conformists duke?!?!?!

its not my style to argue on a msg board, but come on, is the world still this sexist??!?! girls with short hair are conformist eh? "everyone" isnt getting short haircuts, there is still a fair share of girls w/long and medium length hair. long hair or short hair is a preference for males or females. some girls would never in their life have short hair, while others wouldnt dare to have long hair. some guys find long hair sexy, some guys love short hair. but whats most important is what the person whos hair it is, is most happy with. a girl with long hair might be beautiful to you, but would she be as pretty when she is complaining all the time about it, and how she would love to have something more manageable? would she be beautiful then? wouldnt you rather be with a girl who is confident in herself and fun? its very simple, do what you want with your hair, after all, it is YOUR hair. and actually my hair always used to be below my shoulders, and it seems kinda funny that more guys notice me and my hair when its short then when its long. which is proof that not all guys like long hair, and guys do find short hair sexy. and a girls first concern when cutting or not cutting her hair, shouldnt be if she would get more attention, or if more guys would or wouldnt like her. do it for yourself, or dont cut it for yourself, b/c when a girl is happy with her appearence, she displays enough self confidence to get just about any guy she wants.

Hey Duke,

I think YOU want everyone to conform to what you want. Saying people look `cheap and weird` with make-up well that is bull. Everyone is different and has the right to wear whatever they want and dress however they want without your criticism.

And as for everyone following the trends... I don`t agree. Everyone follows fashion to some degree and maybe more people are getting their hair cut because they find it easier. Most people don`t do something because its in `fashion` they do it because they see it and they like it so they try it. Thats what makes a fashion - when alot of people like something so they all try it. And its part of human nature to want to fit in anyway.

What would you call it in the 90`s when supposedly everyone had long hair? That was the fashion then. Times do change you know and just because you don`t like something doesn`t mean its rubbish. If you don`t like it don`t do it but stop criticising others for their choices.

From Petals

Thanks, Dianne. Renee, you`re making the same mistake - understanding what I am saying in a
superficial manner. I am trying to advise adopting a new look because you think it would improve your appearance, rather than just because it`s all the rage. I`m NOT trying to make everyone look the way I
want, but I believe that people should not be pressured to confom to fashion. I quoted the mid 90s as
a time when more people looked like themselves, not as one where everyone had long hair. I had friends
with a laudable variety of different hair lengths. When I said people didn`t waste money on cosmetics,
I didn`t mean makeup, but hair dye/bleach, substances whose use makes your hair high maintenance, phoney, and makes you risk baldness (don`t believe me? look at the hair bloopers board) If you want to do this kind of thing, I don`t put you down, but approve of the apparent fact that more women seem to use hair color products than are content with their natural color, and that the trend is passing on men too? No way! I have a right to my opinion. And I don`t insist that someone is a conformist automatically by taking on
a fashion trend, but that many people are blindly following fashion trends because they have conformist tendencies. Here`s an example: I am now wearing jeans, as I have worn most days for ages. I like jeans.
Jeans are currently in style, and someone could say, you`re a conformist, Duke. But if I`m glad jeans may make me a little fashionable, my comfort and personal liking of denim on my lower body is paramount: in 1999, khakis were all the rage, but I didn`t start wearing khakis, because I didn`t like them, nor do I think I`d be comfortable in them.

When people on these boards ask for advice, I just say what I`d do in their situation. I`m for human freedom, not constraints. In case you have any doubts, I would not hound a girlfriend/wife to stop dyeing hair or trying to "forbid" her use of it, of course she has a right to do with her own hair what she wants, but if asked my opinion, I wouldn`t lie to her that I like it. I`d expect similar treatment from her).

Again, I am not trying to pressure people to do or not do anything, just stating what I like, and encouraging them to put being themselves above what the fashion industry expects of them. Do you realize that stylists can charge more for layering hair than for a simple trim, and that gazillions of dollars are made by the cosmetics
industry by promoting color processing of hair?

Well yeh I see your point Duke and I`m sorry if you thought I was misunderstanding you.

And Diane thats pretty sad that in the area you live in `spikes is a major no no and older ladies would lock their doors`. I find that very very intolerant and judgemental - and that sounds like those old ladies are trying to make people conform to their tastes.

Well hey just so you know I`m from Australia and I don`t think the gang problem is as bad here (well not in my area - maybe down south) but there is alot of crime still.
Most people don`t think of a certain look/stereotype for the crims though.

Diane, I said Renee was not understanding, not you. I acknowledged your coming to the rescue for me, and thanks again. I am tolerant of everyone, whether they have spikes or not, whether or not they color-process their hair. I`m just giving advice.

Renee, apology accepted. It`s often hard to know just what a person is aaying. And Kimberlina, no, I don`t automatically label you a conformist. You are clarly following your own tastes, but I`m talking about the multitude - not all of it but many. Remember when tons of women rushed to the salon to look like Jennifer Anniston? That`s a mistake some make, assuming that just because a style looks good on one person, it has to look good on everybody else.

 i KNOW THIS THREAD IS VERY OLD,BUT I HAVE TO ADD MY 2 CENTS. THIS WAS POSTED IN 2001! IN 2006,THE NEW CONFORMIST TREND IS TO HAVE BLONDE HAIR.EVERYWHERE I GO THERE IS A SEA OF FAKE BLONDE WITH BLACK ROOTS SHOWING. INSTEAD OF JENNIFER ANISON,IT IS NOW PARIS HILTON OR PAMELA ANDERSON THAT PEOPLE WANT TO LOOK LIKE. (OR JESSICA SIMPSON) I DO NOT PUT ANYONE DOWN FOR THIS,JUST POINTING OUT THE FACT THAT BRUNETTES ARE A DYING BREED! IN ANY STORE ALMOST EVERY MAGAZINE COVER HAS A BLONDE. PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS TRY TO DO WHAT'S "in" BECAUSE IT'S HUMAN NATURE TO WANT TO FIT IN.