Styles for long hair men

On behalf of all the men here (well, I can't really do that, but... ) thank you, Viktoria, for the compliment!

The two ponytail styles are good. I also wear a low Bee-Butt bun. I've just learned how to make a regular bun and I'll try that. I wore bobby pins from very early on. I also have a ponytail cuff from copperbracelets.com that I believe looks great. I grew up with the same fear of turing into a girl if I wore or did anything remotely feminine. The fact is that *most* males have strongly male faces that can withstand a *lot* of traditionally feminine accessories. Think about the last time you saw a man in drag. Even in a dress, a wig, and a lot of makeup most males still look masculine. The protruding brow, the flat forehead, the square jaw, the male hairline all send a very powerful message.
Furthermore, hair accessories don't have a gender. A slide is just a device to hold the hair. It is only considered 'feminine' because it is traditionally worn by females. As more and more long-haired males start wearing these things you will find stores offering styles that appeal more to men (right now it is easier to find a pink slide with yellow butterflies than a black slide with silver rivets but keep looking). I say give anything you want a try. For you it may take some getting used to when you look in the mirror but I'll bet that if you live in a big city you won't get a second glance. Good luck and let us know what you try.