Un-cut Hair

Hello

Recently I have been exploring the idea of leaving my hair un-cut for the rest of my life.

I sought and found inspiration in many cultures, religions, etc. However, as a modern woman living in the big city and working for a global corporation, the choice of un-cut hair is controversial.

I am committed to NEVER letting a sissor near my hair again. I never use heat on it, always protect it from the elements and cherish it.

Is there anyone out there who has also made this choice?
What are your reasons?
How long have you been letting your hair grow? What responses have you had from others?
Do you ever forsee cutting it...why?

Uzma (curious and un-cut)

Hey, Uzma! Kudos to ya- you`re very bold for deciding to do that. ITs a shame that we live in these `modern` cultures where that kind of free expression is looked down upon. I agree with Gary (above)- since you`ve gone thru so much personal trouble to grow your hair out,, and if its what you really want to do, then go for it! Hope your hair grows long & beautiful, and don`t let anyone`s criticism ruin the happiness you get from it. Its none of their business, anyway!
Love, Ingrid :) :)

Cool idea. Good luck. Don`t worry about conformist pressure. It`s trash
and ignoble.

Hi Inga

My mother is not "off my case" ....she has changed tactics (and I`m quite enjoying it).

SHE IS BUYING STUFF FOR MY HAIR!!!!

She bought me an absolutely gorgeous diamante clip last week and yesterday when I visited her she bought me a really expensive and very beautiful antique slide for when it`s longer.

My initial reaction was "o my God, I`ve become her personal `dress-up doll`" but it`s actually quite OK because I think this is her way of showing concern for her now mentally ill daughter (lol).

We went to a charity ball the other day and I wore a beaded see-thru black lace jacket with a skimpy, clingly top underneath (very fem) and heels,etc. My hair was pinned back and I wore the diamante clip she had bought me. I had a LOT of compliments, most within my mother`s hearing as to the positive transformation in my appearance (incl.hair) and I could see her beaming with pride.

She`s still fairly shocked but at least the hostility is over.

Mom`s no longer the problem. What is more worrying is that I am being harassed by a guy at work...anyway that`s another story.

What`s happened in your life, Inga?
The event I last recall was your brother making a positive comment on your new short hairstyle, at a family dinner.
Has your mother softened up at all?
Have you spoken to her about your feelings?
I would be interested to know her ongoing responses.

Take care and bye for now.

Love

Uzma

Uzma, sounds like the geek at work is interested in you. I know, I went through an awkward stage in my life. You say some dumb things. Now I have past that due to growing up and learning we are all just people. Actually I went too far and and became ****y but that has passed too. Be nice to the guy. HE probably is just not sure how to approach you. Never know he could be your diamond in the rough that just needs a little polishing. Sounds like your stone is beginning to shine. Give him a chance too. Just a thought.

Hey Uzma! Good to hear from ya!
Wierd stuff about your mom...I guess she got the point! :) Or is she scheming in some other way? Who knows with mothers, right? Either way, I`m happy to hear that she`s being supportive- that was really sweet of her to buy you that stuff. Sounds like your hair is looking good. If its kinda wild and wavy now, then it`ll look great once its longer. Wild, untamed long hair is super-sexy, and hey, if it gets a little hard to deal with sometimes, just remember the happiness it gives you & the effort you`ve gone through to grow it out! :) :)
Don`t want to talk too soon, but it sounds like a victory to me :) :) :)
What`s the deal with this guy at your work? Married with kids? What did he say or do to you, anyway (if you want to tell)? Well, he may be harmless, but any guy who would betray his vows and his children has proven himself untrustworthy. That`s a wierd situation; you don`t want to be cruel or catty with someone, but sometimes if you`re even a little bit nice to them they think its some kind of invitation. I dont know the specifics, but be kinda careful- I`m no expert but it seems like guys can sometimes get really nasty if they feel rejected or shamed. Good luck with all of that & be careful, OK? (sorry I don`t want to scare ya or anything like that, but you never know from people....)
Anyway, things have been kinda up & down with me. On the good side, I cut my hair again, a little bit shorter. I dance with the school dance team & on my own, and it kept getting in my eyes since it is too short to put up- I like it a lot tho. Its really short! Now I can pull it back with a hand band or with tiny butterfly clips & keep it off my face.
My mom hasn`t nagged on me about it- she actually said it was `cute` when I came home from the salon. I dont know if she was being honest or not, but it was a lot better than "You look like a boy!". Still, yesterday we got some pictures of me & my brothers developed; they were from when I still had long hair, and she said "See, look how pretty you were with long hair." Ugh! Oh well. For the most part, she`s backed off, which is good cuz I`m pretty tight with my mom & it kinda hurts when she rags on me about stuff like that (we were always close & always talk about `girlie` stuff- kind of our refuge from my all-too-manly father & brothers).
On the bad side, I broke up with my b/f (got dumped, to be honest) :( :( It would be stupid to say its cuz I cut my hair, but I know that he hated it short & thought I wasn`t as pretty without it. I`ve been kinda heartbroken & blue the last couple of days- locked in my room & writing depressing poetry and stuff. Don`t want to whine or anything, but I`m sad; I thought we were good together :( I`m not sure why he did it, but I know there are other girls that he`s been eyeing for a while; he says that I was `to emotional and serious` for him, & he `just wants to have fun`. *Whine!*:(
Anway, enough of that! I know what you mean by the lack of chivalry. I`m sure there are really good guys out there; ones who will appreciate such ravishing, charming beauties as us! (Hehehehehe!)
Ok, I gotta go now. Thanks for writing and stuff & thanks to anyone else who took their time to read this!
Take care, Uzma!
Lotsa lotsa Love (or as they say over in your part of the world, Cheers!)
Inga :)

Uzma-
Thanks so much! You`re wonderful & supportive & I really appreciate it! I never thought that heartbreak could hurt so much, but there are people like you out there who know what its like and can just be a friend if its needed. I know this is supposed to be a hair-related board and we`re kinda falling off the subject, but I`m happy you were here. Funny how someone you meet on a message board online can make you feel better than your closest friends & family (they`ve been great but nobody said anything as inspiring as you!)
Yeah, it still hurts bad- he was my first real boyfriend & altho I`m not naive enough to think that it was `meant to be` or that we`d be together forever (I wish fairy tales were true but theyre not), I was, and am, in love with him. Actually, I was long before we ever got together. It seems like every memory I have of the last year and a half since we first met has him in it, and it feels wierd and bleak knowing that he won`t be in the ones that are being made right now. (Did that even make sense?)
You`re right tho- I didn`t do anything wrong, he did. Its hard to remember that & believe it, but I`ll try.
Again, thanks soooooo much for caring, Uzma, and thanks for all of your encouragement and support and...crap, I`m gonna get teary again. Just thanks, OK?
I sending you back a big huge hug!
Lotsa love,
Inga :) :)

P.S. Sorry to everybody else for getting personal & off the subject- y`know how it goes.....

hey uzma, i was wondering: in your first post you said that you found inspiration in different cultures and religions... could you give examples? i would love to hear about it. Thanks:)

well thank you very much ingrid!

One more gorgeous web-site with hair customs/styles from different time-periods and cultures:

http://www.erasofelegance.com/hairstyles.html