Recent Hair Disaster

Hi Nekita,

I'm so sorry to read what happened. On the one hand, I appreciate and commend korsakovhatt's advice to try to make the best of your present situation (because after all, at this point, your choices have been reduced by one). On the other hand, you'll want to evaluate your salon visit to ensure that this sort of episode doesn't recur (to you, and Longbraidz, and rosebud). Here you have been conscientiously and carefully growing your one-length hair longer for the past year, yet at the salon the stylist weakened your will by criticizing you (those magically-horrible words "you have no style"). We all make mistakes. "Live and learn," they say. So take heart in the knowledge that you won't ever have to repeat this scenario; for when you have that long, one-length hair again and you visit a salon and the stylist tries to talk you into unwanted cutting, you'll be prepared to stand your ground and "just say no."

I hope this helps. Much sympathy. (( Nekita ))

Hi Nekita...I'am really sorry to hear that your unhappy with your hair. I have been there...saw that...and never got a T-shirt I'am currently trying to grow out my hair and there are ALOT of layers. I know I have to be patient and stay committed to how I want my hair to be. I'am currently wearing my hair pinned up. It is a comfortable style for me because even when my hair was very long...I still wore it pinned up. Perhaps you may want to try that. Best Wishes and please don't cut off any more of your hair.

Hey... have you heard of a product called the "Split Ender"? I saw it in Walgreens ($40) and I was wondering if maybe you'd try it.

And maybe I'll try those Loreal Creme Lites next time.

:)

Excellent pun, that made me laugh. :)

I actually can't stand looking in the mirror right now. Curly and layers are so not a good combination for me. It's HUGE. I hope I can tame it while it grows out. I just feel like I've taken such a step backward and I'm so angry at myself for saying yes to cutting. What got me is she looked at my long, one length hair and said I have no style. I'd rather have no style than this nightmare.

Your hair looks very natural the the layers look good on you. I'd put a picture up of me, but I hope to never have a picture taken of this look. Perhaps when I'm a little happier.. :) I'm going to try to put up a pic, pre-cutting. The last time I tried, the file size was too big.

Hilites and lowlites aren't so bad, except after a couple months when they are growing out. Then they are so darn expensive to do again.

Thanks again. :)

I've gotten quite a few of my scarves at Wal-Mart. A friend just sent me a really pretty one that she bought for $6 at Target. I've also bought a few vintage silk ones at 2nd hand shops. I've never paid more than $8 for one. Raiding your grandmother's closet might also turn up a few.

I don't use gel on my hair. If it works for you, though, stick with it. I use Got2b Kinky curling mousse when I scrunch my hair because I only have a little bit of natural wave.

Are you liking your new haircut any better now? Sometimes, if you just live with it for a while it grows on you (pun intended).


As for my hair colour -- It's completely unnatural. It's naturally a level 2-3 very dark chestnut/auburn. I achieved my current colour by heavily (very heavily) highlighting with L'Oreal Creme Lights. My hair is completely highlighted so none of my natural colour remains. I didn't want to do a complete bleach-out, though, because I wanted some variation in shades of blonde. There are five different shades of blonde in my hair -- ranging from a dark golden blonde to a pale neutral blonde.

I don't know much about hair-cutting techniques. I think a good hair stylist should be able to trim your hair so that the layers blend well. If you decide to go this route, just make sure you let the stylist know that you want to maintain as much length as possible while growing your hair back to one length. There's no need to chop it all off to one length right now. You can get there gradually.

My hair is a little over 2' at its longest, but I also have layers that are only 4". If the layers are angled properly, they will blend into the length.

Here's what my layered haircut looks like. I'm really happy with it.


Good luck with your hair. You should post a photo of your new cut. You may get a deluge of compliments that completely changes your opinion of it.

P.S. Since you're lucky enough to have naturally blonde hair, you have a lot of options for your hair colour. If you don't like the look of lowlights and highlights you could use an all-over high-lift tint to achieve an all-over lighter blonde. You can choose to have it a neutral shade, more gold, champagne, or ash. I envy the possibilities.

What is it about the layers that makes you so unhappy? Have you tried washing it and styling it yourself? I've left salons in tears before only to go home, style my hair myself and end up liking it. The good thing about layers is that all of our hair doesn't grow at the same rate. Layers tend to blend in more and more as they grow.

I have no idea what you hair looks like or what you want it to look like, so I'm just guessing here. What if you put a dab of a light styling product in your hair and finger-scrunch it while it's drying. That would give you more of an over-all natural wavy look. The layers would be less noticeable. I'm also a big fan of hair scarves -- they can hide a multitude of hair disasters. I also wear scarves even when my hair is looking good. I think they're really flattering on almost everyone and you can find them in so many different colours and prints.