trying to get g/f to take the plunge

HI, I guess you could say i have a hair fetish and i like long hair but i enjoy cutting it the most and my girlfriend has waist length blonde hair and i was wondering if there was anyway to try and convince her to get her hair cut shorter ( to chin length bob or shorter) and do you have any suggestions to helping me convince her to cut her hair? thanks in advance

Definitely don't approach it in a way that could even remotely be seen as creepy or fetishy, at first. Just start off by maybe pointing out a short-haired celeb you find attractive, and saying you think her hair is really nice. If you can do it in a gentle, non-frightening way, you might even suggest your girlfriend might look good in a similar style. If nothing else, she'll know what you like and a dialogue can be opened about it, so you'll each know where the other stands on the topic. But if she's not interested, you really shouldn't try to pressure or force her. If she thinks you're trying to control her hairstyle she's likely to resent you.

As someone that had long hair for a long time I can probably relate to your girlfriend. There are a lot of people who seem to think they have the right to tell you what you should and should not do with your hair. When your hair is short they tell you that you should grow it out. When it is really long they tell you that you should cut it, "get it styled" (implying that long hair has no style), "update your look" (implying long hair is out of date) etc. It gets really annoying. If her hair is really long then I'm certain she has heard plenty of these subtle and not so subtle hints before and resisted them. She will see through your subtle hints as well.

Our hair is a part of us and what we do with it is very personal. Respect that. First find out what she likes about long hair. Does she particularly like her hair long or just hate getting it cut? Has she ever had shorter hair and if so, what did she think of it then? Answers to these questions will tell you how you might approach the subject.

You might first try to appreciate her long hair before you try to lop it off. Try to understand her as she is before you try to change her. I'm guessing you don't because you are asking us (a bunch of strangers) instead of her.

I don't mean this to sound as harsh as it probably does. If you have a hair fetish so be it. We all have our things that turn us on. But don't let that overshadow getting to know her as a person and not a head of hair to fulfill your fantasies.

Bronnie

don't force her if she doesn't want to, some people who go from long to short soon start to miss their long hair. Ask her, if she doesn't want to then let it go

I agree with Jasmine, it is ok to be honest about your likes and dislikes.

One thing though, when you mention to her how you like short hair on women, mention it casually during conversation, like if you like short black dresses on a lady you might say,"Doesn't that woman look great in that short black dress! Gee I really like it when women wear short black skirts or dresses, I really think it is a sexy style!" You know, you could say to her if you are driving down the street and you see a woman with a cute short hairstyle just say to her,"Wow, that sure is a cute look on that woman! I really love cute short hairstyles on women. They look so pretty and sexy in those sorts of short haircuts!" You know, don't confront her, but let her know through conversation that you like those hairstyles on women.

No one needs therapy if they have a short hair or long hair fetish. It is harmless, it isn't something destructive like a rapist or pedophilia. And we all have our fetishes or preferences. That's life. Should we all go to therapy? That's absurd.

I still think you should just mention to her, just in a passing conversation, that you love short hair on women.
Sooner or later most women try a short hairstyle anyway. Most of the women I know have tried a short hairstyle.

If you have always been attracted to short haired women, why did you start up a relationship with a long haired woman? It is nice that you looked beyond appearance and I'm sure you are compatable in other ways, but it doesn't seem fair to expect her to change for you. Most women who grow out their hair that long are doing it by preference, so I'd be surprised if she suddenly changed her mind. It doesn't hurt to suggest it, but don't be surprised if she rejects the idea or is even offended. Make sure to remind her that you think she looks beautiful either way.