Dominant Stylists

When my wife had her hair slightly beyond BSL her stylist was always suggesting that she should go shorter i.e. to at least the shoulders and possibly beyond. Due to this pressure she then changed salons although after a year or so she did decide to cut it to just below her shoulders and the new stylist duly obliged and my wife kept this style for a couple of years.

Recently as she was getting increasingly annoyed with having to tie her hair back off her face she felt it was time for another major change and made an appointment with her trusted stylist to cut her hair short. On arriving she asked the stylist to "cut the lot off". The stylist said that she didn't want to do something my wife wouldn't like and sugggested that she layer the front of her shoulder length style to stop it falling over her face. She never actually discussed short hair with my wife who was thinking of something that still covered her ears rather than a pixie or buzz cut. Oddly the same stylist has taken my wife through dramatic colour changes without raising an eyebrow.

Whilst I appreciate that stylists want their clients to look good and wouldn't recommend something ridciulous it seems odd that they want to impose their own style at times even if its not remotely what their client wants.

Has anybody else suffered the same problems?

Needless to say my wife is still having problems with her hair, which is still below her shoulders, and will no doubt be making another appointment in the near future to go short.

I had problems like that all the time, which is a major reason I stopped going to salons. I would always get the stylists who would try to pressure me into something wispier or more feminine or whatever they wanted to do, and there would always be an argument. Sometimes it helps to be more assertive and not leave the chair until you get what you want, and definitely it causes fewer arguments to take pictures of what you want rather than a vague verbal description. But if the stylist is really stubborn, even all that may not help sometimes.

hi, its good to find a stylist that has hair like your.

I have thick hair and so does my stylist even though he is a guy, he understand what works with this type of hair.

Good Luck, and when you find a good stylist stick with them there like gold to find.

Lisa

I agree with Jasmine. We are indeed paying them to follow our instructions.

About a year ago I went to get 1/2 trimmed off my hair and the stylist seemed annoyed at it and ended up cutting off about 2 inches. This is a big deal for me because my very long hair means a lot to me. I was pissed off and upset.

I have found that male stylists tend to work better with long hair, as they aren't so agressive with the scissors. I had my last haircut done by a male stylist and he cut so little that I couldn't even tell the difference, except that the split ends were gone, which was what I wanted. So yeah, male stylists for long hair. I don't know about short hair, though.

I'm with you, Kuroneko......when I sense that they're really trying to talk me into something...something that I did not ask for (whether they're the pro or not)....I'll walk. I always-always take in a pic of what I want and I go early to discuss it so that there aren't any problems understanding each other...