Does anyone get upset if their significant other changes their hair without telling them?

For us it's a power play. She knows about my hair and makeover obcessions but likes to keep me guessing. For her it's fun to tease. I love it when we look at hairstyles together, strangely, I never feel closer than when we do this! For me it's the drama of the exact decision for deciding on a new style and frankly I don't like surprises. She's the exact opposite, she loves to surprise people. I've found that life is best when I just pay the compliments to her and not her hair. Sometimes she says, "you just like my new haircut"... So hey I'm fooling no one but me, she knows. We make the best of it in the healthiest way possible.

Naw, not upset about it at all.
When my wife went to cosmotology school, she, along with many of her classmates, became practice heads for each other.

It became a mystery almost daily, what she'd look like when she got home from school.

Change is good for the soul, or so I'm told.

When my husband and I met I had long hair. Shortly after we were married I got it cut to a just-above-shoulder-length bob. Well, I guess he felt like I had breached our contract or something. At times, I have grown my hair out and then for whatever reason I am unhappy with it and I go back and get it cut again. It has never reached its pre-marriage length of BSL. But I'm really gonna do it this time. I really am going to grow it out (hopefully it will grow to BSL again). My husband doesn't believe me though. He really does prefer long hair. The last time I cut my hair and came home, he said, "You think you would prepare someone before you get your hair cut short. You didn't mention this to me." I think it's mostly the shock of it that bothers him - you know, that I don't at least consult with him.

Caramia

About 10 years ago, my wife had the most beautiful red hair that reached down to her waist. It was gorgeous. One day her best friend was doing her usual hard sell to get her to cut it and my wife said OK. She came home and announced her decision and I told her how much I had always admired her hair. She essentially told me, "F*** You" , Mary thinks I should cut it. I asked what about how I think? She told me that sometimes if one partner makes a decision that impacts both, the other will just have to deal with it. I felt more hurt by the attitude, and the next day she came home with a hoorible short haircut. I felt like crying. I could not talk to her, it was too painful.
Next day at work my boss mentioned that there was a job opening in a location I liked that would be a nice promotion, while at the same time telling me the department would be laying some people off in the next couple months, so I suggest you seriously think about it. Hint: you had better take it.
I went home and while I really did not want to talk to her because I still felt hurt, I informed her of the job situation. She immediately accused me of retaliating against her. She told me I could just quit my well paying job with the company (16 years) and go find another. With her part time, minimum wage job, it certainly could not support us. Work in my career field was not easy to find in the area. Discussion of any intelligent nature was a moot point. If it were not for the recent attitude she copped, I might have taken the painful route to accomodate her desire to stay with her friends and family in the area. But I was certainly not getting any respect or consideration from her, so I just said the same thing she told me a couple nights ago, that sometimes if one partner makes a decision that impacts both, the other will just have to deal with it.
The next day, I notified my boss I would take the transfer. My wife decided that night to apologize for her attitude, and tell me she was sorry, however the damage is done. She then asked me if I would apologize too. And I did for being sort with her. So she said, great, we are NOT moving. No, I said we are. Well I'm not sorry she said and she held a grudge for awhile. To end this tail, we moved, the new position and the area is great. My wife forgive me and apologized for accusing me of retaliating against her. A couple months later, the whole plant closed in our old town, alot of people weren't offered transfers. My wife and I made peace, she have both matured a great deal since then, we are still married and we learned alot about the need to respect each other. A few years ago, my wife admitted she didn't like the short haircut and was angry at Mary for pressuring her. My wife grew to really like the new area too.
Oh, for you that are really more concerned about her hair then the relationship details, she grew it out a few inches but it has never reached her previous length.

Communication is the key to any good relationship. That and of course respect and love.
It is good to let your spouse know what you plan on doing, even if you are determined to do it anyway.

If the person is a significant other, I would hope the communication is there that they'd feel they can share an appearance change. If they don't, either she thinks he doesn't care or his opinion doesn't matter. Either way there's something wrong with the relationship.

If I were in a relationship that lacked that communication, I'd be upset. She doesn't need my approval to quit her job or cut her hair, but if I'm important to her she should mention it to me first.

Only a most insecure person would be bothered by a change in significant other's hairstyle. Even if you don't really like it, if it makes that person happy (or even if it doesn't--we all make mistakes), you should love the person, not their hair!

Not me, never changed my hair, but I have a little different take on the matter. In my faith, we (Sikhs) cannot cut or shave our hair. Granted, there are some less traditional Sikhs that choose to wear shorter hair, but if my boyfriend ever approached me with a shorn beard or cut hair, I think I would faint!

Have no significant other, but if I did, I would hope they`d tell me. And if they
looked nice, would hope they`d avoid changing. No expectations certainly, but
I am the kind of guy who reasons "if it ain`t broke? Why fixit?" But no, I don`t
assume I`ll have a wife like that.

I too love change. Though I could see if it was a real bad change being disappointed that she didn`t run it by me first. I know, I know...selfish. Though I run things by her first.