hair wash daily

I would probably say wash your hair with a baby shampoo so you don't strip your hair of the oil that comes naturally.  Condition with a hydrating conditioner, lightly beyond the scalp and a little heavier toward the ends.  If you have to, on a day that you will not be around the public crowd, leave the conditioner in for a number of hours, then rinse.  If that doesn't soften your hair and no shine is the result, there are products out there that you can spray on your hair to make it shine.