My disaster. Please help!

 Hi Samsara,

 I feel for you, I really do.

 That's gotta hurt to lose alot of hair, and for it to be so damaged.

 I wish I was an expert in hair. All I know what to say is You'll be in my prayers, and that someone soon will post what you can do to help heal, in all ways.

 I would suggest posting about lots of feelings, and questions, and get lots of rest, and/or sleep. You need a balanced diet with at least a multi-vitamin. Try to go for walks, unless you already do excersise, drink lots of water too.

 Ofcourse, use a gentle shampoo(such as baby shampoo; seriously it's been reccomended for all hair). Plus deep conditioner as well.

 Try to focus on the best in yourself, like your other hobbies, interests, family, and friends. Try prayer, church, reading anything that makes you laugh especially. Movies, music, enjoying a manicure/pedicure, or a massage, bubble baths. If you have a pet, that could lift your spirit. Also, even just helping someone else will boost your sadness to happiness, whether volunteering just once a month with people you enjoy, or helping a stranger from time to time.

 Sorry if I told you things you already know. I guess, I'm trying to help your mind and body and spirit all together, so You can get past this frusterating obsticle.

 God Bless, and keep posting, we are all here to help each other,..

 Much Love, Katie;) 

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Hey my name is Lacey and I was just browning on here out of boredom and I saw your post and reading it made me sign up to this website just so I could post to your message. I know EXACTLY what you are going through. It happened to me too. When I was little I had long, naturally curly, blonde hair and then I lopped it off at 13. When I was 18 I was dying it every few months and it was breaking and just awful looking. I didn't have a very good cut either. So I decided to let it grow back out and just dye it to dark blonde. Thats my natural color now. I let it grow for a year and it looked better so I decided to get a perm. Chemicals are the devil. The salon people used the wrong curlers on my hair and I ended up looking much like a Chia Pet. The curls were supposed to relax a bit but 5 months after i got the perm the curls were just as tight as when they first took off the curlers. I switched hairdressers and it took the poor woman 2 hours to comb all the tangles out of my hair. Hair was just breaking and falling all over the floor. i was like NOO, thats the blood sweat and tears of waiting for a year. So we put chemical straightener on it so it would stop breaking. it still broke off a lot but not as much. i could comb through it at least. and its been about two years since then and now i have playboy playmate kind of hair. long, curly, tricolored and thick.

i know you might not want to hear this but the key is to wait. you're going have to wait for at least 1-2 years before your hair is ready to take on more chemicals. you could probably color your hair darker colors but i wouldn't go for blonde streaks as of yet. As for the part of your hair that didn't color right its because it needs to be cut off. it's eventually going to be cut anyway. but the key to beautiful, long, thick hair is genetics and CONDITIONER. i used maybe 4 different kinds plus hot oil treatments. you can never condition your hair too much. just remember to use good shampoo to get residue off after a while. buy leave-in conditioners and silkening balms. this is the stuff i used for my hair.

Proclaim hair gloss
Redken allsoft conditioner
Thermasilk leave-in conditioner
Wide Toothed Comb
VO5 hot oil treatments
miscellaneous hair stuff minus hairsprays and mousse

throw all your brushes away. when you use a brush it pulls the knot downward. it doesn't help to separate your strands. so you end up pulling on the hair loosening it on your scalp and brreaking the hair ends around the knot. a wide toothed comb is better. start combing from the bottom of your hair to the top and do it gently. carefully comb at the knots until they're out. the Redken stuff is your best bet. its amazing. its expensive but it saved my hair. a good hairstylist will know what it is and how to get it for you. i hope the best of luck to you. and you had great hair before you wil have great hair again. i would write more but i have to get off of here so send me a message sometime

There is Hope!!! Here is my professional opionion. I have been a colorist\hairstylist for over 20 yrs. First it is over!!! Do not go back to that salon ever!!!! There are a few things you can do to get your hair back to health. 1st and formost do get as much of the damaged ends cut from a reputable stylist(Do the reseach). There are the most amazing clip on hair extenstions in human hair. If you are interesed I will tell you about them. They are a brilliant invention....look totally natural and you can let your hair grow back.

I highly reccommend using Kerastase shampoo and thair intensive conditioning treatment. You need to go to a salon that sells Kerestase in your area. They will tell you what to use on your hair.  Use a good ionic dryer set on low along with an ionic brush!!! This is really imortant! I have been using Bio-ionic for years and I swear by it. They make a travel size that is not as expensive. It is well worth the investment! Use a wide tooth comb and start from the bottom and work your way up. Stay away from flat irons for now. Do not rough up the cuticle of your hair when washing it use teped room temp water and try to keep the hair as smooth as possible from the time you wash it to the time it is combed. Do not wrap it in a towel...keep it smooth and treat it as if it was an expensive cashmere sweater!!! No baby shampoo! No hot water!!!! No color/no drugstore brand anything!