people don't like me for this. They didn't like MLK or Malcolm either. That's why they hate on me. Let them hate on me, I'm gonna keep telling you YOUNG MEN THE TRUTH so you can be free and survive in this messed up world. Think about it.

 



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Holy Bible = Submit, Respect,

African Culture = Submit, Family Values, Traditions, Pride

American Culture = Divorce, Division, Slavery of Africans, Destroy African Culture

The choice is Yours.

 I choose Africa, Home of Great African Kings and Queens. Home of the First Man.



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The red, black and green flag was created by the members of the Universal Negro Improvement Association and African Communities League at their convention held in Madison Square Garden on August 13, 1920.

The three colors represent:

  • red: the noble blood that unites all people of African ancestry;
  • black: black people whose dignity is upheld by the existence of the flag; and
  • green: the abundant natural wealth of the Motherland, Africa.

The flag was created by the members of the UNIA in response to a racist song written in 1900 entitled "The Only Race without a Flag is the Coon"; the song was written by Will A. Heelan and J. Fred Helf and popular in the U.S. and Britain.

The flag later became a black nationalist symbol for the liberation African people everywhere. Its colors can be seen in the flags of a number of African nations.

"The RED, BLACK and GREEN Flag was unveiled to the world by the Honorable Marcus Mosiah Garvey and the members of the Universal Negro Improvement Association and African Communities League, of the World at its first international convention on August 13, 1920. The UNIA-ACL knew that Africans at home and abroad needed their own flag as other flags around the world could not represent the collective of African people.

The use of Red, Black and Green as colors symbolizing African nationhood was first "adopted by the UNIA-ACL as part of the 1920 Declaration of Rights as the official colors of the African race. The question of a flag for the race was not as trivial as might have appeared on the surface, for in the United States especially, the lack of an African symbol of nationhood seems to have been cause for crude derision on the part of whites and a source of sensitivity on the part of Afro-Americans. White derision over this deficiency was summed up in a popular American song, "Every Race Has a Flag But the 'Coon.'" A 1912 report apearing in the Africa Times and Orient Review (for which Marcus Garvey worked) doc*mented the far-reaching consequences of this song. In 1921 he declared,

"Show me the race or the nation without a flag, and I will show you a race of people without any pride. Aye! In song and mimicry they have said, "Every race has a flag but the coon." How true! Aye! But that was said of us four years ago. They can't say it now...." -Marcus Garvey

The race catechism Garveyites used explained the significance of the red, black, and green as for the "color of the blood which men must shed for their redemption and liberty", black for "the color of the noble and distinguished race to which we belong," and green for "the luxuriant vegetation of our Motherland."3

A flag must represent the standard by which its people live. Thus, the Universal African Flag, the 52nd Article of the Declaration of Rights of the Negro Peoples of the World was ratified in convention.

There has been a great deal of talk and controversy over the origin, creation and use of the Red, Black and Green. The UNIA hopes that this controversy can be clarified once and for all.

There was no Red, Black and Green Flag prior to the coming of the Honorable Marcus Garvey and the founding of the UNIA. Today there are many African Nations that have adopted the colors Red, Black and Green after the great Marcus Garvey and his program of African Redemption. Any one claiming the creation of the Red, Black and Green is historically incorrect. The UNIA organization will make every attempt to clear up any misunderstandings about the matter concerning the Red, Black and Green. Further confusion can be misleading to the masses of Blacks throughout the country and the world.

The following paragraph is the official historical creation and usage of the Red, Black and Green:

Notice to the General Public: The UNIA in 1920 in international convention adopted the Red, Black and Green as its official colors and emblem of the Black people of the world. This flag has been flown upside down contrary to the intention of Marcus Garvey and the UNIA who gave it to the world. It is unlawful, disrespecful and traitorous for any individual or group to add any other colors to the Red, Black and Green for any other purpose. Individuals or groups doing so are not true nationalist, and should not be recognized as such.
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