my hair sucks...please help!

what type of hair do u want. do u want curls, waves, or what.

I am a 36 year old male who's had the same hairstyle since I was 20. My hair is course and wirey and any hairstyle I try never looks good after I leave the barber shop. I have tried going to women's salons and all that crap, but nothing seems to work. My wife has moved me off of using Gel in my hair and I am now using pomade and or thin styling spray, but my hair still gives that wet or "greasy" look which I want to get away from.

Is there a way that I can keep from wearing anything in my hair and go with a natural and dry look, but keep in under control? I don't want my hair to be stiff but I want it to look good if I have been in the wind. My current style is like Howie Long's hair, but his doesn't appear to have the wet look.

Any suggestions would be appreciated.