Congrats to Maria on your upcoming wedding. And congrats to the rest of you for your recent weddings.
I have watched this phenomena not only with newlyweds but with new moms. I think it is something to do with image and comfort zones. Before a woman is married she may feel that she is still in the courting zone and trying to look differently as a result and willing to take more time growing her hair. After the wedding she may feel like she is changing her image from single to married lady and may feel that a hair change will accomplish this. Think about how the various talk shows use a radical haircut to symbolize a major life change or a makeover. So I think there is that societal undertone about making hair changes after big events like marriage, divorce, babies, new jobs...etc etc. It definitely seems to happen a lot though.
Great topic.
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Who knows. Your idea is as good as mine. I was married 2 years ago, and I'm still growing my hair out. PrincessMonica was married recently, too. And she's still on the grow.
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i will be married for a year on the 26th this month. as supergrover said i'm still growing my hair. it's all most to my waist when it's curls on it's own. if i get it flat iron it's a little past my waist. i have no intention on cutting it. except for my trims to keep it healthy. i like my hair long
I'm getting married on Sat. May 24th so it is interesting that this topic comes up(at least for me).
I agree with much of what has been said. Newlywed women often get their hair cut short early in their marriage. Women also often go and get a short haircut after ending a relationship, a new beginning of sorts as uzma mentioned. And short hair can be just as much work as long hair depending on the style, although my hair is cut so short it really isn't much work.
I got my haircut short, oh it must be close to a year and a half ago now, and it was after I broke up with a guy and I felt a little broke up and emotional. He liked me with long hair but after the relationship ended I went from waist length hair to a bob cut and then a few weeks later went back to the beauty salon and got a short pixie cut and then a few weeks later an even shorter pixie cut, the length I wear it now. it was like I couldn't quit cutting my hair! From 30 inches of hair to eventually 1 to 1 1/2 inches of hair in a two month period!
A few weeks after I got my hair cut very short, a little over a year ago, I met the guy I'm with now. Unlike the previous guy, my fiancee loves me in my short hair so the hairstyle change worked out. Plus I love this guy and he is much easier to get along with and more understanding of me, and we love each other, so it worked out for the best.
Getting a short hair style or changing the color of your hair, I think more than anything else, suggests wanting a new start or a fresh start. Also it's just a fashion change and women love fashion.
People also sometimes get haircuts to make themselves feel better.
For example, some brides could say "Oh, I looked forward to that wedding all my life, and I planned it for a year and I was so excited and now it's all over. Whatever will I do. I guess I'll go get a haircut/makeover." You know, the Bridezilla types.
Or, similarly: "Why did I get married? What was I thinking? I don't know what to do. I guess I'll get a haircut/makeover. Take it all off!"
Who knows. Your idea is as good as mine. I was married 2 years ago, and I'm still growing my hair out. PrincessMonica was married recently, too. And she's still on the grow.
Traci
"Hair is a part of you. It is not a part of me, because I am a frog." - Kermit the Frog on Sesame Street1b/N/ii ~ ??"/27"/32"
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Interesting... I noticed that too. Not necessarily with brides, but with women in long term relationships in general. And with young mothers, of course.
You could of course say that women feel free to do whatever they want with their hair at that point. They've got their man, he's a keeper, so they have no need to keep the long hair they subconciously think got them the guy. Just a theory though, I'm sure many of you disagree. I'm not sure I do myself.
And yes, I absolutely believe short hair often takes more time to style than long hair, so women who cut their hair because of convenience are kidding themselves in my opinion. Doesn't go for all short styles of course.
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Speaking to my friend who have done this, they say that they want to "look like princesses" on their wedding day but after that the fantasy is over and it's down to practicality: work, children, etc are just not compatible (they say) with long hair.
I argue that they spend more time styling and managing short hair than they would long hair. Logically they agree, but I detect from deeper conversations that there is an element of marking a rite of passage involves with the cutting of hair after the wedding. Just as a lot of women cut their hair off after a relationship is over.
Jennifer Aniston did it and Gwen Stefani did it. Many of my friends have also done it. Why is it that women seem to have the need to chop off their hair right after their weddings? Is it an image thing or is it a freedom thing or just to eliminate taking care of longer hair?
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