Thoughts on long hair

I love long hair, especially if it's curly. I'm a university student, and I've noticed that a lot of girls wear their hair past their shoulders, mostly mid-back, so they can easily braid it back quickly in time for class. Makes sense, but I'm 5'0", and 80 lbs., so I find short hair definitely more flattering on me. While I do have to spend extra time with the hair dryer, if it gets too long, it seems to hide the rest of me! =)
So, no, I would not conform to society's love for long hair.
It's much more important that the person wearing the hair llikes the look, and looks good with it.
- Aeva

You are very fortunate man. I wish there were more ladies
out there like your wife,who is willing to keep her
long hair for a man to enjoy. Most ladies,who keep their
long hair at the request of a man,will ask the man,to help
take care of it,which is a reasonable request.
Long hair that is well taken care,has a beautiful,magnificent, appearance of ladies identity.

Your hair sounds lovely, PD! The tangling does remind me of mine, but I've found it can be eased a bit with the right shampoos and conditioners, thank goodness. It's for this reason that wearing it down is infrequent for me, too, but also special and why I sometimes like to "show it off," to get back to one of your original "political" questions. :-)

Yes, those braided updos do look complicated. I bet they're so pretty on you. With my French twist style, I often take the remaining ponytail and wrap it around the twisted part, starting where the tail begins and wrapping my way upwards. Then I put the leather barrette in, and voila! It protects those ends, holds wonderfully and comes undone in a snap.

Catch you around!
Jennifer Eve

Absolutely not! Any guy I am involved with would certainly know what my hair means to me, so his asking me this would indicate extreme insensitivity or appalling arrogance. I would consider it a very bad indicator for the endurance factor of the relationship, as I've been involved with power and control men before, and it's not a good basis for a relationship. Keep in mind, I'm responding to your words, "...if a partner loved short hair & PRESSED you to?" It makes me shudder.

Jennifer Eve

So what color is your hair? It sounds wonderful, so far. Tell me more...

Mine is honey brown, so I've heard it called, because in the sunlight, it changes to this awesome coppery-gold color, all lit up in highlights. In the bleak midwinter, it's medium-to-dark brown, though not black-brown. There's always a hint of highlight. It's also very straight and of a super fine texture. Karen had a photo of me posted a few months ago on the main page here at the Hair Boutique, one she obtained from Dave Tichenor at TILHC from a photo shoot he and I did not quite 2 years ago. He has a page dedicated to me at his site, and hopefully he'll update it soon. Note that the photos there are all very dark, so snag one and lighten it up in a photo editing program, if you can. I'm also at the bottom of the '99 Photo Contest page. That pic shows my highlights really nicely.

At TLHS, Frank has several photos of me in a step-by-step series as I put my hair up in this wrapped French twist style I came up with. It's in the Hair Care/Styles section. BTW, that style is soooo quick to do, once you get the hang of it! How do you do your hair, you know, for those less-than-romantic times, like most of the time?

Isn't this discussion politically charged? LOL!

Glad to hear you're taking good care of yourself. I've improved my habits significantly, too, especially where my hair is concerned.

Nice to meet you,
Jennifer Evwe

>Ah well, I'll get there!

With your attitude, you sure will! Besides, a year and a half isn't all that long. I know that for me, what helped was putting my hair up. This way I would not be used to seeing it down. Then, every once in a while, I would take a long time observing it in the mirror, and I'd always be surprized how long it has gotten. Mind tricks-- gotta love'em!

PD

I'm still a good year-and-a-half from where I want to be. But the top of my hair is playing catch-up with the bottom because it was originally very layered in the back. Ah well, I'll get there!

Regards,

Jennifer

>>Long haired people have to be patient and able to see the long term.

I think that is quite an understatement. {grin} As my hair is growing out, it's starting to get to a "chunky" stage. Well-shaped short hair can look good, but the really thick short hair is not appealing to me in the least. It would look a lot better if I texturized it and had it shaped, but it would also hinder growth. Although length wouldn't actually be cut off, eventually, the texturized (slightly shorter) parts would need trimming, and it would just be easier to trim the rest of the hair to that length, as well. If my hair were several inches longer, it would look fantastic right now! It's thick, healthy, and shiny. But this in-between stuff is the reason many people don't let it grow out. It is frustrating!

Jennifer

Actually Ally the whole point is that long hair is rare right? Then if long hair is rare then there are many other lenghts that share the some common grounds right?

** Sure. But I think most distinctive, extreme looks (very long hair, a mohawk, a shaved head) have particular inspiration. They are not mainstream styles. They're not something you see in a magazine one day and bring in to your hairstylist to try out.

Just would like to know if you actually seen a Vampire or even believe in Vampires or you happen to be a fan of Buffy the Vampire story line? lol

** I don't believe in vampires, nor am I a fan of Buffy. (I've never seen it, alas.) But I do roleplay live-action Vampire, a gaming system produced by WhiteWolf of Atlanta. Many of the players wear very long hair. I have a mid-back-length fall and a waist-length wig that I wear to play certain characters.

Witches well they don't normally come out and announced themselves so we have no idea if they have rules to their lenght of hair. In fact I have come across one and she had short hair.

** I am a practicing witch who lives a couple of hours outside Salem. I can't say this enough times: Not ALL witches have long hair. And it's not a rule. But people who live the Wiccan lifestyle are /more likely/ to choose long hair, because of cultural and spiritual influences. Because we embrace nature, for example, we are more likely to see long hair as a treasure. Because we refer to and/or commune with various goddesses, and these goddesses are usually portrayed with long, flowing hair, some us of idealize this look. We see ourselves as romantic and different, and we like the outside to reflect the inside.

The biggest Gothic store is here Ally and I wouldn't say they happen to have long hair. Maybe mediun lenght. I have seen a male shopping at Walmart. Oh that was fun. Maybe they play with wigs but certainly I haven't seen to many with natural long hair.

** Around here, if you go to Manray or Gotham City or The Bank (before it closed), you can see lots of young people with very long hair. It's part of that morbid, romantic look.

Ally I wasn't drawing any conclusions but it seems very interesting how quickly you seem to defend.

** I was quick to defend myself because it seemed that (1) you were belittling me, and (2) that you completely misunderstood what I wrote. I don't like being laughingly contradicted for something I didn't even say. "All people from Utah have long hair" is not just a misinterpretation of what I wrote; it's a downright idiotic statement that I don't care to be associated with!

What I have notice that long hair in your opinion would certainly have a diffirent defination than mine for sure and that is okay.

** Could be....

Take it easy, Diane.

Ally ;)

"Always love your funny replies, Ally!"

And I love your adorable way of misconstruing what was said. Ha ha ha. Ha.

Diane, you've completely twisted my post around. I stated (pretty darned clearly) that most long hairs have one of the listed factors as an inspiration or background. I did NOT state the corollary, which is that everyone covered by these descriptions has long hair. OBVIOUSLY that is not true.

The women modeling lingerie are /models/, are they not? I listed models as a separate category.

And I did not say that VAMPIRES have long hair. Duh. I referred to "people who love period clothing, historical romance, medieval re-creation, roleplaying, vampires, etc." The serial commas indicate that "vampires" is the object of "people who love," hence "people who love vampires." Perhaps you are not familiar with the vast American and Canadian subculture that shops for velvet and leather wardrobes at stores like Hot Topic, modeling their look after Gothic art and vampire lore. They dye their hair dark colors and wear dramatic ensembles with capes, top hats, and black lace. These people are usually between 14 and 24, and they frequent "Goth" clubs dedicated to this trend. Many of them have very long hair as part of the look.

There is also an international organization called the Society for Creative Anachronism (SCA), whose members re-create medieval costume, dining, dance, and fighting styles. Many of its members are so dedicated to the pastime that they wear their hair long, as they would have in the Middle Ages. There are many variations on this theme in the form of live roleplaying groups all over the world.

And of COURSE I did not say that all women from Utah have very long hair. But the fact is that Utah has the largest population of conservative Mormons in the country. Have you ever seen articles or documentaries on these communities? I'm especially talking about places where polygamy is still an issue. Many (not ALL) of the women have /very/ long hair and are discouraged from cutting it short. There are many, many forms of Christianity, and many levels of conservatism under its umbrella. In some factions, where old-fashioned sensibilities prevail, young women tend to wear their hair very long.

And before you draw another skewed conclusion, let me clarify: I am not saying that everyone with long hair is from Utah. I am not saying that everyone in Utah is Mormon. I am not saying that all (or even most) Mormons are polygamists. I am not saying that all Christians have long hair. I am not saying that long hairs should convert to Christianity. I am not saying that vampires should convert to Christianity. I am not saying that lingerie models consort with vampires, seeking virgin blood to maintain their size-2 figures and add shine to their hair. I feel certain you will find something I have missed and feel the need to call me on it in your next post.

Anyway, I believe the thread was about /very/ long hair, and what kinds of people adopt extreme length. I listed some examples, and I stand by what I said.

Ally