Beware public transport..

Hi Erinlynn

The hair at the back of my head is at my bra-strap (God it feels sooo good to finally say that), and I wore it loose yesterday. I hadn’t deliberately draped it over the back of the seat, but my hair is thick and kinda wild so it gets all over the place and I keep bringing it forward onto my chest when walking around.
She was definitely gripping some of it and the fact that she released it after the bus jerked suggested that she had it twisted around her fingers or something.


Laine, p_p, Dave and Caramia

Thanks for your support….I’m still burning up!!

I had my anger button pushed a second time yesterday when I mentioned the incidence to some folks at work and one person said I “had it coming by wearing it loose”! Apparently it’s my fault for inviting people to touch my hair by not wearing it bound up.

Wasn’t a similar argument used in the past to say that women who dressed in a revealing manner “deserved” to get raped?
Anyway, I’m winding myself up again…..you can imagine how that conversation at work developed
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Uzi,

How long is your hair again? Is their a back to your seat? Was your hair drapping over the chair or something? Im trying to picture how the girl behind you had gotten ahold of a large portion of your hair. When Im sitting at a theater for example i wont drap my hair over the back of the chair. Id rather sit on it or have it pressesed between me and the chair but if no one is behind me I prefer to let my hair drap over the back of chairs so that Im not causeing un due breakage by pressing it up against anything or sitting on it.

Are you sure she was gripping it and your hair didnt get caught in the corner of a seat cusion or something (I mean did she deny it or did she just give you additude implying that she should be able to touch your hair). I really dont understand these people who can just touch other people like that with no sence of respect.

I've just realized this issue on busses, too. One time, my hair kept getting yanked by the person behind me because his book would hit my hair and then the back of the seat. I definitely have to be aware and tie my hair up or back (and then move it over my shoulders).

I wish that had been the case, Hal.

Her exact words back to me were "So what B***h? What are you going to do about it?"

heard a real horror story recently, where a woman in the U.S was in a cinema watching a film and some teenagers cut off her long hair.

How horrible! When my hair gets really long, I'm going to be extra careful. I would hate to have to worry about someone pulling or cutting my hair...or even sticking gum in it.

I can't believe that she actually thought that that was okay! I mean, it's one thing to touch a friend, but this was a total stranger. That's not cool. Even when acquaintances invade my personal space, it bugs me. My hair is wavy, and I grew up on the east coast, so the humidity there makes it full-on curly. Well, one day in 8th grade, I'm sitting at a computer in science lab, typing something up for my group, when I feel something going on around my shoulders. The girl behind me had been pulling at the curls and watching them spring back up! She then said something like "Your hair is so curly and pretty!", so I let her slide with just a stern look. More recently, on my third day at a new job, one of my coworkers had to get my attention, so she poked me in the ribs! If you must get my attention, tap me on the shoulder or just say my name. But the rib/abdomen area is just not where you touch someone whom you barely know. Again, I'm pretty touchy-feely with close friends, but with strangers and acquaintances, there are definite limits. I'm sorry that this girl on the bus seems to be quite unaware of those limits.