would like some advice *new*

hi, this is my first time on this site and i would like advice on how to achieve healthier hair. I'm not exactly sure how ya'll rate hair on here but i'll describe what mine is like. my hair is a few inches below my shoulders and thin in my opinion. the ends are not the best but the rest of my hair seems mostly healthy. when i was younger (until just recently) i always wore my hair in a tight ponytail and i have lots of breakage. i also have thinning hair in the font from the ponytails i would always wear. my mom has been relaxing my hair for a while but i usually go months on end without using one because it usually burns my scalp and my hair feels soft enough without one. i should also mention that sometimes when i brush or comb my hair it comes out at the roots....im very concerned about this. i wach my hair once a week with shampoo and conditioner, let it air dry, and then straighten it. when i straighten it i use pink hair lotion and then i run over it again with the straightener everyday in the morning. i usually then just pull it back into a ponytail. and sometimes i use the organic root stimulator olive oil sheen spray but only recently. i am planning on going to a salon soon to get my dead ends trimmed and to get a real haircut so that i dont have to wear a ponytail everyday. i am also planning on buying a chi straightener and using a heat protectant regularly. i would like some advise as how to get my hair much thicker and healthier. and also i would like some advice on a good hair care regimen and what products you would recommend to use. also please recommend products that will help my hair grow. thank you.

my hair is mostly relaxed, and when my hair comes out it usually does have a white bulb on the end. I straighten my hair everyday because if i dont then it will be wavy. I think my straightener is no good and doesnt get my hair very straight in the first place so i have to go over it every morning to get it straight. I dont wrap my hair at night i just put it up in a bun.

Ladykaya is absolutely right! Listen to her.   You should really reduce that heat, its probably your biggest problem. 

If you want your hair to be healthier you need to reduce your heat use drastically.  Straightening everyday is way too much.  Try to limit your heat use to at least once a week and you should see a drastic difference.  I agree w/ merisit on the pink oil moistrizer.  The high content of mineral oil and petrolatum it contains is probably making your hair dry and could cause breakage.  Try a moisturizer like Cantu, it dosen't have those ingredients.

Hey I can understand how you feel about the hair thing. glad you came to this site. it is a wonderful read and great suggestions.