Involving your partner...

Well today we finally went for it, and I cut my fiance's hair properly.  It was a thorough success.  Thankfully he knows how he likes his hair and would pay attention to how "professionals" cut it, what lengths he likes and all that jazz, which came in very handy for me!  I bought the clippers as one of his Valentines gifts, and used #5 on the nape, up to #8 for the rest of the back and sides, then I did the front .and top, and round the ears with scissors.  So far his family have been convinced it was a professional cut, and my fiance has said it feels good everytime he touches it.

Honeystrands, my fiance has always liked having his hair played with.  Sometimes when we're watching tv he'll lie across the sofa so I can play with it, and I find that then, when he's comfortable and relaxed and it's in context, that it is the best time to talk about hair.  Also, I found it was a good time to drop subtle hints about him needing a haircut soon, for example if it gets long enough to sit on his ears, then saying I'd like to cut it. 
From the other perspective, I always ask what he thinks of my hair, then play up to what he likes.  I know he was a bit intimidated by my hair because he was scared he would knot it or something, but he overcame that when I injured my shoulder and couldnt lift it!  I don't suggest you hurt yourself but maybe get your guy to help with your hair, like if you are wearing it up, ask him to hold it while you put a pin in, things like that.  He'll get used to touching your hair, and if you ask he'll know it's not annoying you.  Hope you get the same response I did, it's worth it for that trust and intimacy you definately can't get from a real hairdresser!

My husband had about three botched professional hair cuts before he let me have a go at his hair.Once where the lady even cut a very noticeable bald spot!

Enfys,

I can offer a little conclusion to this story now.  Last week, my fiance got a haircut at a well known, reputable, expensive barbers.  And they barely did what he asked for.  Essentially the top wasn't cut and the shorter sides and back didn't blend, they were left with harsher edges.  So, last night, after proving a point by grabbing a bit of the top and putting one of my hairbands round it, he said he'd like me to cut it, and he trusted me.  He cut a bit at the front to give me a guide to follow, and from there I pretty much just used my fingers and scissors to cut the top, from crown to forehead.
He was really pleased with the job I did, and even said it was a better finish than some/most paid for cuts.  And, since it's obviously free, he said he'd be happy to have me cut his hair every month, rather than the 6-8 weeks he'd normally wait. 

Of course this was just a corrective tidy up, but not an insignificant one considering the length difference in top to sides and back.  Next time, we will get some clippers and I will do the whole haircut, but for now we're both very happy with yesterday's outcome.  He said it's made him trust me even more; he could see the care and concern I used. 

As for him cuting my own hair, he doesn't want to because he wants me to grow it, so I will involve him in other things like have him mix up the dye and bleach and re-do my roots next time, so he can have a part to play in my hair styling.

While it was an expensive lesson initially for him, I'm really glad he had a botched haircut, it gave us a great stepping stone.  Now he's actually encouraging me to study hairdressing as a profession!  Quite a leap from a few months ago.

So enfys,

When his hair is that short there isn't any need for scissors.  So you can use them to cut a bit for dramatic flare, but use the clippers when you get down to the serious business

Glad to make you feel a little better about the whole thing. You could try it with scissors, bit leave it longer, then if it's not working out you can fall back and use the clippers.  How short does he normally have his hair and does he want you to do the same style. 

Thanks for the advice all   It's good to know he's not the only partner willing to let their partner have a play with their hair and sharp objects. 

I think if he wanted me to use clippers it would be much easier, but he's not keen on them.  I can try and talk him round though, as it's likely to be the most sensible option in term of a successful outcome.

As for my own hair, it's about to my bra strap, and I'm growing it longer for our wedding, and his sake since he wants to see me with super long hair again.  It's only got a bit of layering through the ends and front, so would be quite easy for him to cut with some direction and pointers.

We have a few weeks before he would need a haircut anyway, since he just got one professonally, but since he mentioned it again today I think he's looking forward to it, and enjoying the idea.

With a set of clippers and a #8 guard that will leave the hair one inch long, you can't screw it up and you'll both have a great time.  Go for it and enjoy; my wife and I do.

Oddly, in saying he would like to engage in what is kind of a fantasy, my fiance has created a bit of a conundrum for me.

He's said he would let me cut his hair, as long as I didn't mind him having to take whatever steps were necessary  to fix it,  such as shaving it to whatever length he needed to.

It wouldn't be anything drastic, just round an inch all over, and tidy round the edges, but I don't want to mess it up.  While I would like to see it shorter, I won't mess it up deliberately to force a repair job, and I don't want to make him lose trust in me.

On the other hand, I've always enjoyed cutting hair, but only ever long hair, which has more leeway.  I think it would be a great symbol of trust and intimacy, as I would also like him to trim mine.

So.  What do I do?  Speaking from experience, can anyone tell me how hard this task would be to complete?  Or offer any advice or experiences?  Should an untrained person never touch short hair?  Even though he is very easy going and loving, would I ruin our relationship if I  did somehow mess it up?

This is very much not a fetishy thing, it's between me and my partner as a trust and intimacy expression.

Last couple of notes, he prefers scissor cuts, and I'm a very dextrous, left handed, perfectionist.