I can generally reshape my hair on a bad hair day with a little bit of wax. If it is really not doing well I just make it really messy.
I have to admit I did start paying more attention to make up and earrings when I cut my hair short. Not out of any kind of need to assert my femininity but because since it really showed up better I enjoyed playing around with different looks. It was sort of like having a new canvas to work with. I have had short hair for about seven years now and I am still having fun with make up and earrings. It doesn't affect my choice of clothing at all.
Kuroneko, I like your new picture. You look very different.
"It is better to look marvelous than to feel marvelous" Billy Crystal
It's only hair. Hair today gone today / back in three months to another style. If you have bad hair days just deal with it as life. Change or Stay. No matter what kind of day we may have waking up in the morning is a great day. Long or short hair. It does not matter to me.
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I'm not a make-up girl, so I seldom wear more than a little lip gloss, unless it's a special occasion (or sometimes if I know I'll be in pictures). With earrings, I can wear anything from tiny studs to dangly chandeliers, depending on my mood. Sometimes I'll wear hair accessories like clippies, pins, bands, etc. and sometimes I'll go plain. I'm not really concerned with whether people see me as feminine or masculine, though. *shrugs* I'll just be myself without worrying about anyone else's expectations.
On the original topic, what I do on bad hair days varies with how bad a hair day it is. If there's just a random bit standing up here and there I'll stick it down with a little gel or pin it down with a clip. If it's too bad for that I might wear a hat or wig. If it's really bad and I have a little more time, sometimes I'll give it a quick wash and start over from a clean slate.
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I agree with sanfran about the makeup, ever since I got my haircut short I've liked to play around with makeup more...
that doesn't mean I think I need it any more, it's just the makeup looks so much more vibrant and fresh with a short cut! My face is out there, and I like to see it dressed up sometimes and I really think that short hair is great for people who like to play with makeup
I appreciate that... even worse, though - its a man
That's actually what I thought. You didn't specify, so I didn't make assumptions.
I hope the comments disappear quickly. If not, document everything -- the exact time and place where the comment was given, what the comment was, and who was around when it was uttered.
Snuggles,
They are right. If he continues bothering you, that could be considered
religious harassment. You could talk to a lawyer and he could be in
trouble for that.
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And that's supposed to be Christian behavior? However, more to the point, a co-worker should not be making any personal comments to you at all, especially negative ones. In fact, many would deem that harassment, and you should not have to put up with it. If the person says that you are somehow going against God's word, you could also label the harassment as religious, as well.
I'm sorry that you have to be exposed to someone who is such a total a--hole. You're a very pretty girl, no matter what length of hair you have.
I appreciate that... even worse, though - its a man Personally, I could care less. I actually told him to go f*** himself - in those exact words. :D Later it was just kinda like... gee, boss man = I just don't know what got into me !!!
Haha!
Claude,
Yes, if she is so proud of her long hair, and so arrogant and self-righteous towards others, that just might do the trick!
Anne,
The women I know with short hairstyles don't feel in any way inferior or less feminine than long haired women, because they know
they are not less attractive or less feminine. They just like dolling
themselves up and looking feminine and beautiful.
But I have always lived in major metropolitan areas where a sizeable percentage of the women wear short hairstyles.
After my recent cut, I have a hispanic christian fundamentalist I work with (that section of christianity maintains rules on appearance, including that women should wear their hair long, never cut it, and wear skirts) remind me everyday about how unattractive I am now.
And that's supposed to be Christian behavior? However, more to the point, a co-worker should not be making any personal comments to you at all, especially negative ones. In fact, many would deem that harassment, and you should not have to put up with it. If the person says that you are somehow going against God's word, you could also label the harassment as religious, as well.
I'm sorry that you have to be exposed to someone who is such a total a--hole. You're a very pretty girl, no matter what length of hair you have.
SanFranBrent wrote:
However, just about every short haired woman I have known, (with a few exceptions), gets very into dressing feminine and really dolling themselves up.
The underlying reason is what's important. They should never be made to feel as though they have to do it because their natural beauty without much hair hair isn't enough, but that's the message that a lot of women receive. They should feel beautiful and confident about their hair without a lot of extra cosmetics.
Snuggles.
If that fundamentalist religious woman is giving you a bad time, or
insinuating that you are less attractive, I would tell her to shove it.
She seems like she belongs to one of those cult-like, religious nutcase churches.
If she keeps bothering you, tell her she is a religious nutcase who
belongs to an absurd religious cult. Maybe then she won't be rude to you like
that.
What you ladies say is true, a short haired woman is just as feminine
and attractive as a long haired woman, sometimes even more so, without
dressing ultra-feminine or always wearing makeup and jewelry.
However, just about every short haired woman I have known, (with a few
exceptions), gets very into dressing feminine and really dolling
themselves up.
The short haired women I know rarely go out without their makeup
on, without a pair of earrings, they often wear dresses or skirts,
etc..
It just sort of comes with the territory. I don't believe it is to
compensate for not having long hair, I believe it is because you can
see a woman's feminine features so well without
long hair in the way, that these short haired ladies like to accentuate
their femininity, and some of these short haired women look adorable
all dolled up.
At any rate, for whatever reason, I enjoy it.
To me their is nothing more sexy and beautiful than an attractive
feminine woman with a short hairstyle all dolled up in a beautiful,
feminine fashion style.
Edited by SanFranBrent - July 16 2006 at 9:24pm
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I agree, Anne. I've bouyed, over the last 6 years or so from extremely long hair to very short (I've never felt that either is really any more flattering for me, in particular). After my recent cut, I have a hispanic christian fundamentalist I work with (that section of christianity maintains rules on appearance, including that women should wear their hair long, never cut it, and wear skirts) remind me everyday about how unattractive I am now.
To each his own - when its 100 degrees outside and it takes you an hour with a hot iron and blow dryer to complete your style, it gets old.
To answer your original question, for an uncooporative hair day, I tend to just let it go the naturally curly is :) If its an especially bad day, some hair clips or a barely-there ponytail work just as well :)
The short haired women in particullar really get into dolling themselves up. They take longer to get ready than some of the long haired ones do! Because their face, ears, etc. isn't covered by hair, they have to make certain their pretty faces look good.
This is perplexing. If women feel confident and feminine in their short hair (and they should), why do they feel (or be made to feel) compelled to wear more make-up and jewelry? Their short hair is supposed to make them feel good about themselves, not make them feel like they have to go to extra lengths to look pretty. Yet, in many magazines, there are articles about how to make short hair look feminine. If I wore short hair, I'd be insulted.
Women seem to be getting two messages: 1) cut your hair because you'll look so beautiful and feminine, but 2) because of the loss of hair, be sure to wear lots of make-up and jewelry, and wear a dress and heels so we won't forget you're a woman.
It just doesn't make sense. Feminine and beautiful hair, whatever the length or style, should make a woman look and feel her best without making her feel she has compromised her attractiveness.
Anne,
I am in the process of growing my hair long, and I have had long
hair before. So I know what long haired men and women go through.
What really takes women so long to get ready though is shaving their
legs and putting on their eyeliner, mascara, makeup, lipstick.
The short haired women in particullar really get into dolling
themselves up. They take longer to get ready than some of the long
haired ones do! Because their face, ears, etc. isn't covered by hair,
they have to make certain their pretty faces look good.
It depends how short of a hairstyle you wear. If it is an ultra-short pixie, it is too short to have a bad hair day, assuming you wash it so it looks clean.
That's true, when there's not even enough hair to style, then it will always look the same. That's probably why a lot of short-haired men don't understand why some women take longer in the bathroom! No doubt that real short styles don't require much time.
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