QuoteReplyTopic: Acting white? Posted: December 07 2005 at 9:15pm
ok i know this has nothing to do with hair but will someone please explain to me what is "acting white" i got called this all the time in school because i had a lot of white friends (mainly because the black girls werent nice to me) but i dont get exactly what acting white means
In my experience (because I got it too), it usually has to do with the way you talk. I found out years later that most of the girls who told me I acted white went absolutely nowhere in life. Go figure.
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Most ignorant ppl associate "acting white" with proper english, being studious, following the rules, and having a positive, cheery attitude like a ditsy blonde.
Now of course this is all stupid b/c behavior does not come in colors.
And why should possessing all these good qualities be associated with being white, that's demeaning towards blacks! As if we're not capable! But anywho.........
I've never been told I "act white", at least not to my face! But I have heard other people call another an oreo before, sad.
Well I can tell you from experience that it is associated with the way you act (mostly speak). Also your taste in things such as music and clothing may be different from most other black people.
Im light skinned but i waz reffered to as "white" all through high school simply because I was very "polite", smarter than most kids and very open minded when it came to music.
Dont sweat it though. I always took it as a compliment and was happy that i wasnt as ignorant as those hurling the insults.
Everyone has their own personality traits. I think when
people say your acting white its discrimination against you just because you don’t
necessarily fit into a stereotypical ideology of how black people are suppose
to act. Everyone is different, not all black people dress, talk and act the
same. I think people like this should just be ignored and everyone should go on
being themselves.
quote : Also your taste in things such as music and clothing may be different from most other black people.
I got flack for this too I listen to pink floyd,alman brothers,and green day and I like shopping at Old navy and these girls said i was acting and dressing white because "black people dont wear old navy(although evertime i see a commercial for it i see a sister sitting right up front advertising the clothes) and "black people arent suppose to like rock music"(my college roomates say this as well) and when i point out rock came from the blues they just give me a blank stare and say some smart a$$ comment about me thinking im white.....i rememeber when flared jeans came out (i grew up in a small town btw) i was the first to get them everyone said they were cute except the black ppl in my town they said they look like soul train pants BUT the next year they were wearing the same pants i had on a yr before go figure
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Like everyone said don't sweat it. I got the same thing 20 years ago because I liked some rock music. Believe me in the end the proper use of the english language, diversity and your own unique since of style will benefit you in the end. It's just haters and you just shake them off.
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I know exactly what you guys mean. My boss actually asked my why I don't talk like I'm black! I told him "Oh, I didn't know skin color had anything to do with accent!" Those people you aren't going to chage because they are so stereotypical. The only people they are hurting are themselves because closedmindedness gets you nowhere and you miss out on alot of good things. I come from the Eastcoast. My mom talks "proper" as do I and my sisters. We are well rounded about alot of things so our interests are very eclectic. Some call it "odd" or "acting white". I call it being myself and doing what comes to me naturally and spiritually!
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Twinkle, I was taught to always speak proper english, and I love all
kinds of music, rock, pop, the blues...when I was in high school, I was
lead singer in a punk band, got straight A's, did drama, and was the
so-called "whitest" black girl around!
Others (yep, the sistas and brothas!) were so quick to point out how I
was turning my back on my race, and how I thought I was better than
them. It really hurt me.
But you know what? All those who put me down are nowhere. I'm now
a successful journalist/t-v anchorwoman. Who got the last
laugh?
Go on and do what you do girl, you can only be true to yourself.
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Nonsense. I think that classic rock is great...besides, listening to it will give you a better idea of where a lot of today's song were blatantly ripped from.
That really annoyed me in high school, how if you didn't like rap, "Oh, you must like country and heavy metal." But looking back, I can see that most of the time it wasn't meant to be rude, but that the people asking me really didn't realize that there were different genres of music out there. So it was ignorance on top of some meanness. Oh, well.
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Ive always had this problem. Im very smart and I talk with correct english, and I too, like rock music as long as mainstream hip hop, like no doubt. In 7th grade, I prolly had only like 5 black friends because the other ones said I acted white. As Ive gotten older Ive come to see that most of them *act whiter* than I do. If you ask me, I personally think theyre just uncomfortable with themselves, and took it out on me. Now, Ive more black friends than they do, but most white people I know love me
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oh yeah this has happend to me to, i do like country music, when I was in high school and middle school and hanson was popular i liked them too, i still have the T-shirt, my mom would kill me if she heard me talking the way some of these people do. she taught me the right way to speak and i better do it. my sisters are always blaring the nickleback c.d. My little sister came home the other day and said she got teased about haveing a "white" name
i told her that her name was black, and became black the day my mother decided to name her black daughter that name.
people who say someone acts "white" or "black" are usually young and going through a stage, hopefully they grow out of it. its not a big deal
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I'm called an oreo at school but when I'm called that, I just laugh. If acting white means getting good grades, reading "white" magazines and so on, then I guess I'm the delicious cookie!
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don't worry about it. everybody can't act the same you are who you are and you should not care about what people think. You know where you came from so who are they to judge
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