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I'll tell you what I did when I got my bob.  My hair was about shoulder length after cutting it from midback length--I think I had a easier route than you since I was going shorter. (Most people commented that I had gotten my hair cut, not gotten it bobbed.)  I took in some pix of what I wanted, a few off the web (see www.coolbobs.com for zillions of images), showing the side view of the angle I wanted, the stacking in the back, overall length.  You would want to add pix of the bangs you want.  I searched around and found a young, female stylist in a small, 4-chair shop with dividers so it was somewhat private. I was lucky in that we had a blizzard that day and I and my stylist were the only ones in there!  I had checked her out on Facebook to see she was young and hip--you don't want to try to convince a guy or an older woman that you want a bob!  She should be "on your side"--she wants your business and wants to make you happy.

I have found that wearing a bob is no big deal.  I have never gotten a bad comment and have gotten some complements.  You just have to wear it with confidence and you will love it.  You have only one life--live yours and not theirs.

Do it!  Enjoy it!
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Ricc,
Thanks for your reply. I have my mind set on letting my hair grow so that I can have it cut in the style that I have always wanted, a jaw length bob with bangs. I'm sure I have some tough days ahead if the past is any indicator. I think I will have to have a couple of trims in between to keep my hair neat but I'm letting it grow. I can't wait to sit in the salon chair and tell the stylist that I want a feminine jaw length bob with bangs and I definitely can't wait to feel my bob swing when I turn my head. Oh and i take great care of my hair. I was and style it everyday. I'm going for the girls bob with bangs. Everyone please help me with support, styles, and tips/suggestions. Thanks
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Well, Jennifer, I've dealt with the "get a haircut" grinches several times over the years and I can give you some advice. People (especially negatively oriented people) are always going to respond to any change in your appearance. However, it doesn't last. After a time they get used to you looking different and hassling you about the same thing becomes boring.

How you respond to such remarks can make a difference. If you always frown and argue you're biting their bait. Just say nothing in response. Just look bored. Either walk away from them or move on to another topic. If they insist on talking about your hair, just say it's not an issue for discussion and you won't be talking about it anymore.

You can minimize such comments, too, by taking the effort to make sure your hair looks as good as possible all the time. This is tricky while growing hair out. Most people go through what's called an "awkward phase" with hair growing. I think the best solution for this is to just keep it out of the way as well as possible. Slick it back with gel, wear a headband or hat-- something. The good news is the awkward phase shouldn't last very long.

Just as soon as your hair reaches the right length, get a quality cut in a really good looking familiar style. It really doesn't matter if it's a men's or a women's style, in my experience. When you have a good hairstyle that fits your features well and you look good in a relatively common way, people tend to accept this as your look.

Give it another try and stick it out. I'm pretty sure you'll find it was worth bearing a couple of grouchy remarks.


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Thanks for the replies. Erica, I did ask a stylist once how I would look with a bob and she said my face and features were great for that style.that's one reason I am wanting to get one so bad.
Bobbed, you are lucky to have a great bob already. I want to be able to enjoy that feeling too, and the dressing up as well.
That said, nobody has offered any advice on how to deal with all the people that pressure me to get a haircut and what length and style bob is the most feminine and sexy.
I really need advice because I want to let my hair grow and finally get the feminine bob that I have always wanted.
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Since my last post a bit over a year ago I have continued to enjoy my angled, stacked bob.  I wear it down almost all the time, rarely tucking it back.  Since last summer I have added highlights, too.  Also, I have added earrings, usually wearing 2-inch hoops in the front holes and ball studs in the back ones.  I am straight and I do not act effeminate.  It is fun to enjoy this look!
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Unfortunately there will always be people who stick so strictly to gender norms and societal ideals that they will put down anyone who doesnt fit into what is expected. I agree that in most cases women can get away with shorter hair styles and they arent singled out as much for being masculine. The notion that men are supposed to be masculine is sometimes a lot stricter than women being feminine. Girls are allowed to be tom boyish and sporty without much ridicule.

 

In some cases though certain women are singled out for having a short masculine hairstyle, some ignorant people may look at them and automatically assume that they are lesbians or unfeminine which is totally unethical and just plain stupid. But people will judge no matter what so you have to do what makes you happy.

 

If the hairstyle suits your face and you like it then keep it! If you let every negative person out there influence what you did you would never live your life for YOU. I think some men look great with longer hair; some men have the face and bone structure to really pull of the longer styles.

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Hi everyone. I'm a guy (Jennifer is the fem name I like to use) and I have wanted for a while to grow my hair out and get it cut in a very feminine bob with bangs. I haven't because when my hair starts getting longer people tell me I need to go get a haircut and I cave in and do. I really want a feminine bob with bangs either chin length or earlobe length. What should I do? Does anyone have suggestions for how to deal with this and what would be the best most feminine bob with bangs cut to get?

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There are certainly distinct differences between masculine and feminine decor style, however, this does not mean that it is not possible to mix these two styles together to make a coherent living space.
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I have natural brown hair with highlights that only became evident once I let it grow out. The salon lady styled it into a pretty bob for me. She also waxed my eyebrows too. I love having the style and it makes me look much younger.
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Hi jamie, There is nothing wrong in being yourself. I was also in a dilemma about a couple of years before. but now i don't really care much about what others think. After all it is our life. below is my photo of hair.

have fun.

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Yes I am too pushing the limits with my bob but I love it. whats the name of the group your in on yahoo. I looked for it and couldnt find it. PM me your email and I will send you pics of my pretty fem bob
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Jamie-I agree and I am pushing the frontier with a bob!  You can see my basic cut in my avatar--the angle and stack are evident.  I am letting the front grow out, maybe an inch more, and angle it even more then.  Plus I may have the stacking dyed black instead of just a couple of shades darker than my normal.  I have lots of pix on the GuysWithBobs Group on Yahoo--are you a member of that group?
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Welcome to the bobbed guy club. I hope It grows because there is NOTHING wrong with a guy having a bob hairstyle. I have my hair cut in a feminine bob with bangs and I LOVE it. I love the way it looks and swings and my stylist said it fits my face shape.  I think we need to start a revolution about gender and hairstyles. Where I am from any guy that is remotely feminine is usaully looked down upon, but I have my hair cut in a girls earlobe length bob with bangs and im letting it grow some. I have an appt in 2 weeks and I am thinking of getting it cut in an angled bob with bangs. longer on the sides and graduated up a LITTLE in back and having the back stacked. I mean girls can wear their hair from LONG LONG to SHORT SHORT (even bald) so why cant guys have bob hairstyles right?
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I'm new to this forum but not new to long, feminine hair.  I have always had it since it became possible.  I am straight and married and my wife lets me have what I want!  I used to have waist-length hair for many years, with only slight changes.  I cut it back above shoulder length once to get a job but grew it back and have only had styling done occasionally since then.  I had feathered-back bangs cut in at one point and later had straight bangs, both times with the rest to my waist.

A little more than a year ago I got tired of the split ends, etc., and got my wife to chop it off to shoulder length.  We agreed it needed professional repair so I took my time to find a good stylist to have her give me an angled bob style.  Since then I added some stacking to the back and last time I had her color the stacking two shades darker for some kind of "lowlights" (I get her to color my gray roots each time).

I really enjoy the bob and although it draws some stares and double-takes occasionally, it is casually accepted by 99% of the people I encounter.  All my friends and co-workers are used to it now.  I wear it "down" almost always, only tucking it behind my ears for the most conservative occasions.  Yes--you really can wear a bob!
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I am soooo loving my hair in this fem earlobe length bob with bangs and clippered nape. I love the way it swings. Im going to let it grow some so next hair appt I will get it cut longer on the sides and getting shorter in back. Its going to be soooo fem.
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Glad you had a good time, Jamie. That's a great style for a growout, too. It should look good at every length. Long hair obviously isn't for everyone, but is certainly is a pleasure for those of us who love it-- guys included.
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Hey everyone. I went to the salon this past week and got a mani/pedi (with polish) and had my hair cut into a cute feminine earlobe length bob with bangs and clippered nape. I love it. I want it to grow out a little longer and that wont take long my hair grows fast. I had a blast at the salon. Girly stuff is soooo mch fun.
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Go Jamie!  You be yourself.  Your spouse will come around, especially if she knows it makes you happy. 
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Quite awhile back I wore mine sort of like that. I was sort of tiring of having my hair about elbow length and decided to go for a radical cut. I'd always liked the "wedge" style cut and so I went with that. It was basically a just over the ears banged paige, but with beveling to give it some width. I loved it, though it was a style I'd only seen on women. Later I grew it to below chin length, but kept the bangs. I kind of wanted to go completely blonde with it that way, but compromised and just did some light streaks.

 These days I wear it bangless one-length at almost my shoulders. I kind of miss bangs. They really make your hair look full in the front, hiding your hairline. I may go back to them sometime.
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Ok I went to the salon and straight out told the girl that I want a feminine girls bob, earlobe length with bangs and a stacked back. She said that length and style would look great on me and she cut my hair so that when it grows out a little (about 1 to 2 months worth) it will be a one length earlobe length bob with bangs. Right now its more like a bowl cut with bangs as I let the sides grow longer but the back is there. SOON I will have a fem earlobe length bob with bangs MMMMMMMMM can't wait.
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