My hair needs help

Hi! I have hair that`s almost half a foot (actually, about 8 in.)below my shoulders. It is really thick, (like REALLY REALLY thick)and it is amazingly puffy. I`ve tried a zillion shampoos and conditioners, and nothing has helped, and I`m tired of having my hair tied up in a low pony tail EVERY DAY. No styles that I`ve tried work. My hair has a really pretty gold color, I have sort of an oval face, with thick glasses(big ones). Also, it`s naturally wavy, only the waves are seperated--like, one section will be a nice wave, then 2 inches over, it will bea really tight wave, and a little farther over, will be almost straight. It`s never even, and I cant blow dry it bcuz that makes it puffier. It`s in okay condition--its soft, and pretty healthy, but there are a lot of split ends. (not to mention all that frizzy stuff) I DO NOT WANT TO CUT MY HAIR BECAUSE IT LOOKS BAD. PLEASE tell me what to do because I`m at my wits` end and I dont know what to do!!! thankyou!!!

Beth, your hair may be lacking moisture... oils. You may want to deep condition as well. The oils should help tame the mane a bit. Don`t blow dry until its crispy, only until it`s slightly damp, and on low heat. You may want to zap the splits if you`re willing to spend some time going through it looking for them. And a little trim from the ends could help too. Hope I`ve offered a few good ideas, and good luck!