What is up wit all them haters man

k cause i wus on the bus and talking to my frien and she wus like why u want to grow yo hair so long. cause i jus said that I wus growin it long and curly and her reply was that i had those tight curls that don't look good natural and that i dhould keep it short and straight and I said no and she kep goin on tryn to start mess and I said its my hair not yours. What pisses me off though is that people always b gettin on me just cause got curls and want to grow it long

I too had the same experience. I am a guy with 32 inches long hair . I often get advices that i should shorten my hair as it looks very feminish. But i am very comfortable with it and i like it.

I understand ..I am a guy and when I decided to grow my hair out my friends would not stop bugging me to get it cut.

People can be so cruel.  I have an aunt who constantly tells me my long hair makes me look old, and an ex who insists  I "need" bangs.  Who needs them?  Life's too short for mean people and short hair!

Strawberryfine, your hair looks beautiful!  I always think that when I look at it so figured I'd tell you.  I just love the fine texture, the color and the stick-straight hair.  I'd love to see a bigger picture of it.  Do you have any you'd be willing to share?

Thanks, Bob.  I'll pass that on to Jennifer.  I must agree ... there sure is some pretty hair around here.  Jennifer's hair wouldn't look or feel as good as it does without the help of this forum.  We never would have dreamed of going with a conditioner-only route, but it definitely has made a difference with her hair.  So thanks to all in the forum for great support and ideas.

Thanks for the nice compliments, they are nice to hear! 

Wow.  I'd like to sprinkle comments in-line...

Thisisniccy wrote: its not that shes jealous its just to many people long hair does look unprofessional.

Professionalism is not defined by hair length.  First and foremost, it is defined by behavior -- actions, results, ability to judge and decision, attitude, etc.  Appearances are way down on the list, but even then, a clean, neat, flattering clothing and well-groomed hair are appreciated by all.   Well-groomed does not equate with short.  People who believe that only short hair as professional are, in this regard anyway, unprofessional because their judgment is irrationally clouded by something which has nothing to do with the carrying out of business.

Thisisniccy wrote: You can do more with shorter hair andnot have to worry about frying it...

I don't have to worry about frying my long hair.  Why do you believe that long hair is necessarily more subject to being fried?  (Unless of course, this is what your salon specializes in.  I'm not trying to criticize you or your salon, but what salons do to their client's heads does not imply that such treatment is mandatory.)

I think there are plenty here who would claim that you can do more with longer hair.  Loose, ponytail, braid(s), bun, and many varieties of the latter 3 categories.   Seriously, how many different ways can you style a pixie or a bob?

Thisisniccy wrote: I'm a cosmotologist and in my buisness ass-length hair does look unprofessional.

How about using descriptions such as "hip-length" hair?  Or "upper-thigh" length hair?

Describing this length of hair such as you have is crass and derisive, and, I believe, intended to demoralize the possessors of such hair.  And just why would you do this?  Answer:

Thisisniccy wrote: Our hair helps us sell our services....

Yep.  That's what it's all about.  Shape the minds of the consumers to the financial benefit of the salons, beauty be damned.

Really, I didn't intend for this to be a rant, but you made it so easy.

Thisisniccy wrote: Ex: a salon professional with a trendy haircut and color will recieve more clients and look more confident in her own work than a salon professional with very long, untrendy, non-colored hair. It's the way the world works!

It may be a proven formula, but it is not the only way to succeed in the industry (which, by the way, cannot see the forest through the trees).  The mainstream salon industry has permanently alienated a large number of potential customers because it takes a one-size-fits-all, cookie-cutter approach to business.  The salon industry's clinging to the "long hair is unprofessional" dogma only serves to reinforce its addiction to the standard formula.  Very short-sighted.

Thisisniccy wrote: I had very long hair, but now it is shorter with LOTS of layers...I dislike the layers and I'm trying to grow them out....But I do not want my hair to be to long to where it is hard to get body, curl, volume and heat styling.... To each her own!

To each, his or her, own.  I agree.

Okay, people might not want a stylist with bad hair doing their hair but you can have long, shiny, naturally beautiful color and look great!

Bob S wrote:       Yikes, Nicci!!! Your ideas confirm everything that I believe is wrong with the beauty industry. Service industries *should* be all about the customer's desires, but your position that more can be done with short hair only tells me that a cosmetology license can be obtained by someone who is clueless about long hair. I don't mean this as an affront to you. I'd be surprised if any beauty school specializes in hair longer than bra-strap length.      As for "professionalism" being bestowed by a short coif, this theory is hogwash. Why did you wear sensationally long hair once, Nic? Because it was stunning. If you are a good stylist, you did not become more "professional" the day your hair vanished. And incompetent cutters are not miraculously endowed with more talent if they themselves go short.      IMO, the reason that major haircuts give some women a confidence boost is because the salon industry has reinforced that this should be so, ad infinitum. All I know is that most times when I see a woman arrive with a "power cut",  the hair looks far less attractive than it did before the appointment.      Finally, since my wife has hip-length unlayered hair, if she ever does end her 5 1/2 year salon hiatus, I will be looking for a woman who has similarly long hair. I figure that someone whose hair has survived yearsworth of incessant barbs and makeover suggestions from colleagues must have an extraordinary appreciation of magnificent hair, and would respect DW's length. Blessings, Bob       More CAN be done with short hair...its the way the world works.  Why is soooo many of you advise people against flat-irons and whatever else?  "Cause they damage hair" Well, if you kept your hair shorter you wouldn't have to worry about the damage nearly as much since you cut it off more frequently...You know what I mean.  Same with bleaching and whatever else. Plus shorter styles are MUCH easier to add volume to than ass-length hair that weighs styling/teasing/whatever else down. Real talk