Trying to achieve that "asian look" with course hair

Hey
I am an asian male. Ive been spiking my hair for about a year now, and Im always trying to get that "asian look" with the straight spiked hair. The only problem is that my hair is very frizzy, rigid, and course. No matter what gel I use, my hair does not seem to gel properly. It spikes, but the hair is not very organized. It frizzes. My hair looks even worse after I finish washing it and let it dry. So does anyone have any suggestions on managing my hair? Maybe even some techniques on spiking. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks