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    Posted: April 14 2004 at 6:01am


Okay, my name is Erinlynn and I have a problem with hair.

I think I have gone nuts...more so than ever. I cant stop looking at long hair (on women more than men) and being jealous. Not that I dont have my own long hair but its like I want everyone elses as well as my own. I want the classic lenght naturaly soft and wavy blond hair of the girl on the street. i want the sleek black knee lenght hair of the Native American woman i saw at the park. I want the brilliant natural red straight waist lenght hair of the girl i saw at the doctors (hers i would trade forif i could!). i want the thick rich brown mane of the girl at Disney. I want the luxurious warm brown tailbone lenght curls of the woman I saw dancing. I want the just below bra strap lenght straight honey blond hair of the woman at the musuem. AND i want my own reddish golden brown straight hair.

Its like im jealous of everyone, no matter the shade as long as the hair is long and nice and full.
It doesnt matter that I love my own hair, I still want everyone elses. Im at the point where if there is a long haired gal around i cant take my eyes off her. Ive got a hair addiction and its almost unhealthy =)

It doenst matter that I love my own hair. I wish i could take on the hair of others at whim...sigh.

Maybe i need a hair anonymous group to get me to stop being so silly!!!

Or maybe i need someone to walk around with my hair so that I get jealous of myself then realize that that is me and Ive got really nice long hair and i like the color and how it falls and flows and brushes against my back.

Then maybe I would just be happy =)

After all we dont get to see our own hair as well as others can. We dont veiw it from the back excpet in mirrors and thats not the same.

I never realize quite how long my hair is untill someone shows me a picture. Even then it still never feels as long as it is, no matter what the lenght i guess i think its shorter and less pretty.

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Sounds like a growing obsession to me... but only you and a doctor would actually know. If it is, small steps can make HUGE differences in obsessions. Each time you stop yourself from venturing down the unwanted thought path will make it easier for you to stop doing it at together.
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I don't think that it's weird at all; nice hair (of any length) on another person always gets my attention for at least a split second. I agree about how we never notice just how pretty our own hair is. I look in the mirror and tend to zero in on where it's frizzing. It never occurs to me that overall, it's probably pretty nice. Of course, this problem is not unique to my hair. I'm sure that there's a difference between the way that I see my body in the mirror and the way that others see it. But that's an issue for another board.
Monica: Isn't there any way that you could look at this as flattering? I mean, she's doing this to be more like you.
Rachel: Well, then, couldn't she have just copied my haircut?
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Erinlynn, I think it's natural to muse about wearing other women's hairstyles (if you are a woman, anyway!). Truly, what you had before you reduced your length is almost as amazing as any hair that I've ever seen in person! In other words, it is within your potential to have the dream hair you want (again). But please come here for encouragement next time you have the cutting urge! (lol) Bob
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Then I suppose your best option would be wigs.
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Hal, I think i am obsessed...lol, but at least I admit it. I think that I just realized how hair nuts I am, but on the good side Ive realized that color, lenght and curl doesnt matter to me. Im not super jealous of one particular look and so under that realization I can know that if I did see someone with my own head of hair I would be just as likely to love that look as any other...and thus I dont need to be jealous of anyone becasue I have my own wonderful look that i like as well as theirs. If on the other hand i fixated on something that I was completly not (and never liked anythign simular to my own) I might have a big issue...becasue im sorry but my hair will never curl the way i want it too even if i got a perm and dyes never look exactly the way natural does. So it is good that I like all colors, lenghts, textures, curls and straights etc.

Bob, Im not regetting my cut or wishing it was that lenght again. I was trying to point out that pretty and full hair of any lenght (although generaly longer than shoulder lenght) is absolutely facinating to me and that i wish I had the chamelion ability to change my hair lenght, body, curl, shine, texture and color at whim. I think that my own hair at tailbone lenght is probably best suited look on me and Im relatively not to far from that now. Knowing myself i probably just wont cut may hair for a long time so it will get longer than that but it will never be shorter than 25 inches (on me just below bsl) whenever I might cut it.


Grace, thanks for understanding me =)

Jenna, your right, i should get wigs =) Then I can play all i want! Im thinking about getting an alter ego for bellydancing and buying a red wig...or maybe a black one. Just as long as it wont fall off when I dance =)


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Erinlynn, can I move to your neighborhood so you can introduce me to all of the women you've seen? It doesn't sound like a problem at all to me.

By the way, how long is your hair these days?
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Its 30 inches the last I checked...it was way longer in the summer and my avatar is from the winter before the summer when it was cut. Ive no idea how long in inches it was then.
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oh, and I was also about 20 pounds heavier in the snow pictures.
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Sounds to me like you are healthy. You like your own hair, and you are generous enough to like, even love, everyone elses. True jealousy usually comes with hostility.

If I had that many beautiful hairs around on a daily basis, I´d look in wonder too! But it´s spring, the hats are coming off, and who knows what´s been lurking under there!
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oh, lol, you know what, im in Florida...so perhaps i see more long hair because winter is really like a subdued spring and spring is almost summer. BTW I HATE SPRING!

blech.
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OK, this is totally besides the point: what does the abbreviation lol mean? I can figure most things out, but that one has eluded me.
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Originally posted by Viktoria Viktoria wrote:

OK, this is totally besides the point: what does the abbreviation lol mean? I can figure most things out, but that one has eluded me.
LOL = Laughing out loud. Not to be confused with LMAO, which means laughing my a@@ off.
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Lol - thank you, Gord.
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Grace, I agree with what you wrote; I think we are all our own worst critics. Whenever other people say nice things about my hair, I feel like saying (but don't), "what, are you crazy? It's got this problem and that problem and..."

And Erinlynn, I agree that we don't see our hair in motion, all we see is when we look in the mirror and it's static. The motion of our own hair (that other see) sort of "brings it to life."

I always admire the well-cared-for long hair of others. In part because I know what it takes to get such beautiful hair -- lots of patience and loving care.

I've been seeing more long hair lately too. I sense that you're in the central Florida area. So am I. The pollen this year was terrible but the weather we've had lately has been superb (how could you not love this spring?)

Anyway, I think you're fine, no worries, you just have a tremendous sense of admiration. Nothing wrong with that, IMO.
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maybe its a tremendous sence of admiration, or maybe its that I really wish i could be a chamelion. Yesterday i saw a woman with radient auburn hair to her lower waist. It was full of large flowing curls and looked very thick. I wish my hair would look like that sometimes =)

i do hate the spring. But it comes from living in the north...especialy in Buffalo. I love winter and I am definately snowphilic so I enjoy buffalos wonderful winter. But when spring comes around you will have a week of warmth when everything melts and gets muddy, then when you finally used to things warming up and your looking forward to spring it all freezes over again and most of the time DOESNT snow. If its going to be cold, let it snow!

I hate the game of warm one week cold the next. Florida isnt so bad at all. Im in Jacksonville so it will get colder but spring isnt really the same as a northern sping (even South Carolina's spring).

The pollon is terrible!!!! i have a yellow *ahem* black car.
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Ah yes, springtime pollens... I've lived in the northern U.S. most of my life so I suffered many a spring up north. Florida's usually much better, but this year was bad. Funny about your car... about a month ago I saw one similarly covered, I swear the stuff was at least a half-inch thick all over the top surfaces of the car. Well, anyway... happy car washing.
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