How can I tame very curly hair?

I have very curly hair just below shoulder length just like the girl on Ally McBeal.Each strand of hair is unique and very wavy. I have been using all of the following:Shampoo-Redken dry hair,Aveda Shampure,Ouidad&Infusium, Kiehl Castille.Conditioner-Redken dry hair,Aveda Curlessence,Mermade,Kiehl,Ouidad Balancing Rinse(just started).Deep Conditioner-Redken Masque dry hair,Aveda Cherry Bark&Deep Revitalizing,Mermade by Loreal,Ouidad(just started,Kiehl Masque.Styling-Ouidad TressF/X,gel&shine, Infusium,Aveda Styling Curlessence&Elixer,Kiehl Leavein& Silk.Expensive products! Infusium is the one that works best.Must use that with whatever else I use or I get FRIZZY&WILD.Infusium,as MANY of these products,have SILICONE&my hair is now very dry.I want to stopthe silicone What shamp,cond,deepcond,leavein,&styling prod to use?HELP

Thanks for the tips Wings. You say to wash and condition my hair every other day, however, I need to wash it at night to remove all the products I put on in the morning and to get rid of the knots that form on my shoulder length hair in the back of my neck. Otherwise the next morning I have the worst knots imaginable and I can't get rid of them without breaking my hair. So I wash it at night and then in the morning I need to wet it again to re-detangle it and to style it. I know all this water is bad for my hair but what are my choices? The gel as a styling tool alone is not enough. I need a leave-in and another styling product.

Wendy,Washing your hair everday is not death!! When you wet it in the morning, condition it. This will help!As far as styling products go, I would go with what you need, but try to get the ones that have the least chemicals. I have found that gel and leave in conditioner work wonders, along with a little hair spray:)You might try this site for product suggestions and other tips.Other than that, enjoy your hair!!If I can be of further help to you, let me know!!