10 year old fighting curly hair

There is another board/forum on this site called "Straight Talk ( Get the straight talk on hair straightening products & techniques )". There is a lot of good advice over there regarding straightening. You might want to scan those posts and search the old posts as well.

I don't know if thinning out would help - I'm not a hairdresser or anything. I think the best thing would be to ask a hairdresser. You might be able to find a hairdresser (or two) amongst the forums here at hairboutique.com as well.

Good luck.
Caramia

I'm 27 years old and have fought my natural curly locks since birth. I'm biracial, so my locks are dry thick and course. I had my hair chemically straighten by a professional (using relaxers) for years. The problem with my hair being straighten was that since i have curly hair, I had to have her put the relaxer on ALL of my hair even though it looked gorgous, it made it drier. (I know this because she once tried to only put in on the scalp and it ended up straight at the roots and wavy on the ends). I have to say though, personally I get more complaments on my hair now(I let it curl back up) than I did when it was straight.

If she MUST get it straighten get it done by someone who knows what their doing. Try a stylist who works on ethnic hair, they know what chemicals to use for relaxing curls.

I strongly recommend though that you try to wait as long as possible, chemically straightening my hair has thinned mine out, I did it from 1994-1999. My stylist told me since my hair was so thick she had to apply relaxers every 6-8 weeks on the whole head instead of every 6-8 weeks on only the new growth. That made my hair thin. I'm not going bald are anything like that, but my hair is not a thick as it used to be.

I now wear it curly and long. Maybe to my bra strap, remeber the longer your hair is when it is curly the more it pulls down and the eaiser it is to tame. I used Pantene Hydrating Curls Shampoo and Conditioner. I then comb it out with a wide tooth comb, and use a thick moussee like Rave, or Sauve (make sure what you use has little or not alcohol, it makes your hair frizz) run the wide tooth comb through it again to seperate the curls and then try Making Waves Curl Defining Texturizer, by Graham Webb ( Found in Salons, kind of expensive) Use a little of this, its like a gel, it holds the curls together wonderfully!

Another thing, Please do not take her to get her hair "thinned out". I did that once also and it was a disaster!! They take these shears and it cuts the inner layers of your hair. I had little hairs sticking up all over my head for like a year while I let it grow back.

Let me know what you decide to do!!

i remember when i was her age/younger now im 13
sumtimes curly hair can be a total drag but i wouldent let her do it perminatly only because 1 day she will love it i mean look at all the hott styles they have just let it grow in time she will come out of the habit of hateing it i kno i did i used to cry to my mom in the tub saying it wasent long she would wet it an pull it then it would be long (lol) but at the age of 6/ or 7 i started getting complaments on how beautiful my hair was and all thats when i learned to luv it anyways if she really wants it straightend try buying one of thos straighteners my friends all use then and im planing on buying 1 for me for x-mas hope i have helped

~shirley curly~

I have a 10 year old daughter also who has BEAUTIFUL, thick, long, wavy, flaxen hair. I have very curly/kinky hair and have fought with it my whole life. My daughter's dad has straight hair so in my opinion she got the best of both worlds. She absolutely HATES her hair!! She says it's "puffy" and wants it poker straight like all the kids in her grade who have lank, lifeless (awful) hair!! She wears it in a ponytail constantly and I am always begging her to take the ponytail out and let her beautiful hair flow. On special occasions I will flat iron it for her and she looks very much like Avril Lavigne then, and loves it. I swear that when she's older she will love her hair, but then again - we don't appreciate what we have, do we? As for me, I've been struggling with the decision as to whether to have my hair permanently straighened with a Japanese perm. I can't imagine what it's like when the roots grow out wavy, then curly. Then there's the fact that I am 50% grey and those roots will show up a lot more quickly once my hair is straight. My boyfriend prefers it straight so I'm tempted to do it permanently, but in the meantime I just ordered the full range of Ouidad products from the website someone noted above. I'll let you know how it goes...

Just found this site today and am enjoying the reading...and also knowing that I'm not alone. Our hair so important to us...silly, but true!!!