Argh, my hair is impossible to shape!

Okay, im an Asian guy with short hair around 5cm long evenly...

I`ve tried a few different products, like the Salon Selectives stuff in the green container, LaCoupe Pomade (which ive been using for awhile now), and most recently, i got one of the L`Oreal SpecialFX OUT OF BED goopy stuff...

My hair is pretty stiff, and doent like getting pushed around, and it takes quite of styling stuff to get it almost like how i want it (probably about half a teaspoon of the Pomade/Goop, but more gel, i rarely use gel though, as it has less styling ability than anytnig)

I cant for the life of me get nice defined textured, loose, kinda messy hair:





(MARK, THE GUY IN THE BLUE)

(MARK, GUY ON THE TOP LEFT)

Any advice? What should i use? How can i style it like that?

Thanks alot peoples! :)