cut sons hair

These things happen, especially with grandparents. They are wonderful substitute caregivers who can give you a break from parenting, but they have their own ideas of parenting. While they may present these ideas in an arrogant way, that they know better, they aren't always bad ideas.

And people won't follow your instructions. You tell grandma he isn't supposed to have any candy and she takes him to get candy. You want him to earn a new toy with chores and she buys the toy. Outrage isn't the best emotion, because she means well. Just discuss it. Explain where you're coming from.

As for Caden, don't worry about him. He isn't aware of how long his hair is. Everything is just what's in front of him. He's at the stage where he wants the ball, so he says, "ball" or "puppy." His attention span doesn't last. He's even too young to be afraid of strangers. That won't happen for a year.

What concerns me is that you have fixated on what you want. You want his hair long, so it's long. That's a fine decision for your own hair, but may not be best for him. He isn't old enough to make his own choice, and I hope when he is, you'll let him do that.

When he gets a little older, say 3 or 4, he'll be socializing. What you don't want is for him to be different than the other kids. For them to have a reason to tease or ostracize him. Or for the parents to be saying something that gives their kids an impression. Individuality is great and should be encouraged, but it has to be your son's individuality, not yours. If those differ, they differ. Even when he first asserts that individuality, ages 6-8, you have to be careful. Kids don't understand the consequences. Later, they do, and they can make the choice of whether individuality or conforming is more important.

thats terrible.

i would be so angry.

it reminds me of my mom who had a friend who had a young daughter (maybe 5 or 4) and they hired a babysitter who, while they were gone, decide to cut the girls hair.

actually ive heard things like that from a lot of people. about babysitters doing stupid things.

but your own FAMILY? thats. not right.

That happened to me one time! My daughter was about 2 and my mother in law decided she needed her bangs "trimmed". They ended up micro bangs! I was FURIOUS! Needless to say she NEVER got another chance to cut any of my childrens hair again. So, yes I DO know how you are feeling right now! My heart goes out to you! Debbie

Please tell us, did Caden have any
comment? I hope he wasn't forced.
How does he feel about it?

That is completely out of line! I'm sure you realize this though, so it might not be helping anything. I think you have every right to feel upset.

The good news is that it will grow back before you know it, and now you get a chance to see what he looks like with short hair. He's your baby so I know you'll love him no matter what he looks like.