Struggling

I think I'd faint dead away if my husband said,"Honey, I think with your yellow-peach undertones you should wear eggshell rather than white, and opt for shoeswith a higher vamp." LOL! :-)

> JerkyFleaI just wanted to thank you for a great laugh this morning.Thanks,Lynn

Believe it or not, I was thinking the exact same thing! I mean, when I looked at the post, I wondered how it could be said again without being absolutely verbatim. There are ways people can say the same things by changing just a few words. And that's what I thought when I read the post. To change a few words but say nothing new. To....oh, never mind. ;-)

Hi, Katie.There are two extreme viewpoints on this subject:1. Always do what /you/ want when dressing, making up your face, cutting your hair, getting a navel ring, etc. To hell with anyone else. It's YOUR body, face, hair, navel, etc.2. Always adorn yourself to your lover's taste.Most people's opinions fall somewhere between the two, i.e., do what you want but consider his feelings. In this case, I would urge you to gratify your husband's wishes. When men actually bother to articulate a style preference, it's usually because they /really/ like it. You won't hear your average guy say, "Honey, I think with your yellow-peach undertones you should wear eggshell rather than white, and opt for shoes with a higher vamp." I'm willing to bet long hair would make a big difference to him.Now, if you really /hate/ long hair, don't do it. But since you've said it's only a little more trouble, why not let it grow for a while and see how he reacts?I have always found that it's to MY best advantage to turn my boyfriend on as much as possible. ;)Ally

> I learned all about his passion which is cigars....Yuck!! Yuck AGAIN!! YUCK YUCK YUCK!!!I hope this guy is really good in other ways, 'cause this is a REALLY DISGUSTING habit, in fact it makes me almost puke just thinking about the rancid smell of those yucky things.Thank god this is one "fad" that is decreasing in popularity. I attribute the rise in cigar's popularity a few years ago to none other than......Rush Limprod, er Limbaugh.Some jerk walked into an elevator not too long ago with a lit cigar, in complete violation of the clearly posted sign that said "NO SMOKING".I was on the elevator. I politely asked him to remove himself before the elevator door shut, to which he replied that he "wasn't smoking, only holding the lit cigar".This is the kind of mentality that is usually found in the common cigar smoker.Under normal circumstances I would have just hauled off and hit the insolent ba*tard, but since the cops have a bicycle substation in that building, I just got off the elevator before the door closed. The cops are much more likely to arrest a person for staring a fist fight than for violating the city's no-smoking ordinance )-:Cigars....they smell like what they look like!There are just not many things that I get THAT upset about, but cigars is definitely one of them! So, can we PLEASE keep them out of the discussions around here???Z.

>The best thing I can say to you is communication. My situation was similar to yours except my boyfriend thought it would be cute if I cut my hair. I won't cut my hair so I took the extra time to really show him my reasons why I want to keep my long hair. IN the process of all this of this understanding we also had sommething to share. I learned all about his passion which is cigars and he learned all about my hair products . Now everything is just fine.Maybe you can take him aside and really share with him why you really want short hair.

Katie,A lady like you needs to honor your husbands request.Katie you should grow your hair out as long you can.Just keep growing your hair longer until he is satisfied,that it is long enough. A lady like you,should always honoryour husbands request for long hair. If your husbandwants you to grow waist length hair,you should growhair down to your waist. Most husbands like waist lengthhair and my wife is 40,and nows that waist length hairis the best style a ladie can have. It time to your husbanda strong positive gift,Katie. A lady like should give hima long hair style,that her husbands wants,you should honor your husband and grow your hair out as long as you can until your husband is satisfied. A lady like you has one mission for your hair,to grow it long. Bill

Hi Katie,First of all, what is a cap cut? It almost sounds like a wedge.It sounds like you simply prefer short hair, and your husband prefers long. You said he asked you if you'd consider growing it long -- does he really prefer it long or just wants to see you with a new look? It is your hair, and you're the one who has to wash it and take care of it. I would talk with him and find out how important it is to him that you have long hair. If short hair is that important to you, I would tell him, and perhaps he'll understand.However, I sympathize with the growing out phase. I'm in it myself! But my hair is shorter than yours, and I really don't care for it at all, so I wear my hair naturally at home but wear a long haired wig in public.My suggestion is to really discuss this with your husband. And, of course, the ultimate decision is yours.Take care!