i want help with my hair

I have the very same problem. What I try to do is the following:
1. Only shampoo every 2 or 3 days.
2. Condition every day. I use Pantene's "Smooth & Sleek" It seems to make my hair straighter.
3. Towel dry really really well, but not violently. This is the most difficult part because it takes like 10 minutes. I just squeeze sections of my hair dry.
4. Once my hair is about 80% dry or so, I put in Pomade, usually from Hydrology. It makes my hair obey me, but when I run my hands through, it literally doesn't feel like there's any product there.
5. Once the pomade is in, I press my hair into the style I want.
This actually works well. Some days, if I feel like leaving it a little messier and wavy, I just put the pomade in while it's wet. I can wear my hair like 4 different ways when it's longer.
I hope this helps.