Got my hair dyed (bleached) today &have some ?s!

Alright, so... it didn't turn out bad, but I must say that it's not exactly what I was hoping for.  And I don't think it was my stylist's fault at all, I think it just maybe turned out to not be for me so much. 

She did the "weave" thing and she applied heavily so that just a little of my natural color showed through.  She also alternated lighteners that lightened with more of a cool tone and warm tone so I had a multi-dimensional look.  She didn't do any toning after?  I don't know if that's normal or not... When she first began to apply the lightener, I asked her if she was applying the bleach and she said that it was a lightener and toner in one.  Does that make sense?  Anyway, so to me it does sort of look like it needs to be toned a little. 

Plus she didn't apply the bleach to my scalp (since she wasn't doing all-over bleaching and wasn't using a bleach that can be used on the scalp) so a little bit of roots are showing and I'm not sure if I like that either.  My natural color is between a medium and dark brown so it's a very noticeable contrast.  And really the main reason I went with the weave method is because I thought I'd have to go in way less for root touch-ups.  I asked her how often most people have to go in for them and she said usually about once every three months.  I find that hard to believe... in three months I'll probably have a good inch and a half (at least) of roots showing! 

So I guess what I'm wondering first of all is what I should use to kind of tone down the gold/somewhat brassy look.  Should I use some sort of toner from Sally's?  Or a violet shampoo? 

Also, since I'm not sure whether I'm content with keeping my hair like this for a long time, I'm wondering if it's even possible for me to just get an all-over color next time?  I don't even care if it's still multi-dimensional, just as long the overall color is lighter and my roots are gone.  But would it even be possible to lighten over already lightened hair, and manage to get the roots to match the rest of the hair? 

I'll include some pictures that might be helpful.  Thanks in advance!

I'm not sure why it looks so dark in this picture because it's quite a bit lighter than that... I think it was probably just my flash setting.


These next two are more accurate in color and tone.



She concentrated the cooler tones in the back and the warmer in the front, as you can see.  I really love the lighter cool blonde shades but not so much the light brownish/reddish/almost orange-tinged ones.  If I was able to do an all-over color, I'd want to do the cool tones.

I think it looks great on you and your hair looks really healthy too. 

What tones down my brassiness WONDERFULLY is to use a violet shampoo AND conditioner AND I also use a rinse after I've combed my hair out (after showering)

Right now I'm using:

Jhirmack for silver hair (I'm blonde) (drugstore)
D'avines platinum conditioner (salon)
Fanciful in the color Minx (drugstore) you squirt it on your wet hair.

I searched high and low for AGES and this is what I found that works for me. I LOVE it! NO BRASS!

It's beautiful!!  Really, it looks fantastic with your skin tone and green eyes!

I think you are just shocked because you were used to seeing how you looked before and now your hair is lighter.  But other people aren't likely seeing it that way.  We're all our own worst critics, just remember that.

In time, it will blend and fade a little anyway.  Give it a few weeks.  In the meantime, you can follow some of the suggestions from the forum and try a toning shampoo.  They work really well, I hear.

cambria wrote: Alright, so... it didn't turn out bad, but I must say that it's not exactly what I was hoping for.  And I don't think it was my stylist's fault at all, I think it just maybe turned out to not be for me so much.  She did the "weave" thing and she applied heavily so that just a little of my natural color showed through.  She also alternated lighteners that lightened with more of a cool tone and warm tone so I had a multi-dimensional look.    Anytime you lighten hair it pulls warm. There is nothing you can do without toning the hair to tone the warmth out of the hair. My guess is she used bleach with 10 volume and bleach with 20 or 30 volume to give you different shades throughout the hair.   She didn't do any toning after?  I don't know if that's normal or not... When she first began to apply the lightener, I asked her if she was applying the bleach and she said that it was a lightener and toner in one.  Does that make sense? NO it makes NO SENSE! If you hair was previously colored the only way to lighten the haircolor is by using bleach. Color doesn't lighten previously artifically colored hair. Lightener is the salon friendly term for "BLEACH". Thats sugar coated so you don't jump out of the chair when they say OK I'm going to put this bleach on your hair.   Anyway, so to me it does sort of look like it needs to be toned a little.   Some of the pieces in your hair look very brassy or yellow. IMHO the color has too much warmth in it especially with your skin tone which looks warm also. The warm brown with the yellow gold is just too much warmth. A cool ash blonde instead of the warm yellow gold would break it up a bit and give it more depth and compliment your skin tone more but overall it doesn't look that bad. Plus she didn't apply the bleach to my scalp (since she wasn't doing all-over bleaching and wasn't using a bleach that can be used on the scalp) so a little bit of roots are showing and I'm not sure if I like that either.  Did she pull you through a cap or put foils in your head? I am not a fan of the weaving method. Possibly the reason you see roots if she was foiling is because her sections were too big. I typically slice and do very little weaving only in and around the hairline to give it more of a natural appearance if you pull your hair back alot.   My natural color is between a medium and dark brown so it's a very noticeable contrast.  And really the main reason I went with the weave method is because I thought I'd have to go in way less for root touch-ups.  I asked her how often most people have to go in for them and she said usually about once every three months.  I find that hard to believe... in three months I'll probably have a good inch and a half (at least) of roots showing!  Yer right about that hair grows about 1/2" per month. So I guess what I'm wondering first of all is what I should use to kind of tone down the gold/somewhat brassy look.  Should I use some sort of toner from Sally's?  Or a violet shampoo?  Also, since I'm not sure whether I'm content with keeping my hair like this for a long time, I'm wondering if it's even possible for me to just get an all-over color next time? You could always tint back to your natural color that is not a problem. imo there is just too many highlights throughout your hair.   I don't even care if it's still multi-dimensional, just as long the overall color is lighter and my roots are gone.  But would it even be possible to lighten over already lightened hair, and manage to get the roots to match the rest of the hair? It is possible but it takes a very skilled stylist with plenty of color expertise to get you to match throughout. The virgin regrowth would hafta be formulated differently than the rest of your hair color which is already previously colored...it just depends on what you want.  I'll include some pictures that might be helpful.  Thanks in advance! I'm not sure why it looks so dark in this picture because it's quite a bit lighter than that... I think it was probably just my flash setting. These next two are more accurate in color and tone. She concentrated the cooler tones in the back and the warmer in the front, as you can see.  I really love the lighter cool blonde shades but not so much the light brownish/reddish/almost orange-tinged ones.  If I was able to do an all-over color, I'd want to do the cool tones.