In need of some support...

Hi Tiramisu2c aka Christine,

I can fully relate to your hair woes...and the hairdresser from hell! You have to remember that it could have been far far worse! I'am growing back from a G.I. Jane. I made it through that and your going to make it through this also. You may want to try useing hair oils (jojoba or Weleda rosemary)  they help to control thick wavy hair...or you may also want to try working with your curls instead of against them. Try looking for short hair styles on the net. Try to find the good in the bad...your hair color is just beautiful!!!! You have that going for you as well as a pretty face. Lastly, I'am sure this Valerie will eventually get fired. With an attitude like her's...it dosen't take much to do the math.

 

Oh Christine, I'm so sorry   I know how you feel, I cry over my hair too if something happens to it.  You are still beautiful regardless and it *does* grow back. I was thinking perhaps you could go somewhere else and just get them to even it out for now?  That might make you feel better.  Big hugs to you 

Edited by cherryblonde

Oh Christine, Christine. Oh, darn that Valerie. Like the PPs, I do think you'll be seeing some real strides by late this winter. I am so very, very sorry this happened to you. I think you're still lovely but I know exactly how you feel. I don't feel sorry for how you look (just adorable) but for how you feel. I think we've all been there at one time or another.

Thanks so much Vicky and Nikki!
As each day goes by, I am feeling better.  It isn't as though I have found more things to do with my hair, but I just keep it in the best pony I can manage, and at the end of the day when I take it out for a bit to massage my head, I either feel better or worse, depending on my mood, lol. 
The major problem I'm having with it is that it really isn't even a style at all!  It seems as though she cut the underlayers MAJORLY short and she left the front longer because that is the point when I asked her what she was doing.  She was just about to cut the front of my hair, when I asked her to stop, and she said, "Look, it's below your chin like you asked..." I was like, "That's because you haven't cut it yet!"  And the back is at least an inch shorter than the front.  (When I said I wanted it longer than chin-length, it was because when I was trying to explain that I just wanted a trim of an inch or so, she said, "So, chin-length?" I said, "No, not that short.")  Plus, she decided to thin it to death, so the front is very straggly-looking at the ends. 
I think I may go in today to try and get my money back...it might make me feel a little better. 
But anyway, I am using Garnier Fructis Shampoo and Conditioner Long & Strong to help my hair stay nice in the growing out process.  (Preventing breakage and splits - I think cones work best in my hair)  So yes, I am feeling better today than I did on Saturday, and I just keep thinking while I live my daily life my hair is actually growing even though I may not be able to see it. 
The thing that is most difficult is that my hair is wavy/curly, so the more it grows, the more it springs back into a wave/curl, so I don't really get to see all of the length.
But, once Christmas time rolls around, and I reach my short-term goal, I think I am going to treat myself to a trim and a blow-out, but I'll need to think of where I'll go.  One of my friends just got a job in a salon in NYC, maybe I'll ask her (She's cut my hair before for me).
Thank you all for your concern!  It has really helped me!  I feel better and better everyday!  Thanks!
Love, Christine

I just think they make a bigger mess of things than they were from the beginning.

Everytime i have gone to the hairdressers I have had bsl and just wanted a trim. I always end up with sholder leanth hair with lots of layers (you know anistons hair in the begining of friends)
My hair is so thick that they think they are doing me a favour.

I always leave angry and promise my self never to go to the hairdressers again.

  Ouch.  You have my sympathy, Christine.   That chopper deserves a thunk on the head (and to have their license yanked).  I honestly don't know how stylists stay in business when they willfully disregard the stated wishes of their clients.  Hang in there, it'll get better every day!

Grace912:  Thank you!  My hair color is actually natural.  The sun does something funky to it I think, lol.  I really hope you're right that my hair will be back to my shoulders by Christmas.  I don't want to trim it or anything before then, but I am very afraid that with her thinning process (as she did so, I asked her not to, and she replied, "I have to - your ends have a lot of weight to them, and if I don't it'll look like a bell" - IMO IT STILL VERY CLOSELY RESEMBLES A BELL, but whatever...), it will look like crap at the ends as it does now.  Like if I let it grow out as it is, I can't even flat-iron it, ever, because I've tried, and the ends are very uneven.  Thank you very much though for your support!

Viktoria:  Unfortunately, I did pay $28 for the haircut - then tipped the washer $2, and tipped my butcher $5.  I know, i know....I can't help it.  I'm a college student by day, and a waitress by night, so I am an obscene tipper.  She knew I was very unhappy with the cut as I told her so immediately and basically started hyperventilating in the chair, but she kept trying to make it better and said things (and I quote) like, "Oh, it looks so good...it almost makes me want to cut mine back to that length!" (She is saying this to me with bra-strap length hair) Upon hearing this, I thought to myself (So loudly I thought she may hear) "Hand me the scissors, I'll do it for you."  She also said, "Oh, don't worry, I can tell your hair grows fast." 

What really upsets me, is that I think she may have sincerely thought it looked good.  I don't know...but it honestly looks terrible.  And when I get upset, it's not that I am upset about just how it looks, but hoenstly, it is because I am so angry that she could do this to someone.  I mean, even if it was what I asked for, it was a terrible cut.  Also, it's not like she didn't see the texture of my hair before she cut it.  It was CURLY.  When it's wet, it's curly.  And she proceeded to chop it off to ear length (hopefully with the knowledge of shrinkage).  I am 20 years old, and I don't enjoy blowing out my thicker than thick hair everyday, and even so it was hideous.  Anyway, once I cried my way home, I told my mom all about it, and I called the salon immediately thereafter.  (She said, "they're so lucky it was you who called and not me" - lol, I love my mom).  The receptionist is VERY nice.  I speak to her all the time, and she was sincere in her apology even though it wasn't her who cut my hair.  She told me I could come in for free blowouts and styling tips to help with the growing out process, but I believe I may have acquired a salon-o-phobia.  I may go and ask for my money back...I'm not sure yet.  Thank you as well for your support!

Vicky:  I do wish I knew this woman was scissor-happy.  My mom thinks that she may have just had what she thought was a better idea of how to do my hair...I don't know, but I do wish she played Haircutter Barbie with her own hair.  It is SO true that you don't know what you have until it's gone...I AM MISSING MY CURLS SOOO MUCH!  I don't even have the option of wearing my hair down because it's uncomfortable for me.  But, enough whining...I'll get over it.  Thank you!

Claude:  I agree.  My haircut looks as if I picked up a pair of garden shears and cut my own hair...or that my two year old cousin did it.  I don't know what she was thinking.  I can't believe she let me out of the chair looking like this either, but honestly, I could not wait to get out anyway.  I was NOT happy, but I didn't want to cry (believe it or not) because I didn't want her to feel bad.  I put myself in her shoes and I thought, "If I were cutting someone's hair and they flipped out, I'd be mortified."  On the other hand, I would have listened to what my customer said, but who knows.  She did look somewhat like her puppy just died or something. 

I agree with you about Pantene.  I have heard many not-so-good things about it.  I think I will stick to Matrix.  (I've tried Garnier but the fruity smell makes me a little nauseus.) 

How far upstate are you?  I currently live in Nassau County on Long Island.  Not TOO far.  LOL, with my newly acquired fear of salons I may be squeamish to go back to one.  However, I do intend on staying completely away from scissors until my hair touches my shoulders. 

Thank you ALL for your support.  I can't tell you how much it means.  I feel 10x better than I did on Saturday, and a lot of it is owed to you.  I will be doing the progress pics probably every month as I think I will need it.  Honestly, this board was a dream come true...it has helped tremendously! 

Thank you all so much!  If there is anything I can do for any of you, please let me know as I would love to pay you all back. 

I like you guys all very very much.  You are all so sweet and supportive.  Sorry for the NOVEL of a post, but I wanted to address all of you.

Now, a little about myself!

I'm 20, I live on Long Island in NY, I am going into my 3rd year of College (Long Island University C.W. Post), I'm a Broadcasting Major with a concentration in Radio, I love music, and my back-up plan for if a career in radio fell through has always been cosmetology school!  lol, Thanks all for reading!

LOVE,

Christine

PS - My short-term hair goal is Shoulder-Length.  (Hopefully by this Christmas).  My long-term one is bra-strap length! 

Edited by Tiramisu2c

I feel so sorry for you, but i really does look good.
And think how healthy hair youve have got now when your starting to grow it long. You cant have a better starting point than that

Dont ever go back to that woman again, always be ware of the ones who are cutting mad...

I'm so sorry to hear that this person didn't listen to your wishes; while it really doesn't look bad, I completely get where you're uncomfortable not being able to wear it up as you'd like. I agree with AnaisSatin on how long it will take; it'll be down to your shoulders again by the end of the year. I've got to say, your color is wonderful; is that natural?

Thank you SO much Anais!  Lucky for me, my hair is very healthy.  You really think that by Christmas time I'll have shoulder-length again?  LOL, I vowed to wear my hair in a pony until it was longer.  I think my short-term goal will be Shoulder-Length, then my longer-term goal will be bra-strap length as I've never allowed it to get that long, but I'd love to.  You can't tell in that picture, because I put it in a pony tail when it was wet and it dried like that with those bumps, but my hair naturally is deeply wavy, which when longer, turns into banana curls.  I haven't let them get that long in a long time. 
Thanks for the hug, I know I can do it, it's just hard.  I'm trim-happy as I get bored very easily, but I can't wait for longer hair again.  This has been a nightmare for me.  Finally when I start to love my curls, someone shears them off! LoL, thanks again!
Love,
Christine
PS - Perhaps the shine is from my shampoo/conditioner?
Yesterday I used Pantene Pro-V for Brunettes, but I'm an avid Matrix Sleek-Look user.  I just like to switch it up sometimes.  I recommend it to anyone with a little frizz!  Well, off to work!!