Growing my hair... need help!

Just avoid using any shampoo w/ laural sulfate or whatever. I hear that RedKen Allsoft is a good shampoo to use. Also, avoid blowdrying everyday. Instead do it once or twice a week, when you really need your hair to look its best. And avoid putting too much styling product in your hair, as it can build up and make your hair icky. And get it trimmed when you notice the ends are looking frayed.

Ed,

Never mistake lack of responses for a lack of concern. People can have a variety of reasons for not responding. It's better to express frustration in a more positive way, such as asking politely for any other suggestions. My guess is that people would be more likely to want to help you.

Hello Ed,

Much like Dave mentioned, a lack of response
is due to many things. One person viewing
it ten times to see if there has been a response
could easily add up to 10 views.

There may also be a lot of folks thinking they
might be able to assist, but when they click
on the message and read it, they may feel
as if they cannot contribute or offer advice
for you.

While there is a lot to learning good hair care,
the basics are always pretty easy.

Blow dryers, long hours in the hot sun,
harsh shampoos, not using conditioner,
coloring your hair improperly, yanking a comb
or brush through hair, etc. are pretty basic,
but you''''d be surprised how many do this.

You also have to keep in mind that all heads
of hair are quite different. There are many types
of hair as well as colors. What works for one
person may not work for another. For example,
I have straight hair which tends to be on the dry
side, so using a good conditioner and putting
my hair up when wet is a great benefit.
Hair thrives on moisture.

Please continue to visit the boards, share a bit
more about your hair type and perhaps someone
will be able to assist.

Glad you joined the site!

Karen Marie
*Accolady* / Wuvie

Wow,
How in the world did I do that?
LOL

Ok, thank you everyone who gave me advice. Keep them coming!

On another note, it's pretty discouraging to hear all of these girls I talk to say that they hate long hair on guys. I told at least four different girls that I was growing my hair out again and they all said they think long hair is ugly on men. Well, I guess I'll just do what makes me happy, because although they might not be as large in number, there are girls out there who dig the hair. And I certainly dig it!

FRUGiHOYi, for every woman who dislikes long hair, there is another who is turned on by it. Just the same way some women like giant muscles and some hate them, you can never please them all. Think of your long hair as a tool to attract the kind of women who will admire your unique and creative spirit.

I think long hair on guys is the coolest!

Some people just want to see what kind of answers there are, because they also need to know them, but cannot give any advice themselves.

FRUGiHOYi wrote: I would say my hair is probably about as wavy as it can be without being curly. I don't know about individual strands. I don't know how I would be able to tell if it's fine, medium, coarse... When I had my long hair, I think when I tied it back, it thick. I know it wasn't thin. You know what, here's a picture:

OK,

I addition to the advice that has been given, I want to thank you for adding a picture of your hair. Your hair type is very similar to my husbands.

He too had to cut it. Plain and simple - he and I were both growing our hair out. We both had a tendency to get frustrated and cut it off - so the "Race to the Butt" was born. Whoever got butt-length hair first had to take the other out to dinner of the winner's choice. Then the horrible day came. His workplace hired a consultant to come in and give them pointers on how to improve their image. (Bear in mind this is a motorcycle shop and most of the customers have long hair, piercings, tattoos, etc.) The first thing the consultant said was hubby's hair had to go. He had been working for them for seven years with long hair - broke every sales record that they had, and also had customers that would only work with him. If they drove by and hubby's truck wasn't in the lot they would come back when his truck was there. Well, hubby was told right there on the spot by his boss -- If you don't come to work tomorrow with your hair above the collar of your shirt, don't bother coming in. That night, I cut his "bra-length" hair off. Within a week, mine was gone too.

Now, he works for another motorcycle shop in town and a lot of his old customers have found him at the new locale. (The old boss lost sales of over $38,000 a month with one manufacturer alone.) His hair isn't as long as it used to be because it's a sore issue with him. I can, however, give you tips on how he takes care of it.

His hair is somewhat coarse, curly, and oily at the root. If he doesn't keep it washed, it turns into an oil slick rather quickly. The bottom half of his hair tends to be dry and frizzy more often than not.

He washes his scalp and conditions his hair. In other words, work the mild shampoo into your scalp. In reality that is the only place that really needs it. Then, he smooths the lather over his hair and lets it set. In the meantime he shaves, soaks, etc. Only need to leave it on for about a min or so. Rinse. Then apply conditioner. You want to use a mild, light conditioner so you don't weigh your hair down. Like I mentioned before, his hair tends to be oily at the scalp, and dry coarse and frizzy from mid-way down to the ends. Heavy conditioners tend to make the hair oily if you aren't careful.

For conditioning, start at about ear level, smooth down to the ends of the hair, and then whatever extra you have, start at the front hairline and smooth your hands over that area. If you just run your fingers through your hair a few times that should do it. Rinse with cool water.

Get in the habit of removing rings, bracelets, watch, etc. Also keep your nails cared for so you don't have rough edges. Snagging your hair on theses items while washing/conditioning can lead to split ends and breakage.

One day he ran out of his own styling creme and grabbed mine. I use Matrix Sleek Look products for my fine, thick, board-straight hair. He discovered that the Creme Extreme worked great for keeping his curls under control. Now, he uses that for his hair styling product.

hth,
trix

btw, I also use pureHAIR products in my rotation.

comment to text that dave quoted :

Were I in such a situation, I'd ask for my 2 weeks notice now, and if I had anything close to people even gesturing such BS that I'd charge them with assault AND take care of them on the spot with necessary force.