Soft, spikes

Hey,
I`m new here, and I was wondering if I could get some help regarding soft spikes. To start off, my hair is about 1-2inches long, tops. And I`ve been spiking it for a while, using many types of maximum hold gels. And while that does give me a very stable hairstyle, it`s not exactly the greatest. The other day, I happened to see someone on the bus with spikes that were soft, and floppy, but only at one inch in length, and they had the look and shine of hard spikes, only they were highly flexible i.e. they moved in the wind, I`ve been dying to know how that look can be achieved, post if you can help me, Thanks!

I spike my hair alot. I use wax that I get at the local salon by Tigi. It`s called bed head and it comes in stick and goo forms. I have stick so after I wash my hair I put the waxx in and dunk my head. I`m able to fix thm at anytime of the day and they even sometimes stay up after swimming!