Toning Problems

Last time I went to the hair salon I got hooked up with a horrible stylist (because the one who knew what she was doing quit). The new girl tried to bleach my roots and lowlights at the same time to make them all the same color. Long story short I ended up with orange lowlights and roots. She had to rebleach the roots but she left the lowlights as they were - orange!

Long story short I do my own hair now. I bleach my roots but as my hair is progressively getting longer it is getting more obvious that I have hideous orange lowlights throughout my hair (especially underneath in the back). I bleach it properly and tone with Clairol Creme Toner 301, which is closest to what I want my hair to be and what the highlights throughout my hair used to be.

The problem now is that I try only to tone my roots and nothing else, but it's kind of difficult to keep the toner from running down the previously highlighted, very toned (white) strands of hair. The most obnoxious part of it all is that the very light strands have now turned a gray-ish blue and look really odd on top of the blonde/orange/yellow.

I basically have at least 3 or 4 different shades of blonde in my hair. The worst part of it all are the orange lowlights.

I don't know how to get rid of them other than go through my hair, select each piece (as best as I can, though it would be extremely difficult since they're incorporated throughout my hair in random areas - mostly back) and rebleach them, but I fear that would cause a lot of breakage and damage.

 

My roots are still a bit too yellow than I want them to be mostly because I don't leave the toner on long enough for it to lighten them to the shade that I want because I'm afraid that the already white (almost blue) strands will turn completely blue and than I'll end up looking like a clown or something.

 

What can I do now that my hair looks like a complete mess (to me at least). There are just too many shades to deal with and it is difficult to tone the roots without turning some parts blue and leaving others orange.

Any advice at all??

(Anything other than going to a salon because first, I can't afford it, and second, I will not have another so called "professional hair stylist" completely ruin my hair. I trust myself much more than some girl who went to hair school yet has no effing clue about bleaching and toning hair to the desired shade).