Un-cut Hair

Uzma,
I congradulate you on your brave and interesting decision to grow your hair as long as it can grow. A year ago I had hair past my waist, but my hair was thin, tangled easily, and I decided to get it cut. It also takes an extraordinary amount of time and energy to really care for hair that long.
It was fun having hair that long though. Best of luck and have a happy New Year!

Hi Uzma,
I got my hair cut a year ago out of frustration and depression, I had broken up with a guy and I just went to the beauty salon and had it cut. I had it cut initially in a short bob cut and then a week later went back and had it cut in a short pixie. Quite a change going from hair past my waist to a short pixie!
I really missed my long hair,I cried some tears, but I did get compliments on my new look(you look cute, adorable, that sort of thing), and many of my girlfriends and women co-workers wear their hair short, which helped.
Two months after I got my hair cut short I met a guy who is really good to me, a handsome, loving man who I really love, and that really helped too. We are getting married this May.
I have done other things also to compensate for my lack of hair. I always dress feminine, I always wear makeup, I got my ears pierced again, I wear two earrings in each ear, and I have a pierced left nostril and I wear a nosestud. I bought some beautiful new skirts and dresses. I actually feel very feminine!
I go in once a month for a trim to keep my pixie looking good and not shaggy. It is actually quite short now, the shortest I have worn my hair, my pixie really isn`t much longer than a crewcut, but I have gotten used to the style, and after the initial shock of not having long hair wore off, and the tears dried up, I have to say I really like my new short hairstyle.
I can see why you want to wear your hair long though Uzma I still love looking at long hair on both men and women, it is wonderful!
I say , you go girl, if you really want exceptionally long hair and you feel you have the right hair for it,(I really didn`t , my hair was too thin), grow it as long as you like! that sounds like fun Uzma!

Happy New Year, and enjoy your long hair!

Hello Turquoise Girl

Thanks for your interest.

My hair is now shoulder-length and growing fast.
Its black with silver streaks (naturally) - my 5 year old neice keeps saying "you have glitter in your hair".
It has loose waves in it but has a tendency to dry frizzy on the day I wash it.
Its strange the way it looks - unusual, having it`s own unique combination of characteristics. It looks and feels unlike I had imagined it would.

I am toying with the idea of having a series of black & white art photographs taken of it (and my self) as it is growing out. Like a sort of testimony to my "peaking femininity" - well I`m in my thirties now so everything will head south soon - I`ll need something to cheer me up on a cold wet afternoon ......


Take care TG.

Love

Uzma

Hi Inga

Guess what - my Mother has decided to grow her hair!!!
I feel victorious...hehehe.

And yes, its the Song of Songs again. I really love it - although my favorite part of the Bible is Hosea.
They both move me.

Inga - please write some more poetry soon and post it on the Hair Poetry board. I really enjoy your imagery and use of language.

Take care

Love

Uzma

Hi Jacqui

Glad you enjoyed the links.
Sounds like you have come to a peaceful co-existence with your hair - or maybe it would be more precise to say that you have granted it it`s freedom.
I like what you said.
Enjoy your journey of discovery.
And thanks for sharing.

Love

Uzma

As a liberal thinker I have to admire you for your choice to go against the norm. As a cosmetologist I also want to tell you that it is possible to give your hair regular trims to give it shape and to guard against split ends and still grow it out. If split ends go unchecked they can split right up to your scalp and that leads to breakage. Be careful of over-conditioning. Hair needs a balance of moisture and protein(to strengthen). Too much of either one will lead to breakage. It's also a good idea to invest in salon quality products. The ingredients and cleansing agents are much better and more gentle on hair. The use of a shine mist or solution applied to your hair daily will help protect it from the elements, however, these products tend to make the hair appear greasy if too much is applied but it's worth it. I also hope that you don't end up with the long hair that makes me and every other stylist I know kringe at the sight. Long, untouched hair that gets so thin and stringy at the ends I want to go and cut it off where its fuller and would look better. It's caused by breakage. Regular maintenance can leave your hair full from scalp to the very ends. Good luck.

wonderfully said uzma:)

Hal

Yes.
Minimal interference is my aim - but, as a religious woman - "cleanliness is next to Godliness".

Therefore, I wash it and moisturise it if and when I feel it is required. I administer basic care and then leave it alone.

If I lived in the Hunza Valley (a relatively unspoilt and pure environment in my homeland) - I would probably wash my hair and body in the local stream as needed - and that would be it.

But I live in polluted London on a questionably toxic diet, hence more washing and nurturing of hair and body wih "substances" than is ideal.

Best regards

Uzma

Hi Kintaro

Thanks for your comments – very interesting.

> How long has it been since you stopped believing in all this society-mandated crap ? <

I read a book back in the 80s about mind-contol experiments by the US government. I was interested in the theory that the guy who assasinated John Lennon had been “programmed” into committing murder by the CIA.
After reading that – and a great deal of thought – it struck me how important social control was in societies with huge and diverse populations. If everyone was permitted to be truly autonomous – truly independent in thought and action – the state, status quo and social stability would be under constant challenge.
So, feed the key messages via parents, school, media, laws, etc. Feed the young, immpressional brains your concepts of right, wrong, friend, enemy, conformity, rebellion – all the symbols of fear and desire – and seal them in the name of freedom and civilization. Never has man been so free to do so little. Once you start the de-construction process in your head, a scatter effect takes place and your spirit, your uniqueness, thrusts you forward.

> homo sapiens: a creature that can have a much longer length on the head, and elsewhere. Hair is there. So I say make use of it instead of discarding it. <

I don’t know, and no one has been able to satisfactorily explain to me why we are the only species that grow such long “fur” in so selective a location. The “protect brain from heat-loss and damage” theory doesn’t explain why guys go bald. The aquatic ape theory consisting of “babies need to hold onto long hair while aquatic mother swims in water” is too far-fetched. So I guess the only way I can find out is through direct experience – which is where I am heading.

>The appeal of the long hair derives in no part from femininity or masculinity. <

I agree with you in that the hair itself is fascinating and attracts sensual attention, whether attached to a male or female. I find long-haired guys very sexy. However, I feel less of a woman (?), less whole perhaps or less spiritually and sexually complete with short-hair. Again, I don’t know why. I am on a journey of discovery.
My mind is open and my opinions are developing in line with my experience.
Hair is a gender-less. It is an entity with a strong, primal magnetism. Hair is mysterious.

>We are human, and if we exploit what we are and not what we are told to do, that is natural beauty. That is art. <

YES YES YES !!!!!!!!! That’s exactly it.
And there is something that I had rejected in myself, nature and God – something I had cut myself off from when I had cut my hair short. I don’t condescend to anyone – this is true for me – you know what is true for you.
So glad you thought and wrote those words.


> If I want to master something, it will be myself. Please remember that, it may be one of the mantras you keep sacred in your mind. <

I agree and thank you for your gift of wisdom. Seek the Truth and it will set you free. Indeed it is the only thing that can.

>Any good product suggestions you may have that do not have pervasive smells and actually are beneficial to the hair, please, make a list. <

I am experimenting with loads of stuff at the moment. I will share the results in due course. If I find something that produces good results that fits your criteria, I will post it on this thread.

Thank you so much for your message. I love everything you said. Good luck to you on all your journeys.

Uzi (hehehe)

Hi Jennifer! Uzma is well aware of split ends and their inevitability when deciding upon uncut hair--she has discussed this topic in detail on various other threads (check out this one: http://talk.hairboutique.com/forum/viewthread.asp?forum=AMB%5FAP881778452&id=3995&sr1=community&sr2=&ExMth=no#post3997 ) To quote Uzma, "I have very specific reasons for choosing un-cut hair and these reasons are sufficiently compelling to maintain my commitment."