QuoteReplyTopic: Hair Musings and Question Posted: March 26 2007 at 3:50pm
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To be more specific, 16, I think that it is the nature of many men and women to be Narcissistic about their own wants and needs, and the moment a partner is "roped in", so to speak, little things that people used to do to please each other become unimportant.
Now, as for being wary of controlling people, I have four daughters, and one was involved in a horrendous relationship of this type. It is up to each person who has been through this to size up the new person, and make a decision whether particular requests, e.g., growing hair, are made to gain an inroad into conquest or are simply a statement of preference. Personally, I can't even relate to the desire to control one's spouse, and aside from hair, I don't remember ever asking her to change her appearance in any way. Or, tell her where she can go or who she can befriend!
Long hair has always been my favorite attribute on a woman, and this was not a surprise to her after we married. I think it took about a month for me to reveal my proclivity to her. (lol) Blessings, Bob
Bob,
It is obvious that you have strong opinions on many subjects. However, you do not know me or my life. Even though I can take offense to your postings,I choose to rack it up to text only communication being the most uninformed. For example, if we were conversing face-to-face we would have tonal inflections and body language, however, when I read your text only postings, I feel as though I am being judged by you. I am sure this is NOT your intent. So, how about if we keep our communication strictly on hair related subjects and life styles and experiences not allowed?
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To be more specific, 16, I think that it is the nature of many men and women to be Narcissistic about their own wants and needs, and the moment a partner is "roped in", so to speak, little things that people used to do to please each other become unimportant.
Now, as for being wary of controlling people, I have four daughters, and one was involved in a horrendous relationship of this type. It is up to each person who has been through this to size up the new person, and make a decision whether particular requests, e.g., growing hair, are made to gain an inroad into conquest or are simply a statement of preference. Personally, I can't even relate to the desire to control one's spouse, and aside from hair, I don't remember ever asking her to change her appearance in any way. Or, tell her where she can go or who she can befriend!
Long hair has always been my favorite attribute on a woman, and this was not a surprise to her after we married. I think it took about a month for me to reveal my proclivity to her. (lol) Blessings, Bob
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P.S. On the "lovelobs'" thread above, I just wanted to say that it's great when partners do things which support each other. I know that this goes against some people's nature.
You may be right about being a supporting partner going against some people's nature, but if one has ever been in a controlling or abusive relationship and survives..there is that emotional baggage of not letting someone else telling you how to "be."
Thanks for the suggestion to just let the ole hair go. I think that is good advice and I plan to follow it. There are two salons within an hour of me that specialize in George Michael products and techniques and are just for long haired folks. Their web sites are impressive...has anyone heard of these products? Even if I don't use them, I would probably feel safe going to them for trims.
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Might keeping the sides and nape short create the mirage that you are going nowhere, 16? I suggest letting it all grow for maybe half a year. Seeing that hair nestle slowly down my wife's neck was very sensuous as she was growing hers years ago. The point will come when not trimming makes your growing pixie look like a sloppy shag, but trimming the very bottom at that moment might prove satisfactory. DW waited 14 months w/o trims, and it looked so slovenly that she almost surrendered. Had she done so, back to square one, I doubt she'd have been willing to try again. Blessings, Bob
P.S. On the "lovelobs'" thread above, I just wanted to say that it's great when partners do things which support each other. I know that this goes against some people's nature.
P.P.S. It is curious that when DW had short hair I found myself noticing *short* cuts more often, wondering what might look good on *her*. It was difficult, but I did get "with the program" of liking her short hair to some extent, esp. since I thought it would always remain so. (lol)
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Since I've decided to grow my hair out, I notice long hair EVERYWHERE! I live in the Wash DC metro area and take public transportation to work. This gives me the opportunity to view lots of different hair lengths, styles, racial and ethnic group differences, etc. So many people of all ages and groups have long hair here. Love it. Change to other musing....does anyone else when they see someone with longer hair that is in terrible condition due to over bleaching or whatever, want to just run up to that person and give them this web site address and some advice?! Or am I the only pushy type? I ordered some jojoba oil and have been massaging it into my scalp every night. Really like how it is just sort of soaked up and doesn't leave a greasy feel. Also ordered HairTopia and started taking that last Monday...no real change yet, but I'll keep ya all posted. Now for the big question! Since I am letting my hair grow out from a very short masculine type cut (it was actually clipper buzzed at my nape and around my ears) should I keep cutting the back at the nape until the sides are even with that length, or should I do what DH did and just let it go and deal with the layers later? I'd still have layers either way, but less to deal with if I do the first option. I'd love all your opinions and suggestions, especially if you have gone through this process from xshort to long. Thanks in advance and love you guys!
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Bob S wrote:
To be more specific, 16, I think that it is the nature of many men and women to be Narcissistic about their own wants and needs, and the moment a partner is "roped in", so to speak, little things that people used to do to please each other become unimportant.
Blessings, Bob 
I ordered some jojoba oil and have been massaging it into my scalp every night. Really like how it is just sort of soaked up and doesn't leave a greasy feel. Also ordered HairTopia and started taking that last Monday...no real change yet, but I'll keep ya all posted. Now for the big question! Since I am letting my hair grow out from a very short masculine type cut (it was actually clipper buzzed at my nape and around my ears) should I keep cutting the back at the nape until the sides are even with that length, or should I do what DH did and just let it go and deal with the layers later? I'd still have layers either way, but less to deal with if I do the first option. I'd love all your opinions and suggestions, especially if you have gone through this process from xshort to long. Thanks in advance and love you guys!
