Uzma, If I may ask you?

Well I just had to pop in here and applaud your bravery Uzma. I know how difficult it is to break through oppression. it is just amazing how controlling some people can be (ie parents!) I had a very controlling father growing up - I broke through when i moved away to go to college in my 20's and it took me a good 5 years to properly define myself after that....Although the definition still contains many, many layers! What I did learn is that - the one who controls does it out of their own insecurity...while you remain complacent, they will still feel you love them. if they lose control, they feel they lose you. it took a long time for me to reach my dad and make him know that i would love him no matter what...and since then I really do feel he has set me free - ie he no longer tries to control my every action.
i learned that with those who rejected me when i changed - I gave extra time,love and attention....this worked.

Good for you Uzma - Be you - no matter what!

jacqui

Thanks Uzma...,

OK, I'm on a roll.....Dracula? Could the sweet elixir be blood? Hmmm...Yep, thats my guess.

Toodles

OK, I know this doesn't count because I can't remember his name. But I'm guessing...the cute guy from "Lord of the Rings". Orlando Bloom, played the part.....I loved those movies.

Uzma,

Riddle no.1.;

Could it be the mischieveous little darling CUPID?

Isla can't you tell Maria is jivin a little, a little tongue in check with the comment that uzma is causin controversy. She's just tuggin on your skirt a little Isla Q.
Can't you tell that?????!!!!!

I must say I don't think Uzma caused controversy here, as Lady Maria put it. The only person who seemed slightly shocked (for lack of a better word), was Maria herself.

And Wittils: well said!

I must add though that it has been fun and interesting, and Uzma has also indicated that in spite of her strong opinions she can also be flexible, diplomatic, and learn from others, which I find very admirable in her. We have all gained from the conversations on this board. The conversations by and large have been civilized, decent, and worthwhile.

Can't blame Uzma for creating all the controversy... Uzma "was just saying what she believed, it's no biggie. Nothin wrong with that girl, she's got that right, I believe." (Borrowed that from Melba).

Sorry for the sarcasm. But it bothers me when people open themselves up to answer a simple question and get slammed.

I do agree with the fact that some girls look great with short hair and it seems so carefree and fun. Long hair is beautiful too. Both can be feminine, that is for sure.

I don't have the face for short hair, I mean short, short. It's too boyish on me. But if I did I would probably wear it that way. Yet I feel so much better with my hair very long. I have beautiful hair when it is long and not everyone can wear it long like that, so that make's it kind of special for those of us who can.

Uzma,

Simply by expressing yourself honestly, see all the controversy you create, all of the people giving their various responses and misinterpetations and interpetations of what you said!

You are by nature a controversial, opinionated, obstinate person, strong willed person, Uzma.

Because you have deep feelings, and are philosophical about the decisions you make, even as simple of a decision as growing your hair out, becomes controversial and causes a reaction in others.

Because you are who you are, you will always probably be a little "different" or "controversial" uzma, and I don't necessarily mean that in a bad way. Maybe that is your fate girl! That's just the way you are!

But the again maybe it takes one to know one!

Uzma...

I appreciate how you shared with us your struggle and growth. It really is not about vanity but fulfillment. I was really inspired and wanted you to know this.

I am older and just recently chopped off all of my hair to collar bone length, it sort of symbolized a fresh beginning for me. I would love to go your route of never cutting it again, maybe I will. I really do not have plans, I just want it to be healthy and long. Before I cut it I was struggling with the condition of my hair. And now it is healthy.

I take extra care to take extra care of my hair, so maybe I can realize my desire.

The way I see it is time is passing anyway and in 5 years I can either have long hair or wish I had long hair...

wittils