Long to Short + Baby

I agree with Bob. It's a little bit shocking that you'd be willing to trade impregnating her if she'll cut her hair. Compromise in a marriage is good, but a baby should not be be born from a weird compromise over a haircut. Sorry.

Hair both grows and can be easily cut. A baby is forever ( or at least 18 years.)

Most importantly, it's her hair, not yours. A baby would belong to both of you. If you really don't want one, you need to be honest with her.

I just checked the dates on this and I'm clearly late to the party. Needless to say I find this post disturbing.



Edited by haller - May 18 2010 at 4:17pm

Well, I was finally able to make the proposal last night. She asked again for the baby, so I asked for her to cut her hair short and let me pick the styles for the next 2 years. She didn't balk at the length of time, but the length of hair. She siad she would only go shoulder length, I wanted chin length. We couldn't agree. I told her to think about it, and the offer stands, if and when she wants to go ahead with it. I am so close. I tried to approach it the way you guys said, with the your long hair is beautiful, but wouldn't you like a change. Didn't work. She has been to shoulder length several times, its the chin length that she has only been once, and I absolutely loved it, she looked so hot.

So sorry you two are not seeing eye to eye.  Hopefully you can work out an understanding on things before long and celebrate with new hairstyles!  Good luck!!

My husband and I had the reverse situation.  He agreed to switch churches and join mine if I promised to keep my hair LONG in return.  I had just grown it out while pregnant and then nursing our first child.  Like you, he was giving up a lot by switching churches, while I wanted to go back to my favorite shoulder length, so I was giving up something too.  That was almost 20 years ago.

Making the appointment was just to make sure we could get it done on Saturday, I was going to make one for myself too. I wouldn't force her to go Saturday, but I don't want her to back out after the deed has been done. The last time she cut it short, about 6 years ago, we went to the salon together, I thought she was just getting a trim, but she suprised me wby getting her waist length hair cut into a bob just above the shoulders. She made me do something too, blond highlights and and spiky/messy style. She just asked me to go along, I didn't know she made an appointment for me or that she was making the big cut. I just wanted to surprise her as well. I just think that I will be making a huige sacrifice, hair grows back fast, kids grow quite as fast (Thank God).

My wife has long layered hair down to about mid-back. We have 2 kids and she wants to try for a third. I am not sure if I want to. So, I was going to see what she is willing sacrifice, since I am going to sacrifice to have another child. I know this sounds selfish, but I have been trying to have her cut her hair for about 6 years now. I was going to suggest if she agrees to cut her hair in the style of my choice and wear it any way I choose for the next 2 years, then I would agree to having another child. Is this wrong to do?

Please let me know what you think about the whole situation.