Anybody out there with oily hair how do you deal?

Use a good clarifying shampoo. Paul Mitchel Shampoo Two is exelent for oily hair. It controls the oil but won't dry out your hair. There is also a hair product line called Salerm which makes an oil control line for oily hair. Their products are great. I love them. I've found it in alot of salons here in Miami. If salons in your area don't carry it you can google it. I know they sell it online.

Hi julia. I wouldn't recommend purposely drying out your hair. Not only imay your hair end up looking frizzy and fried, but it's also a temporary solution and it sounds like you want something more permanent. Unless you actually want ot change your hair color for the color itself, in which case I say go for it, and you can probably still keep it looking healthy if your do it right and be nice to it in every other way.
I also had the same problem as you and fixed it within the last year. I had hair that needed to be shampooed daily. And if I missed a day it would be so greasy that my stepdad would make funny of me saying you could fry bacon with the grease on my head.  The thing is we produce sebum to protect our hair. and when we start washing our hair every day, our scalp tries to compensate by speeding up the oil production. IT becomes a vicious cirlce where we have to wash every day. SHampoos are also very harsh and drying, which only makes it worse.  THe only way to stop this cycle is simply to wash your hair less and let the scalp adjust. Oh you'll look like a grease ball at first, but it works.
At the moment I haven't washed my hair in 2 weeks and it only looks slightly oily. But I went hard core and did water only for 3 months. You don't have to go that extreme. but it doesn't the job pretty quick and hard. You can click on the thread about it at the bottom if your curious.
I started out with a less hard core way of just cleaning my hair with conditioner instead of shampoo. It's not as harsh and it much better for your hair. You have to do it a certain way to actually get your hair clean, so if your curious just let me know and I 'll explain clean your hair though. ALthough it gets greasier faster than if you shampoo since your not stripping the oils as much. But since it's not as drying as shampoo, your scalp will slowly learn to produce less oil ot accommodate. So I started out Coing and stretching my washing times out so that I would let my hair be greasy for a day before I washed it. I would also let it be greasy anytime I was just going to stay at home or if I wore a hat that day. I got to wahsing every 3 days with the third day looking pretty greasy. Took oh, I think 6 months though. But my hair was healthier  and the oil production did slow. FOr instance, If I shampood I could go 3 days without it looking greasy and it would start ot look greasy on the 4th day.
It's not easy if your very self conscious about looking greasy. But you can always wear your hair up on the greasy days , and you do that anyway.  But i'm telling you, if your wash less, your scalp will eventually learn that it doesn't need to produce as muich grease.
Good luck with figuring your hair out. I'm sure you will and it will look fabulous. ANd if you have any questions about anything I said just asdk. I'm happy to help cause I've been there girl so I know what it's like. Good luck!