QuoteReplyTopic: Urge to cut..........Help! Posted: August 17 2005 at 10:12am
I have tried to grow my hair out several times because I think long hair (waist length) is beautiful. But everytime I get to a certain point I get a strong urge to cut it. I have not been able to fight this urge. I get bored with it and want a change. Then a couple months later I regret it. I have short hair now inbetween jaw and shoulders. Please help me with ideas so that I don't cut my hair again. Thank you!!
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Ok the best way to fight that urge is to use the 3 week rule.
Anytime you get an urge to cut or trim more than just some splits give
yourself no less than 3 weeks to think about it. If after those 3 weeks
you know it in your heart and mind that it's right for you then you'll
be doing what's right.
Just like you pointed out Anais hair gather yourself a private
collection of inspiration photos. Meaning most people won't mind you
downloading or printing out their pictures if you're using them as
inspiration. A friend of mine from another site used to save pictures
from magazines and such and pin them to a bulletin board in her room.
You could do that or get a photo album or something. Buy some hairtoys
now that you'll want to use later. Sometimes that helps keep you on
track. Set short and long term goals so that you can have some
milestones to celebrate along the way. Like first ponytail or past the
in between stage when it's just below the shoulders. Think about things
like bangs and layers and whether or not you'll grow them out or get
them.
In the meantime examine your current routine, and think about past
routines and take that knowledge and the tips on this site and perhaps
try some new routines or products. But take it slowly so you can give
things a good try. We may seem like we're doing lots with our routines
but most are really simple. A calender, notebook, or journal can come
in handy. There is a journals board here if you want to make your own
Journal thread and share your journal.
You can do it. Your goals are reachable. Good Luck. It's nice to have you here.
PurpleBubba's given some of his trademark expert advice. Other than that I just wanted to add, learn new hair styles! That helped me for sure during the growing-out process. Putting the hair up, or back, helps the hairee forget about its length. And then it feels a lot longer when finally unraveled. Thank you so much for your compliment - It totally makes my day.
What is fueling this urge - boredom, lack of patience?
If so, there are ways to combat it. Beauty about long hair is, that unlike short styles, you can have many, many different styles to wear it. When your hair gets a bit longer - go pick up some books or style manuals on braiding or up-dos. Start teaching yourself how to french-braid, dutch braid, rope twists, the many, many combinations in between, french twists, chignons, etc.
Also when you get bored, change up the style from wavy to sleek and straight. Remember you can do alot more with long hair versus short hair.
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If your husband likes long hair as you say, maybe he'd like to help you
care for your hair and it might bring the two of you closer
together. Ask him to brush it for you every night. You both
may get a lot of enjoyment out of the time you spend together this way
every night and it could help you fight the desire to cut your hair.
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When I wander around mumbling that I'm going to shave off all my hair and start over (usually because I'm frustrated with rebellious layers), my husband will remind me that I really want long hair and that cutting it off would be counter-productive.
Perhaps your husband can also help you stay focused on your long hair goal with gentle reminders.
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I know how you feel Ivy, I too sometimes want to cut my hair specially when I can't seem to get the style I want... Let's NOT talk about bad hair days either!
I suggest (and I do this myself) is to fix your hair the way you like it. Make it all nice and pretty then take a pic. Post the pic here or just look at it everytime you feel like cutting your hair.
I look at Dave's and Anais' pics all the time and Purple Bubba's past, present and future pics.
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