Short hair for life?

I have to agree that most women over 40 don't look good with long hair.  It is sort of like wearing belly baring shirts.  There is something gross about that too for women over 40, even if they are skinny.  I do have one very slim friend in her 50s and she has long white hair which is quite lovely.  But mostly, I just do not like it.  I agree with you Lovebobs.  No bashing from me!

I think Jane Seymore, Kim Basinger, Goldie Hawn, Krisite Brinkley, Julianne Morre,  Terri Hatcher, Demi Moore, Marcia Cross, among amny others might just disagree with you.

This kind of attitude is for the dinosaurs.

It's not just lack of washing that can make hair gross, but lack of trims (scraggly, fried ends are not attractive on anyone :-P ) and lack of style (hair that just flops there, looking at you like, "Okay, you got me here. . . now what?") are also big complaints of mine.  Hair is one of the most important fashion accessories a woman can have, yet so few actually do anything with it :-P .

Some older women can get away with longer hair, but a lot of women, their hair starts to thin with age.  I used to know a woman in her early 60s who was bound and determined to grow her hair long. . . but her hair was so thin it was like a sheer veil over her scalp, and on top of that, it was dry and frizzy -_- .  Her ponytail was maybe as big around as my pinky -_- .  People in that condition. . . well, would probably be better off just giving up on their real hair and wearing wigs. . .  But someone in her 60s whose hair is still reasonably thick and in good condition, it wouldn't be so much a problem.  See my above assertions of good upkeep and an actual style, though, as they also apply here. . . possibly even more, since grey hair is more fragile.

Some men can suit long hair, but not all.  *shrugs*  Part of it does depend on upkeep, of course, but also on the man's face and style of dress.  A man with a very rugged face might look odd with long hair, where one with a very "beautiful" face might be better-suited.  Of course, the clothing seems to follow. . . like Indiana Jones in long hair vs some ruffly-shirt guy off the cover of a trashy romance novel. . .  But now I'm probably just babbling. . . it is after 4 a.m. here, after all -_- . . .

lovebobs wrote: short and long hair are both gross!  if the wearer of that do' is gross and does not wash it regularly however my wife once had LONG hair that was very pretty very neatly trimme dand very well taken care of it always smelled like shampoo and was silky she still has that but its short  and thats what makes her hair sexy to me is that its so well kept be it long or short i always see 18-25 year old girls with long hair that looks nice , they spend time making it that way PLUS THEIR HAIR IS HEALTHY CUZ THEY ARE YOUNG   but when it gets ratty and uneven and gross  yah that is the soooo nasty but you only get that if you neglect it or if you are aging, i feel women over 40 should not have long hair it just loses its shimmer after some time and looks like an old mop  and should be cut shoulder or shorter   i know ill hear from people that im wrong for saying it but no woman over 40 looks nice with long hair unless they are in thier 40's and look like they are in their 30's and as far as men with long hair it NEVER ever looks nice it always looks dirty and gross   mens hair is different it should be shorter im not saying crewcut  but by no means past their shoulders it just looks ratty and trashy THAT IS HOW I FEEL GO AHEAD AND BASH ME!!!!! IM READY TO HEAR IT!!!

Look around at user-icons-- some of the boys around here do have super-long hair :-P . . .

It's amazing how one comment can scar a person for life.  One of my earliest memories was how on first-grade picture day I wanted to wear a ponytail, but I wasn't allowed 'cause "it'll look like you have short hair, and people will think you're a boy!"  Well, I'd been fascinated by short-haired women ever since I'd found out women could have it (erm, yeah, had very weird parents indeed -_-), so that remark scarred me the complete opposite way from how your sister was scarred.  I really don't like long hair on most people (especially me), and often complain about it.

I wasn't allowed to have pierced ears as a child, which sounds weird, since I come from such gender role-obsessive parents.  I always got some line about how if I did it, I'd regret it later. . . and when I did, the holes would never properly close, so I'd be stuck with the scars for life. . . all kinds of weird stuff.  Of course, now I have three holes in my left ear, and one in the right. . . very asymmetrical. . .  I wear earrings in all the holes most of the time, and I can't recall ever regretting it yet.

I think if I had a child, I'd want to let her make her own decisions on hair, whether I liked what she picked out or not.  I know how it can mess up a child when the parents' preferences are forced on her, and I wouldn't want that to happen to any child I might be raising.

eatgreenjello wrote: Oh yeah for sure, my sister had my little boys cut at the same time I did (we're 14 months apart and look alike).  One time she was walking into a store and this man says, "oh excuse me little boy".  WELL, my sister is scarred for life because of that one comment.  She doesn't like short hair and always complains about mine. I think that's also a reason woman pierce their baby girls ears when they are infants, so people will know they are female. If I had a child (my children are dogs), I wouldn't care if someone mixed up their gender, I'd cut their hair to whatever looks good on them.  Oh, our society is so messed up.