dry uncooporative hair

Ok so I have had it with my hair. Why you ask? Well, let me tell you. My hair is very dry for starters. I mean I get out of the shower and within 3 minutes its bone dry. Secondly its very thick, which I wouldn't mind if it didn't do what it wanted. Also I have two very prominent cowlicks that I have been able to somewhat tame using a new shampoo and conditioner. Lastly not matter what I do to my hair it seems to revert back into a bowl looking thing on top of my head. I hope someone can help me figure out what to do with this mess, because I am done fighting it. The only idea that I am not open is putting a lot of gel and stuff in it.

p.s. I shower everyday and shampoo and condition my hair everyday as well.