pleasing the opposite sex

Hi Karen Marie,

Thanks for the details.

I know what you mean. I almost always wear my hair pulled back. Not my best look IMO, but it`s practical and work-ready.

If you`re reading this at home, maybe take that "moment" now, then? :-)

Hi Karen Marie,

"... there are ways that I could wear my hair to look younger and feel much better about myself..."

Are you kidding me!

No other hairstyle could possibly make you look any younger! (IMO)

I can`t imagine how a different hairstyle could make you feel better about yourself... would you like to elaborate?

My husband is in the forces and is often away for many months at a time. Unfortunately, as a result of a past indiscretion on my behalf, my husband becomes very nervous when he goes away. I therefore make sure that the day before he sets sail, I visit the hairdresser and make sure that my hair is permed and cut into a short and conservative style. This was not his idea, it was his mothers. I had a discussion with her, explained that he was feeling insecure as a result of my indiscretion and asked for her advice. At the time my hair was long and quite sexy and she suggested that maybe it would help if I toned down my image. She didn`t put any pressure on me and after careful consideration I decided that the hair should go. I didn`t tell my husband what I was going to do, but made an appointment for the afternoon before he was to leave. I had all my hair cut off and permed into quite a traditional short curly style.I presented myself to him that evening with my g sexy hair having been replaced with plain and somewhat dowdy short haircut. He never knew why I did it, but he loved my new look and I`m sure that with my toned down image, he set sail with a happier heart. That was 10 years ago and although I allow my hair to grow whilst he`s at sea or on shore duty ( I like to look pretty for him on his return and whilst he`s here), once he`s off to see again, purely through my own choice, I make sure that the hair comes off, the curls are nice and tight and he`s waived farewell by his little miss prim and propper who`s no threat to anyone.

I think it will vary as much as the short vs. long debate. Personally, I wear my hair the way my spouse likes it best. I want to be as attractive as I can to her and this is one way to do it. I don`t know what I would do if she wanted me to wear it in a way I find really ugly. My spouse doesn`t wear hers exactly the way I find most attractive but she does compromise. I have tried other styles but I go back to the style she prefers.