male up do-ed for wedding

I am a bit of late comer to this thread as a newcomer to this group, being it's June already, but have some thoughts in case there's still time for consideration.  The fact you are in the wedding party is key here, and agree with Jenny that you don't want to distract from the Bride and Groom.  I also noted that you are in the process of growing your hair out so the Groom is only familiar with you with more conservative hair styling, and he has certain expectations of your "look" when you were invited, therefore is critical you check with him on any major different look you might present.  You mentioned checking with him beforehand that that should take care of that exact concern.

 

The other is the general style of the Groom and Bride, the other Groom's men, plus those of guests.  Are these people more conservative in style and outlook...if so be a bit more conservative such as with the style of the length indicated on: http://www.hairstyles-pictures.com/medium-hair.html.  If a bit more casual and "out there" sort of people then loosen up a bit more with a more feminine look and again see how liberal the other Groomsmen are going to be, and only try to go one step more pretty in your hair styling.  The fact is that depending on one's facial look (features and smoothness)  the same hairstyle can be more feminine looking or reasonably masculine, or blended.  It's the overall effect (combination of facial and even body factors) that is most important. 

 

There is a critical area that I don't think gets enough, or any, attention on this hair site regarding men's more feminine hair styles, and that is of the facial appearance.  What might look "shaggy" on a man with more masculine or rough features and skin, might look more "matched" with a guy with neater features and smoother skin, plus "feature definition" meaning sometimes very light makeup can help pull a facial look all together. 

 

I strongly suggest very lightly applied transparent foundation, maybe use a light brow pencil (with perhaps a little clean up of stray hairs or mild shaping first), faint eye liner, and a blotted lip gloss, maybe even very faint check powder for just a touch of health color for overall balance.  Nothing should be too obvious, or feminine, but just enough to help define one's features a bit better, and the overall effect often can turn a "shaggy" look to a more congruent look.  So a slightly more feminine style will be more in balance with your overall appearance.  Also try to balance with perhaps matching small ear studs (set), and if possible and have some choice a more softer clothing choice such as the shirt/blouse to go with it.  The idea is to create an overall softer look than have say just your hair stand out as over-styled.  You can try any interesting more obviously feminine styles for other events when you will not be in such a formal role, or be seen by so many people at once, especially the first time in showing a more softer side of you. 

 

If you have enough time now before the wedding, I would strongly suggest practicing various looks and give your cosmotolgy student friend some time to practice different hair styles and even light makeup, again for proper balance and just "good" smooth skin (even men looks do this these days) styles on you beforehand, and even try some out in public.  If your interests go beyond just this one event then you can experiment in other venues and in private and even in public.

 

I wish your the best and that the wedding goes off smoothly with the most major concern being the comfort and needs of the Bride and Groom.  BTW, I have known that sometimes that teenagers and younger softer looking men sometimes have filled in as Bridesmaids and looked very good doing so!  So don't be surprised if next time, if your look is "good" that you might be asked to fill in on that side of the isle!

 

Good choosing and luck to you.  And please post an update on your plans, and if the wedding has already been held then how it went.  Thanks.