QuoteReplyTopic: What to do with my long hair Posted: August 23 2001 at 12:09am
OK, I know you`ve heard this post a lot by now, but I need advise. I have really long dark hair. It is past my butt kind of at my thigh. I want to do something with it. Either cut it or learn a style that I actually like. i am really nervous to cut it which is why I havn`t already. And my friends tell me all different stuff to do so they just confuse me. I am gonna be a junior and am about 5`5", my hair is dark brown and I have kinda a tan complexion and a kinda oval face. Just if anyone has ideas please respond soon. Thanks.
Your friends confuse you so you come *here*?! Cool! It sounds as if you can wear just about anything! The coolest thing would B to get it cut to 1/2" and freak everybody out! That`ll teach`em!
Look, you`re nervous to cut it.......but deep down that`s what you want to do, but you`re a little scared to do it. Go in steps. Cut the first time to say, your waist. Then go back and go to your mid back.....etc. That will be the easiest way to go from super long to wherever you decide to stop. Good luck.
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I say get a friend to hold your hand and take the plunge. Get it cut to at least shoulder length with layers or maybe a chin length bob. Donate the hair to Locks of Love (this will make you feel great). You will also look great and will feel different but free from your long hair! Keep us informed.
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"I want to do something with it. Either cut it or learn a style that I actually like."
Hi Amy,
The previous three respondants have suggested "cut"... perhaps you`re due for a little balance to the options presented, eh? Since you`re looking for a style that you "actually like," why not begin by telling us what style(s) you have been wearing? There are lots of updos and braid you can do with your long hair. Have you looked at the Hair Boutique`s hair style selector? There are tons of choices, including many for long hair. And maybe some of the girls who read your message here will offer up some of their ideas.
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Your friends confuse you so you come *here*?! Cool! It sounds as if you can wear just about anything! The coolest thing would B to get it cut to 1/2" and freak everybody out! That'll teach'em!
That`ll teach `em?
Yeah, it`ll teach them that they *can* tell her what to do. In which case she can expect more of the same with regard to other aspects of her appearance, her social activities, etc. Who needs that?
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Look, you're nervous to cut it.......but deep down that's what you want to do, but you're a little scared to do it. Go in steps. Cut the first time to say, your waist. Then go back and go to your mid back.....etc. That will be the easiest way to go from super long to wherever you decide to stop. Good luck.
"Look, you`re nervous to cut it.......but deep down that`s what you want to do, but you`re a little scared to do it."
From the school of redundancy, we also have a lesson in psychobabble provided by "MightyH."
How do you know that, "deep down," she really wants to cut her hair? It may be that she`s lost touch with her own thoughts and feelings on the subject amidst the din of pressure applied by so-called "friends."
The only sound advice, given her initial inquiry (at least, half of it) is that she think long and hard about the decision, and to be in no hurry to make a decision. It`s better to act (or not) with conviction and be sure, than to haphazardly jump off a cliff and realize it would take many years to reverse a hastily-chosen but poorly-thought out action.
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I say get a friend to hold your hand and take the plunge. Get it cut to at least shoulder length with layers or maybe a chin length bob. Donate the hair to Locks of Love (this will make you feel great). You will also look great and will feel different but free from your long hair! Keep us informed.
"Donate the hair to Locks of Love (this will make you feel great)."
Really? Why?
It will surely enrich the coffers at LoL... but do they need it?
Before donating to LoL or any charity, do research to find out if they truly need your donation.
Can you state with any degree of certainty that LoL needs more hair? I`m sure you can`t, because I *have* done my homework.
And given your nickname, I`m surprised that your prescription didn`t include lightening the color of her hair.
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Hey, DaveDecker Are you insecure? You have to attack 3 other innocent people so you can feel "good" about your suggestion? I do believe that she asked for opinions. We all have a right to post ours. Myself and the other two did not ask for your opinion on our suggestions. We all have seen your posts in the past and for some reason you seem to "attack" other people`s suggestions. Why? I respect your opinion, but not your attacks.
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You know, Dave does have a point, all of the suggestions made do seem self serving. Not to criticize or anything, but how do you know that cutting off a lot of hair will make a person feel good? Your statement is more like a command than a suggestion.
DaveDecker: Everybody is entitled to their own opinion. My personal opinion is hair that long doesn`t look all that attractive on a girl. I just thought that going in steps instead of cutting it all off at once would be easier on her.
Well this is what I think. I just cut my long hair pretty short an *I* really like it but I knew that it was what I wanted to do. I don`t think you should cut your hair short especially not 1/2" because you don`t sound like you are sure you want to do it and i think buzz cuts look bad on most girls anyway. Is your hair in really good condition? If it is not then I think you should cut it short enough to have really healthy ends and then practice different ways of braiding and wearing your up. It takes a lot of practice and if you have always worn your long hair the same way then you will feel dorky when you show up with your hair in a different way but it is not permanent and after a while it can be a lot of fun. So I say have fun with your long hair and then if you decide you are not having fun with it and you are sure you want to cut it then cut it short and have fun with your short hair like me. This is just my opinion.
Hey, I had my waste legnth hair cut to above my shoulders by accident. And then cut it all off into a pixie, and then let it grow to my shoulders again. I can honestly tell you from my own experience that I liked it long, and it takes a long time to grow back. If you get it cut short, you will probobly get it cut shorter, cause you will again want a change and will not want to spend the time to grow it back. Don`t get me wrong I like my hair short too, but I will probobly keep it short cause I don`t know if I still have the patience to grow it. It was a little easier for me to go to a pixie from my shoulders, because i had more than a foot of hair cut off be surprise so it didn`t seem like much more. Anyway, my point is that before you cut your long hair, make sure you want to, cause yes you can grow it back, but you probobly won`t. So be careful and let me know.
Wow, Katie, it sounds as if, no matter how much you like your short haircut, you still consider getting your hair cut a traumatic (more or less) experience. I know I recommended you to keep your hair short earlier, but since you seem to regret it so much, perhaps it would be best to grow it back again...
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Hi Amy, Your hair sounds gorgeous as it is - and I`m sure gets a lot of positive attention! Others are right, don`t cut it off unless you`re really sure that is what you want to do...there`s nothing worse than having to wait those years to get your length back to where you want it! And there`s lots and lots of stuff you can do with long hair - with short, well, you just have the option of `short` and no variety of looks!
Another place you might want to look for styles is www. longhairlovers.com, where there are also messageboards filled with really supportive folk full of bright ideas - I`m sure we can come up with several styles that you`d like, and which don`t involve loss of length! And there`s www.tlhs.org, all the photos here, and the long hair support board too...lots of long hair friends who won`t confuse you! Hope you`ll keep on enjoying your long hair!
Its not that it is that tramatic, I mean I liked getting my hair cut into a pixie and thought it was really cool and liked the style. I didn`t really like the stylist cutting my hair to my shoulders when I wasn`t expecting it. And since it was already a big change, I figured i might as well cut more off. I`m just saying that I know what getting a lot of hair cut off feels like and I didn`t have the choice to make, but if you do you should take time to consider if you really want a lot of hair cut off. Cause it is definately an identity change, not so much for youyr really good friends but from people who you kinda know or meet, you are no longer a girl with long hair, you don`t stand out as much and fit in look wise more. With the pixie, there were guys who don`t like girls with real short hair like that. With hair to your thigh you are "the girl with the really long hair." But say if she got it cut up to her shoulders, she would look more like many of the other girls, or she may be "the girl with the short hair." I know we all like to think looks don`t matter but they do and it takes some gettiung used to. So I`m just saying make a careful descision before you cut your long hair.
OK, I am going to cut it, the appointment is already made for Sept. 4. I still do not exactly knowwhat to do so I need lots of replies quick. I am really nevous. Oh yeah, and does anyone think that medium styles(mid back) look good, you al seem to either like long or short. Cause I would be able to cut my hair to about mid back probobly without tears, but like shoulder length or above, I might need people there to calm me down, although girls with short hair do seem to like it.
Oh yeah. and this is another idea that my friend had. She has waste length hair and has been wanting to cut it, and she knows I do. She sais she will let me cut her hair off up to her shoulders if she can do the same to me, and then we would go get it done right at the salon. I know it sounds dumb but if my friend did it with me it would be a lot easier, I trust her, and there would be somebody else going from long to short at the same time. Let me know.
Cutting your hair off can be a very traumatic experience. Any support you can get from your friends can only help!!! However, how much gets cut is up to you. Good luck.
I think the idea of cutting your friend`s hair and she cutting your hair sounds pretty fun. Send me an email and I`ll email you some pics of some shoulder length styles. Also, I know someone that buys hair if you or your friend are interested in selling your hair. My email address is: flyboy_92150@yahoo.com
Or, just click on my name above to send me an email.
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