Sounds like he gets his real thrill from seeing long hair cut! Maybe the new gal seems more malleable. I'm glad for your sake that you refused. God bless, and better luck with future guys, Bob
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Okay its fine to be on cloud nine and want to please the new person in your life but what happens if your relationship ends at the end of the sixth month and you cut your hair? Will you resent cutting your hair? Make your own decisions in life. Feel comfortable with your decisions.
I love my long hair and I was in a three year relationship. He wanted me to cut my hair and I refused and guess what? He left after three years because the male was so in love with his ex-wife that he couldn't leave those thoughts and move on in life and we broke up eventhough we were getting married. His ex-wife was a long hair woman that cut her hair to please him and the marriage didn't last eventhought she tried to please him for 20 years. Then last summer he reappeared in my life after a year of separation and the relationship only lasted two weeks and he went back to his so called girlfriend that supposely gets drunk and calls him all hours of the night and guess what? The egyptian girlfriend happens to also be a long hair woman hummmmmmmmm
So for someone that cares for short hair it seems to me that he seems to pick the wrong women.
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Christine, don't do anything you're not comfortable with. Guys come & go, you're stuck w/your hair for life! If you cut your hair short & hate it, then what? And if this thing w/your boyfriend is long term, then he must love you for who you are inside, not what you look like.
Don't let anyone, male or female, talk you into something you don't want to do or try to control you. You are who you are, and if he doesn't like it it's time to dump his a$$ before he has you doing something REALLY weird.
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As a man I also prefer short hair on women. Mostly bob styles although a cap cut, like Demi Moore had in "Ghost", looks good on the right woman. Several years ago my wife had her mid-back hair cut into a bob and has never gone back. We often have our hair cut at the same shop so I can watch. We both find it great foreplay; anything to add spice after 15 years of marriage. My advise is talk to him about his feelings. Men are often very guarded about these feelings if he does have a fetish you can bring him out of his shell. Who knows, you may prefer the easy care of short hair.
Don't do it!! Especially in one full sweep and definately don't let HIM do it.Why don't you tell him you like men with shaved chests or privates and see if he'll let you do it? That way you'll see where he stands when presented with a similar proposition.I seriously think you'd regret it. My husband is the EXACT opposite. He can tell when I trim an inch off of my butt-length hair. If we divorce, it'll be because I cut my hair. I love it too and it is much more versital. I used to have a boy cut when I was 16. It was much more work to keep styled -- dealing with curling irons, hair parting where it shouldn't, etc.Put your hair up for him as a compromise. It has the look without the commitment. Ask yourself how you would feel about it if you broke up two weeks later.
> I have been dating this guy for about 4 months now and> he admitted to me last night that he prefers girls> with much shorter hair.> When I asked him about cutting my hair he said yes.> My hair is bra length now but he wants me to cut it> quite short, pixie like.> I've never had hair that short before so I am not> sure.> To make things even harder for me to agree is that he> wants to cut it.> Has anyone else had a thing like this happen to them,> and if so how did you handle it.> Every time I look in the mirror now I keep picturing> myself with short hair. I want to go short sometime> but I don't know if I'm ready for such a change yet.> Do any other of you girls let their boyfriend cut> their hair. If so what do you think about it.> Christine G._____________Christine,Here is another view from a guy - though similar response.We have been married for 14 happy years. When I was dating my wife to be, she had waist length hair and was afraid to go to the barber (she trimmed it herself - 1/4"). I offered to do it and in stages started to go shorter. This was easier on her then a drastic change. I usually started with 2" at a time. I cut it about once a month - this eventually got it to chin length. To make a long story short (no pun intended) she now wears it in a short crop style, which I cut (we both find it exciting to do each others hair)She also does not want to go long again - she likes the look and ease of it. If you are hesitant, I would suggest going in stages. If you are a daring type, go for it! You have to try though, otherwise you may be missing something you would really enjoy! Good Luck to both of y'all.
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I've kinda had the same thing happen to me. I have been dating a guy for about nine months now and I have wanted pixie short hair for a long time and I mention it to him one day and he was so excited. He confessed to me that he thought short haired women were so confident and sexy and that made me feel pretty good, so after a sleepless night or to I did it and came with me and I can tell that he does in fact like my hair better this short way. He wasn't just being supportive he was honest too. But even before this he had cut my hair, just trimmed an inch off for me abd he did a really good job and I trust him, but it depends on the person I think and when it comes to doing something so life changing for a woman such as cut her hair off, I think some homework should be done so you end up with the perfect cut for you, so I would suggest to go to a stylist but bring your sweetheart along :) hope I helped some._erin
I'll give you some comments about this from the perspective of a guy who shares this little fetish. I'll comment intermixed with Christine's original message:> I have been dating this guy for about 4 months now and> he admitted to me last night that he prefers girls> with much shorter hair.It takes a while to get up the courage to admit this. I was in my mid-20's before I *ever* admitted to a girlfriend about this fetish. Over time, I was able to tell them earlier in the relationship. I had been involved with my current lover for a week or so when I sprung it on her. We just celebrated our tenth anniversary. (Three kids, house in the 'burbs, the whole drill!)> When I asked him about cutting my hair he said yes.> My hair is bra length now but he wants me to cut it> quite short, pixie like.> I've never had hair that short before so I am not> sure.> To make things even harder for me to agree is that he> wants to cut it.> Has anyone else had a thing like this happen to them,> and if so how did you handle it.Yes, my wife had this happen to her. I cut her bra-length hair just above her shoulders when we were dating. A few weeks after our wedding, I cut her shoulder length hair in a short pixie. After child #1, her then bra length hair went to chin length.After child # 2 shoulder length back to pixie.Just a few months ago, bra length to just past shoulder length.In each case, she has gone the next day to a salon where she's never been (wearing a hat!) and gets it fixed.The only thing more nuts than letting me do it the first time was the three times after that!> Every time I look in the mirror now I keep picturing> myself with short hair. I want to go short sometime> but I don't know if I'm ready for such a change yet.If you don't know, you aren't ready. Period. When you are ready, it'll be obvious to you. It may be tomorrow, or it may never be.> Do any other of you girls let their boyfriend cut> their hair. If so what do you think about it.> Christine G.I don't know about your boyfriend, but my interest isn't in short hair anyway, it is in the transition. If and when you decide that you are ready, if you don't want him to do it, ask him what his second choice is. I have been begging for years for my wife to let me take her to a barber shop instead of a salon. No dice. She'll let *me* do it, but won't set foot in a barbershop. Maybe he'd enjoy that. Or a playacting scene... he takes you to a salon and you tell them that you lost a bet and have to get your hair cut however he wants it.Playacting, by the way, is good powerful fun. During intimate times, we will act out or tell each other stories, from very realistic ones to wild fantasies. (Imagine yourself in the Holo-deck from Star Trek, and go from there...) Since you can't get a radically different haircut every week, this can allow interaction on the subject on the years [;~)] where you don't get to live out any fantasies.My final $.02: I personally am obsessed with this, and have been for 25 years (what do you think I'm doing on a hair board anyway?). If you're going to have a relationship with him, he is going to think about it. Instead of letting him stew about it, talk about it together, and it will help you to understand his perspective. That will eventually tell you how much of this may be manipulation and how much of it may be something like my wife and I have experienced, where we have allowed this to be a very central aspect of our sexual relationship, but something that does not dominate our emotional bonds.Good luck!David
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