hair care

i just had hand surgery and need suggestions on how i can put my hair up one-handed. other than cutting it (an abhorent thought!) i'm not sure what i'll be able to do...any help would be very appreaciated..

> Dear Lynda,> I'm so sorry about your surgery, but hopefully soon> your hand will be much better!> I'm just guessing that you don't live with another> person who may be able to help. This is hard,> obviously....> Don't laugh, but there is one thing that comes to mind> using one hand: a scrunchie! Certainly, almost> anything you do is not going to be easy, but if you> don't have any or the full use of one hand, you simply> have to do the best you can. Scrunchies are relatively> big and the elastic isn't terribly tight, so you may> be able to pull your hair back in one.> Is washing your hair very difficult? Maybe you could> splurge a bit and go to a salon just for a shampoo and> optional styling every few days. I once had an allergy> scratch test on my back, and I couldn't bathe for> three days! So, I did what many of our mothers did but> most likely what we don't do these days -- went to the> salon just to get my hair washed. And it was> wonderful!> Wish I had better ideas for you.> Take care,> Jenathanks, jena... i'd rather spend my money on myself than bills any day!*laugh*

> Lynda,> Spunds like a good time to allow your significant> other, or freind to help you with your hair. Trying to> put your hair up with one hand, or fix it would be> frustrating, at least. You could manage putting your> hair up, if you just have some assistance from your> other hand. Whatever, don't even consider the adhorent> thought.> When I broke my hand and wore a cast, I just learned> to depend upon others. Good luck!unfortunatly my daughter can be a little rough...plus she's busy with work and school. y' know how we like to be proud and self-reliant!

> Lynda,> There is a time and place for everything under heaven,> to paraphrase an old song. A few minutes helping her> mother will not affect her life, and besides, you gave> her life, let her give back something to you.> He also gives who only stands and waits. My dog is> totally dependent upon me. He gives when he nudges me> with his nose and wants attention. He gives when he is> totally accepting of me, even when I might not be up> to showing him affection. My mental health is improved> by having a creature so fully accepting of me and who> loves me in and out of season. Dogs can teach us a lot> about life.> I too am self-reliant, and only in my mature years> have I learned that the gracious acceptance of> assistance is, in fact, a gift in itself. Within one> year my mother had a heart attack and stroke. A very> self-reliant women, she was thrust into accepting> assistance. Giving back to her, not only assists her,> is an enjoyable burden to me, but has greatly improved> my self esteem.> So, if you want to improve your daughter's self> esteem, allow her the privilege of helping.not to get too deeply into the psych part, asking for help is a really big thing for me. i really don't want to burden the poor kid any more than she already is; between college full time, work part-time, and now ALL the house work i don't think it's fair of me to ask more. she has realized one thing however, she has a glimmer of the responsibility of being a single parent! we had discussed that before, but now she REALLY has a better idea. i'm happy you have your dog. mine was put to sleep about a year ago and i still miss her. and your mother is indeed fortunate to have a son willing to help her.