This irrates me

Okay this is kind of a rant. Once again me and my mom are agruing about my natural hair.

She tells me it looks fine the way it is. But yet today she asks me if i can straighten it this weekend because we're taking pictures and she wants my hair to be neat. Then she goes on and tells me how she likes straight hair more than curls or anything else.

My hair can be neat, and it has been neat. I don't understand it. She says she fine with me being natural and then she tells me crap like that. I mean, I know im under 18, but its my hair.

Grr, that just ruined my night

Hey it's okay to rant.

One day your mom is going to realize what a strong young women she has raised.  It's not easy to stick to your convictions but your doing it. I know it's your mom and you want to be respective, but you are not her and you will have to let her know she likes straight hair and you like your hair just the way it is. I'm sure your hair is just beautiful, don't straighten it girl.

Yolligirl wrote: Hey it's okay to rant. One day your mom is going to realize what a strong young women she has raised.  It's not easy to stick to your convictions but your doing it. I know it's your mom and you want to be respective, but you are not her and you will have to let her know she likes straight hair and you like your hair just the way it is. I'm sure your hair is just beautiful, don't straighten it girl.

I wish should would realize sooner rather than later  ( If you wanna see pictures of my hair there are a couple in the link under my name.)

I'm really gonna try to not straighten it. Maybe I'll wash it and do a twist out for this weekend. I haven't used heat on my hair in like a month and i can tell the difference already.

Thank you guys so much for being my support group!

Princess,

I'm 16 by the way. My mom is the exact same way. She's afriad that people will think she's not taking care of my hair because its natural ( but I do my own hair.) She uses her flat Iron Everyday almost religously. Its funny.

 

I didn't straighent my hair, but I did kind of appease her. I wet my hair in the morning and pulled it back in a ponytail and made a bunball bun thingie ( the one with the sock) then i tied it up. She was happy, so the whole world was happy.

 

It turns out her and my sisters suprised me and took me to see the Nutcracker Ballet.

sakura07 wrote: Princess, I'm 16 by the way. My mom is the exact same way. She's afriad that people will think she's not taking care of my hair because its natural ( but I do my own hair.) She uses her flat Iron Everyday almost religously. Its funny.   I didn't straighent my hair, but I did kind of appease her. I wet my hair in the morning and pulled it back in a ponytail and made a bunball bun thingie ( the one with the sock) then i tied it up. She was happy, so the whole world was happy.   It turns out her and my sisters suprised me and took me to see the Nutcracker Ballet.

 

yeah im 16 too in the 11th, and I so understand...this morning I was going to a recital after church and she kept going on about how should straighten my hair so shed look good.still , I didnt do it so, whatever...shes gonna have to deal with it

sakura, what instruements do you play so far?

I am so happy to hear that a 16 year old girl feels this way. Good for you! Your mom, like most of us actually, are victims of the conditioned cultural reflex that straight hair is good hair. So many things are sad about this. The first being that our hair ain't naturally straight and we have to resort to all sorts of methods to get it and keep it that way. Most of which are dangerous to the hair and scalp longterm. I straighten my hair, and wear my hair natural often to give myself a break from relaxers, etc. Learning to deal with my natural hair made me better at treating my relaxed hair better. It also keeps my hair in better condition, because after awhile, all that overlapping when you get relaxers breaks the hair down. Cutting it off, growing it back is like  a new lease on life. But remember, when your hair is natural, treat it just as good or even better than when relaxed. Deep condition your hair and experiment with some of these new gels that give texture. And find the right product that will give your natural tresses a nice healthy sheen. Check out Naturallycurly.com for product tips.

In the meantime, try to stand your ground and when you take the pictures, groom yourself to the nines. Your mom might come around.