Wear it for?

I am new to the site and certainly do not want to get involved in the current discussion - I do have a question concerning a person's hair. Who do you feel you should wear a particular hairstyle for? (yourself, other people, a combination...) Don't answer yet. My wife and I have a difference of opinion. I believe that a person should wear his/her hair to best please your spouse/friends... to a high degree. If a particular style is best suited for that person (which is "backed up" by other people's opinion) shouldn't you tell that person and encourage her to try it?Wouldn't the "compliments" from friends... serve a purpose to boost confidence? I certainly see her side, to some degree. She believes it should be up to the individual - to what that person feels most comfortable with. Unfortunately, when I don't "drool" over her chosen hairstyle she gets mad. When she wears a hairstyle I really like on her and "drool" she gets mad because she doesn't like the hairstyle and doesn't want me to show how much I like it. We have tried to find a compromise but she can't find a style she likes. Sorry I rambled so long but I feel you got the "jest" of it - curious to see the opinions of others.

Hi, RiverRat!I like that handle very much. Your question is interesting and I think I would say something between you and your wife.I pretty much make decisions about hairstyles on my own. However, knowing that I can get into hair ruts, among other things:), I definitely take the opinions of real friends into great consideration. I can say that I probably never would have worn my hair up if it had not been for a great friend of mine who said she liked my hair way up high because she could see how long my neck was. That put a real smile on my face.I am sure that your wife will find a style which she really likes. It can take time, but it can be fun just exploring.Please continue to post.All the best to you and your wife,Jade21I am new to the site and certainly do not want to get> involved in the current discussion - I do have a> question concerning a person's hair. Who do you feel> you should wear a particular hairstyle for? (yourself,> other people, a combination...) Don't answer yet. My> wife and I have a difference of opinion. I believe> that a person should wear his/her hair to best please> your spouse/friends... to a high degree. If a> particular style is best suited for that person (which> is "backed up" by other people's opinion)> shouldn't you tell that person and encourage her to> try it?> Wouldn't the "compliments" from friends...> serve a purpose to boost confidence? I certainly see> her side, to some degree. She believes it should be up> to the individual - to what that person feels most> comfortable with. Unfortunately, when I don't> "drool" over her chosen hairstyle she gets> mad. When she wears a hairstyle I really like on her> and "drool" she gets mad because she doesn't> like the hairstyle and doesn't want me to show how> much I like it. We have tried to find a compromise but> she can't find a style she likes. Sorry I rambled so> long but I feel you got the "jest" of it -> curious to see the opinions of others.

Very interesting question. I'm surprised you haven't received a number of responses with the knee-jerk reaction of "it's solely the choice of the individual". I'm not saying that's the wrong reaction, but there is a bit more to the question than that. To show what I'm getting at, let me highlight a section where you said:> Unfortunately, when I don't "drool" over her chosen> hairstyle she gets mad. When she wears a hairstyle I> really like on her and "drool" she gets mad because she> doesn't like the hairstyle and doesn't want me to show how> much I like it. To be quite honest, not many people wear their hair in a style that only they like. They've usually gotten at least one compliment or word of encouragement for the style they've chosen or have copied it from another source, guaranteeing that they aren't the only person with it. And that's all they need. Not to say that there aren't those that don't care at all, but they are in the minority.This illustrates the quandry of the average person. Since most folks have a desire appear attractive, by definition it becomes difficult to choose a style completely independent of outside influence. Sure you make like a style, but if no one else likes it, it takes a strong person to maintain the style and most will probably end up changing it. Not that that's wrong - it's just what most folks would do. Most will choose a style that they like and that at least some friends, family members, etc. have indicated that they like as well.Reading back a bit, I think I'm straying from my point, though I think you see where I'm heading. Essentially what I'm getting at is that if Mrs. RiverRat finds a style attractive, it isn't fair to RiverRat to require that he like it any more than the opposite is true. I'm sure there is a compromise out there somewhere. However, I'd still say you have to please yourself first.Many times, Mrs. Flea asks my opinion on her outfit because she isn't sure she likes it. I've learned that no matter what I say, if she doesn't feel good in it she won't wear it. Same goes for hairstyle. Most folks are harder on themselves that those around them. So if you don't like it and feel comfortable with it, then it really doesn't matter what everyone else says.Hoping he didn't stray too far from his point,JerkyFleaRelated Link:JerkyFlea's Celebrity Hair Spray

I agree wholeheartedly with your comments!> I've learned that> no matter what I say, if she doesn't feel good in it> she won't wear it. Same goes for hairstyle. Most folks> are harder on themselves that those around them. So if> you don't like it and feel comfortable with it, then> it really doesn't matter what everyone else says.Exactly. *How* we feel about ourselves is usually the image we project. If we feel beautiful and sexy, then we usually appear that way! If we feel dowdy, then we usually look that way. I once saw a young woman (I'm guessing age 16 or 17) at a formal event who was genetically very beautiful. She had a great figure, beautiful face and hair, and wore a very attractive dress. By all accounts, she should have been a knock-out, but she wasn't. She walked around rather clumsily, kind of rolling her eyes at her friends as if to say, "Gee, I feel silly dressed like this." Therefore, she did look silly, not because of her appearance, but because of how she acted.With hair (and clothes and other physical accessories) ultimately, we must please ourselves, but we also need to be careful to wear what is appropriate in a certain situation. Let's say you needed surgery and you have an appointment with the surgeon, who is female. She has a beehive hairdo, shiny blue eye shadow, and long red fingernails. Right or wrong, I have to admit that I'd have little confidence in her! At a party, I would have no problem with her appearance (though I'm not terribly partial to beehives and blue eye shadow!!), but in a professional setting, it does not seem appropriate and detracts from the confidence she should be instilling in me with her professionalism.